Every day in every way we are manifesting the reality of the life that we see around us. Whether we know it or not, whether we like it or not, everything in our life is created by what we think, say, and do.
I believe that people can learn to manifest the life of their dreams with ease, I have come to realize that there are 10 keys that consistently make a difference in successfully and joyfully creating in an effortless flow.
An important foundation to becoming a conscious creator is to recognize that it all begins within you. Your thoughts create your emotions, your emotions lead to the actions you take, and the actions you take effect the results that you see in your life.
Another essential idea is to realize that you do NOT have to do this alone! Our lives are designed to work in harmony, like a symphony, with the powerful creative forces of the Universe that are literally standing by to delight and excite us! As you become clear on what you choose, set your intentions, focus your attention, visualize what you choose as if it has already occurred, expect your desires to be full and fulfilled, express gratitude, and move forward to take the appropriate actions in your life, you are forever free from the habits of worry, doubt, and fear.
When you tap into the power of the Universe to support and assist you in creating the life of your dreams, you almost immediately begin to experience the magic and the miracles of life and living!
Make a commitment each day to your great wealth and success, and living a life that is full of rich, wonderful, loving, fun, healthy, abundant experiences!
Here are 10 keys that will support you in consciously creating the life you love to live:
1. Choose a Higher Power that absolutely and completely LOVES and ADORES you, that always has your best interests at heart, and that wants you to enjoy all the riches of this life.
2. Choose powerfully and positively to create a road map for your success. Create a vivid vision of what you choose to move towards, rather than what you want to move away from. Be definite, clear, and specific.
3. Maintain a prosperity consciousness each and every day. Do not allow thoughts of lack, limitation, or competition to enter into your mind. Allow only the truth that there is limitless abundance in the Universe for everyone, including you!
4. Create and reinforce powerful, positive, supportive beliefs every day in what you think, say, and do.
5. Stay focused on your vision of what you know to be the truth. What you focus on expands. Where you place your attention is where you set your intention.
6. When you choose a financial truth, always state “at least” or “or more”. For example, “I am now earning $10,000 or more each month in passive income.” When you choose a material truth, always say “or better”. For example, “I am now driving my cherry red Mercedes-Benz 500SL with cream-colored interior or better”. Stay open to the limitless abundance of the Universe!
7. Be open to receiving in every area of your life. Expect the gifts, the miracles, and the magic. Expand and open more to joy, love and abundance.
8. Indulge yourself in gratitude for every thing in your life.
Every experience, every relationship, every penny in the street is a gift. Acknowledge the gifts and the blessings that are showered on you each and every day.
9. Be generous with yourself and others! What you give is always returned to you multiplied, and this is a confirmation to the Universe that you are ready, willing and able to receive.
10. Be present for the present. When you’re in the past, you’re in guilt and regret. When you’re in the future, you’re in fear. When you’re present in the present, you have the choice to create limitless wealth and abundance.
Thursday, August 20, 2009
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Keep Your Eye On The Ball
I was wondering last night if we could get a glimpse five years or ten years in the future how many of us would actually do it…how many of us would jump through time just to see where we would be five or ten years from now. I would not do it. There are a lot of reasons why I would not do it, fear being top of the list, not fear of disappointment, it would be more fear that someone I love would not be there, fear of shock, there is a reason why things work the way they do…to protect us from the things we could not handle emotionally.
These scientists experimenting with Cryogenics, are doing this with the idea that some terminally ill patients would choose to be frozen and suspended in time until there is a cure for whatever terminal illness they have is found. Think about it, that could be 5 years or 45 years, who in their right mind would do that? In my opinion it would have to be a very selfish person, one who did not care about a loved ones pain, to me if the person I loved was frozen in time and I knew I might not be here when they thaw they would basically be asking me to live a life of pain greater than if they had just succumbed to their illness naturally.
I think what scientists fail to realize, other than what a horrific waste of research money it is, is that the person once re-entering into their lives most likely would not survive anyway, the stress of returning and coping with the changes in their lives would be more than most could bare. See their emotions would not have gradually accepted the things that have occurred while they were gone, their emotional attachments would have remained exactly as they were the day they were cryogentically preserved, (not sure preserved is the right word) they would be jumping ahead…into the future…and would be required to emotionally cope with anything and everything that may have occurred in the meantime, and most people could not do this, just as we would not be able to cope should we be shown our life five, ten or twenty five years ahead.
Guys I have some friends who live just outside of Atlanta Georgia, and to say that they are baseball fanatics would be like saying ice is not really all that cold, they are baseball lunatics, years ago they invited me to visit, and attend a Braves Game, it’s really not a bad drive, Georgia is just on the other side of Nashville, I don’t recall the reason now, but I declined well they did not speak to me for about a year afterwards because unbeknown st to me I had committed a cardinal sin. But I have been to several games since my sin. I have to say, I’m not really a big fan of Baseball, but I do understand the game, and since I have been to a few games I have learned a little more but I guess more than anything I enjoyed the Americana of the whole thing, and some of the theatrics, my friends with their war paint and huge foam hatchets.
We have all heard the expression keep your eye on the ball…
In a way this is looking ahead…the future is coming at you at around 89-90 miles an hour, the play will arrive in 20 some odd mil la seconds. The thing that I always found amazing is that every player on the field is watching the ball, except one, and that is the pitcher, the pitcher is watching the bat, when you think about it, he owns the pitch, it’s his he knows how fast he threw the ball, and how he threw the ball, and that pitches destiny lies in the bat, but amazingly everyone else is watching the ball, now think about this the play being in the future is arriving in 24 mil la seconds, guys that’s freaking fast, yet they keep their eyes on that ball and as that ball travels they are beginning to imagine the play, even though it’s happening in the blink of an eye, those guys start moving on the field prior to the crack of the bat, and what’s even more amazing if you pay close attention those who are moving are not only moving in the right direction, they are the only ones moving at all, the whole thing is amazing, so for all practical purposes they are looking into the future, and accessing the ball movement at such an incredible speed that they are 24.9 mil la seconds ahead of the ball, that’s virtually processing information at lightening speed, .9 mil la seconds ahead, visualizing the path of the ball.
Guys, none of us would jump ahead into the future to check things out, because we couldn't’t cope with what was waiting for us, but we could project .9 mil la seconds ahead, without fear, and be just ahead of the game of life, just a fraction into the future, yet still remain in total control of what’s happening.
There are two ways to approach your future outcomes,one by being in the outfield, and keeping your eye on the ball, which would be thrown by someone else, your partner your friend your child may very well be the pitcher, but you are playing the game as well, and anticipating the outcome as it affects you, the other way is to keep your eye on the bat, where as you are the pitcher and the bat is about to determine the destiny of your pitch, Setting goals and asserting control of the direction of your life, and for what you want in the future is similar to a baseball game, by keeping your eye on the ball and learning to stay one mil la second ahead of the ball, you are going to have total control over the outcome, because your going to be able to anticipate the play, the direction in which your life is heading and effectively see the future from a very safe distance of .9 mil la seconds.
These scientists experimenting with Cryogenics, are doing this with the idea that some terminally ill patients would choose to be frozen and suspended in time until there is a cure for whatever terminal illness they have is found. Think about it, that could be 5 years or 45 years, who in their right mind would do that? In my opinion it would have to be a very selfish person, one who did not care about a loved ones pain, to me if the person I loved was frozen in time and I knew I might not be here when they thaw they would basically be asking me to live a life of pain greater than if they had just succumbed to their illness naturally.
I think what scientists fail to realize, other than what a horrific waste of research money it is, is that the person once re-entering into their lives most likely would not survive anyway, the stress of returning and coping with the changes in their lives would be more than most could bare. See their emotions would not have gradually accepted the things that have occurred while they were gone, their emotional attachments would have remained exactly as they were the day they were cryogentically preserved, (not sure preserved is the right word) they would be jumping ahead…into the future…and would be required to emotionally cope with anything and everything that may have occurred in the meantime, and most people could not do this, just as we would not be able to cope should we be shown our life five, ten or twenty five years ahead.
Guys I have some friends who live just outside of Atlanta Georgia, and to say that they are baseball fanatics would be like saying ice is not really all that cold, they are baseball lunatics, years ago they invited me to visit, and attend a Braves Game, it’s really not a bad drive, Georgia is just on the other side of Nashville, I don’t recall the reason now, but I declined well they did not speak to me for about a year afterwards because unbeknown st to me I had committed a cardinal sin. But I have been to several games since my sin. I have to say, I’m not really a big fan of Baseball, but I do understand the game, and since I have been to a few games I have learned a little more but I guess more than anything I enjoyed the Americana of the whole thing, and some of the theatrics, my friends with their war paint and huge foam hatchets.
We have all heard the expression keep your eye on the ball…
In a way this is looking ahead…the future is coming at you at around 89-90 miles an hour, the play will arrive in 20 some odd mil la seconds. The thing that I always found amazing is that every player on the field is watching the ball, except one, and that is the pitcher, the pitcher is watching the bat, when you think about it, he owns the pitch, it’s his he knows how fast he threw the ball, and how he threw the ball, and that pitches destiny lies in the bat, but amazingly everyone else is watching the ball, now think about this the play being in the future is arriving in 24 mil la seconds, guys that’s freaking fast, yet they keep their eyes on that ball and as that ball travels they are beginning to imagine the play, even though it’s happening in the blink of an eye, those guys start moving on the field prior to the crack of the bat, and what’s even more amazing if you pay close attention those who are moving are not only moving in the right direction, they are the only ones moving at all, the whole thing is amazing, so for all practical purposes they are looking into the future, and accessing the ball movement at such an incredible speed that they are 24.9 mil la seconds ahead of the ball, that’s virtually processing information at lightening speed, .9 mil la seconds ahead, visualizing the path of the ball.
Guys, none of us would jump ahead into the future to check things out, because we couldn't’t cope with what was waiting for us, but we could project .9 mil la seconds ahead, without fear, and be just ahead of the game of life, just a fraction into the future, yet still remain in total control of what’s happening.
There are two ways to approach your future outcomes,one by being in the outfield, and keeping your eye on the ball, which would be thrown by someone else, your partner your friend your child may very well be the pitcher, but you are playing the game as well, and anticipating the outcome as it affects you, the other way is to keep your eye on the bat, where as you are the pitcher and the bat is about to determine the destiny of your pitch, Setting goals and asserting control of the direction of your life, and for what you want in the future is similar to a baseball game, by keeping your eye on the ball and learning to stay one mil la second ahead of the ball, you are going to have total control over the outcome, because your going to be able to anticipate the play, the direction in which your life is heading and effectively see the future from a very safe distance of .9 mil la seconds.
Monday, May 4, 2009
The Story Of Stone Soup
The Story of Stone Soup
A fable which was written down by Marcia Brown in 1947; the story exists in many variations throughout the world. This one is said to be an old French story (sometimes it is said to be Russian), and is therefore not copyrighted.
Three soldiers trudged down a road in a strange country. they were on their way home from the wars. Besides being tired, they were hungry. In fact, they had eaten nothing for two days.
"How I would like a good dinner tonight," said the first. "And a bed to sleep in," added the second. "But that is impossible," said the third.
On they marched, until suddenly, ahead of them, they saw the lights of a village. "Maybe we'll find a bite to eat and a bed to sleep in," they thought.
Now the peasants of the place feared strangers. When they heard that three soldiers were coming down the road, they talked among themselves. "Here come three soldiers," they said. "Soldiers are always hungry. But we have so little for ourselves." And they hurried to hide their food. They hid the barley in hay lofts, carrots under quilts, and buckets of milk down the wells. They hid all they had to eat. Then they waited.
The soldiers stopped at the first house. "Good evening to you," they said. "Could you spare a bit of food for three hungry soldiers?" "We have no food for ourselves," the residents lied. "It has been a poor harvest.
"The soldiers went to the next house. "Could you spare a bit of food?" they asked. "And do you have a corner where we could sleep for the night?" "Oh, no," the man said. "We gave all we could spare to the soldiers who came before you." "And our beds are full," lied the woman.
At each house, the response was the same -- no one had food or a place for the soldiers to stay. The peasants had very good reasons, like feeding the sick and children. The villagers stood in the street and sighed. They looked as hungry as they could.The soldiers talked together. The first soldier called out, "Good people! We are three hungry soldiers in a strange land. We have asked you for food and you have no food. Well, we will have to make stone soup." The peasants stared.
The soldiers asked for a big iron pot, water to fill it, and a fire to heat it. "And now, if you please, three round smooth stones." The soldiers dropped the stones into the pot."Any soup needs salt and pepper," the first soldier said, so children ran to fetch salt and pepper."Stones make good soup, but carrots would make it so much better," the second soldier added. One woman said, "Why, I think I have a carrot or two!" She ran to get the carrots."A good stone soup should have some cabbage, but no use asking for what we don't have!" said the third soldier. Another woman said, "I think I can probably find some cabbage," and off she scurried."If only we had a bit of beef and some potatoes, this soup would be fit for a rich man's table." The peasants thought it over, then ran to fetch what they had hidden in their cellars. A rich man's soup, and all from a few stones! It seemed like magic!The soldiers said, "If only we had a bit of barley and some milk, this soup would be fit for a king!" And so the peasants managed to retrieve some barley and milk."The soup is ready," said the cooks, "and all will taste it, but first we need to set the tables." Tables and torches were set up in the square, and all sat down to eat. Some of the peasants said, "Such a great soup would be better with bread and cider," so they brought forth the last two items and the banquet was enjoyed by all. Never had there been such a feast. Never had the peasants tasted such delicious soup, and all made from stones! They ate and drank and danced well into the night.In the morning, the villagers gathered to say goodbye. "Many thanks to you," the people said, "for we shall never go hungry now that you have taught us how to make soup from stones.
In this version the story clearly indicates that what each villager had was all they had of the item that they contributed, and alone no one villager had the makings of a meal.
Everything we do, stems from our state of mind, worry, fear, depression ( with the exception of clinical depression) saddness, anger, and frustration are all a state of mind, and we all know that we can, at anytime we choose change our state of mind and at that point eliminate the existance of these emotions, either temporarily or permanently depending on what we choose, and how good we have become of thinking ourselves past these emotions.
I recently had a cause to make “Stone soup” after Madison’s teacher decided to share the story with her class. I can honestly say that at that time the only thing good about the soup, was that I knew it was a valuable life lesson that Madison had learned, and we decided to participate in that. The good thing is I had some degree of control over the ingredients, and it wasn’t so so bad.
In the villagers state of mind, they were living a life of scarcity, they felt they had nothing to share, with these outsiders, who were strangers, so they were going to horad or withdraw anything that they had to give or contribute.All the while each knowing they didn’t independantly have the means to make soup, or to have a hearty meal.
It wasn’t until they witnessed the soldiers determination to make something from nothing that they begin to realize that by giving what little they had, they were contributing to a feast worthy of a rich man.
They learned to make something from nothing, and they learned this based on the determination of others.
There are so many lessons, or morals contained in the story of stone soup.Lessons of Giving, sharing, contibuting, determination, gratitude, teamwork, and community support. The story of stone soup shows us how to come together to make something great. The final feast is made by all our individual contributions, and is better than what any of us could have made by ourselves. We can see from the story that the act of sharing itself brings a community together, and makes everyone's lives richer. It could also be said that Every Month a Million is such a community, a place that needs contributions from all types of people and places to become all that we would have it to be. Everyone who becomes involved, in whatever flavor they choose, will benefit from the products and community that are created because of it. Each of our efforts do make a difference, much the same as the story of stone soup.
A fable which was written down by Marcia Brown in 1947; the story exists in many variations throughout the world. This one is said to be an old French story (sometimes it is said to be Russian), and is therefore not copyrighted.
Three soldiers trudged down a road in a strange country. they were on their way home from the wars. Besides being tired, they were hungry. In fact, they had eaten nothing for two days.
"How I would like a good dinner tonight," said the first. "And a bed to sleep in," added the second. "But that is impossible," said the third.
On they marched, until suddenly, ahead of them, they saw the lights of a village. "Maybe we'll find a bite to eat and a bed to sleep in," they thought.
Now the peasants of the place feared strangers. When they heard that three soldiers were coming down the road, they talked among themselves. "Here come three soldiers," they said. "Soldiers are always hungry. But we have so little for ourselves." And they hurried to hide their food. They hid the barley in hay lofts, carrots under quilts, and buckets of milk down the wells. They hid all they had to eat. Then they waited.
The soldiers stopped at the first house. "Good evening to you," they said. "Could you spare a bit of food for three hungry soldiers?" "We have no food for ourselves," the residents lied. "It has been a poor harvest.
"The soldiers went to the next house. "Could you spare a bit of food?" they asked. "And do you have a corner where we could sleep for the night?" "Oh, no," the man said. "We gave all we could spare to the soldiers who came before you." "And our beds are full," lied the woman.
At each house, the response was the same -- no one had food or a place for the soldiers to stay. The peasants had very good reasons, like feeding the sick and children. The villagers stood in the street and sighed. They looked as hungry as they could.The soldiers talked together. The first soldier called out, "Good people! We are three hungry soldiers in a strange land. We have asked you for food and you have no food. Well, we will have to make stone soup." The peasants stared.
The soldiers asked for a big iron pot, water to fill it, and a fire to heat it. "And now, if you please, three round smooth stones." The soldiers dropped the stones into the pot."Any soup needs salt and pepper," the first soldier said, so children ran to fetch salt and pepper."Stones make good soup, but carrots would make it so much better," the second soldier added. One woman said, "Why, I think I have a carrot or two!" She ran to get the carrots."A good stone soup should have some cabbage, but no use asking for what we don't have!" said the third soldier. Another woman said, "I think I can probably find some cabbage," and off she scurried."If only we had a bit of beef and some potatoes, this soup would be fit for a rich man's table." The peasants thought it over, then ran to fetch what they had hidden in their cellars. A rich man's soup, and all from a few stones! It seemed like magic!The soldiers said, "If only we had a bit of barley and some milk, this soup would be fit for a king!" And so the peasants managed to retrieve some barley and milk."The soup is ready," said the cooks, "and all will taste it, but first we need to set the tables." Tables and torches were set up in the square, and all sat down to eat. Some of the peasants said, "Such a great soup would be better with bread and cider," so they brought forth the last two items and the banquet was enjoyed by all. Never had there been such a feast. Never had the peasants tasted such delicious soup, and all made from stones! They ate and drank and danced well into the night.In the morning, the villagers gathered to say goodbye. "Many thanks to you," the people said, "for we shall never go hungry now that you have taught us how to make soup from stones.
In this version the story clearly indicates that what each villager had was all they had of the item that they contributed, and alone no one villager had the makings of a meal.
Everything we do, stems from our state of mind, worry, fear, depression ( with the exception of clinical depression) saddness, anger, and frustration are all a state of mind, and we all know that we can, at anytime we choose change our state of mind and at that point eliminate the existance of these emotions, either temporarily or permanently depending on what we choose, and how good we have become of thinking ourselves past these emotions.
I recently had a cause to make “Stone soup” after Madison’s teacher decided to share the story with her class. I can honestly say that at that time the only thing good about the soup, was that I knew it was a valuable life lesson that Madison had learned, and we decided to participate in that. The good thing is I had some degree of control over the ingredients, and it wasn’t so so bad.
In the villagers state of mind, they were living a life of scarcity, they felt they had nothing to share, with these outsiders, who were strangers, so they were going to horad or withdraw anything that they had to give or contribute.All the while each knowing they didn’t independantly have the means to make soup, or to have a hearty meal.
It wasn’t until they witnessed the soldiers determination to make something from nothing that they begin to realize that by giving what little they had, they were contributing to a feast worthy of a rich man.
They learned to make something from nothing, and they learned this based on the determination of others.
There are so many lessons, or morals contained in the story of stone soup.Lessons of Giving, sharing, contibuting, determination, gratitude, teamwork, and community support. The story of stone soup shows us how to come together to make something great. The final feast is made by all our individual contributions, and is better than what any of us could have made by ourselves. We can see from the story that the act of sharing itself brings a community together, and makes everyone's lives richer. It could also be said that Every Month a Million is such a community, a place that needs contributions from all types of people and places to become all that we would have it to be. Everyone who becomes involved, in whatever flavor they choose, will benefit from the products and community that are created because of it. Each of our efforts do make a difference, much the same as the story of stone soup.
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
Finding Neverland
Last night I was doing some reading, and I came across a letter. When I read, I’m reading to learn, and in alot of cases to grow as a person.I really contemplate what I’m reading, and whether or not it applies in my life, and if I can learn anything from it. I have always thought myself to be very open and honest with my kids, but I learned last night, that perhaps I have not been so honest. We don’t lie to our children, but we do hide things from them that might cause them to see us as less than perfect. Perhaps in order to maintain our credibility,perhaps to keep from being wounded should they draw a negative opinion of us, who knows why.
As I was reading last night I came across a letter written by a father to his son, and I want to share it with you today this letter moved me in such a way that I will never forget it. This is a letter of courage, and it goes far beyond honesty
Finding neverland
This was written for a Son and then the understanding that it was written also for the writer, for the neighbor and for anyone who has wondered. It was written for all of us who have experienced regret, loss or the pursuit of something not really known. It is for all of us that it is posted here. It is for all of us who believe that some things in our lives need to be discovered or found. It is for all of us who know loss, know suffering, know pain but also for those who have lived the opposite. It is for all of us who are sad and for all of us who are happy.and the letter says...
I wish that I was a better father. I wish that I could have been a better Dad to you and am so sorry that I was not. It is my hope that these words that I write to you now are taken inside your heart. Only through understanding will you give yourself a good life. Without delving into my past let's look at all people, all over the world but especially here in this country. Most of us learn too late the lessons of what is eventually a very short life. We look to other things to make us feel. We look to other things to make us believe in ourselves and then in a great moment of hindsight discover that these are the things that blinded us to begin with. It is the reason many of the elders in this country express regret for their lives, including your dad.People talk all the time about wanting to be happy. People have said that they want to find peace and happiness. This is the first of many deceptions. These are deceptions that I have engaged in as well. I have spent many years like so many others looking for that happiness and only recently found that happiness is not something that you can find . . . it is or it is not. It’s so very simple that the realization escapes so many of us until it is far too late and we find that what we had all along we wasted trying to find it.Many of us - - - all of us experience sadness and depression. Sometimes it is something genetic. Sometimes it is something that we live as a choice. We choose to blind ourselves to what we have and instead look at the outside world and our lives as the cause of this sadness. It's okay to be sad, it's okay to be depressed but not to be either without reason. When we are doing something that we enjoy, feeling the touch of a loved one or the joy of a first warm spring day after a cold and dark winter sadness and depression are last on the list. We've put those thoughts and feelings into a locker in our hearts. These feelings do not even enter reality when these and many other times like it happen. And then there are the other times when we allow those feelings to gain a foothold, sometimes that foothold will become a mountain that eventually we refuse to scale. We lose those thoughts of the touch of a loved one or of that warm spring day or jumping into the ocean to play in the waves. We feel as though life has no purpose and fall into a tradition of doing things by the numbers. We wake, eat, go to work. We come home driving as quickly as possible to eat dinner and then spend our evenings in front of a television or completing mundane everyday tasks till the time comes to once again set the alarm for another day exactly like the day before. And as sad as this sounds it is also necessary, it is necessary to eat, to sleep and to find some solice in the comforts that we are allowed. We need to be productive, to work so that we can eat, live and buy that alarm clock so that we can do it all over again. We are given time off of our jobs on weekends when we try to shove all kinds of happiness into one or two short days where many follow the same path as they do at their jobs and at home only they replace the "things" they do with "things" they do that they feel bring them happiness or make it easier not to be sad.Yet, this and all these "things" are nothing but illusions. If they were not then these moments of sadness and moments of happiness would never need a gauge. They would never need to be scaled among all the other things in our lives.You cannot, nor can anyone else find happiness. Happiness is not lost, it is not a goal, it is not a lost treasure. It is a state of being. It is unfortunately a choice that many do not choose. They would rather say for decades that they have to find it. That it's lost and we've not found the road map to get to the destination. Being happy is just that. It is being happy. We surround ourselves with things that we think at the time will enhance that feeling. But like a new car after that new car smell wears off it is just a car. This is how many of us view happiness, as some time controlled thing that appears and disappears at random depending on the things that we have.There are only two facts about human life. The first is that you and others like you and I were born. That in whatever way and form we exist. The second fact is that human life ends in death and that time between in not determined. There is no absolute guarantee that tomorrow will offer the same opportunities as today. Those of us that have witnessed death personally with a death in the family most times fail to see the grace in the time we get on the earth. Those of us who have witnessed death of a comrade in arms in war sometimes forget the grace of life that was granted when others around them have fallen. Some of us finally learn that our lives are entirely up to us. We fail to see that this is the way it is from the very moment we are able to choose. Some of us never learn till that moment when we know we are taking that last breath. I believe in that moment the feeling that we have most is regret. I believe in that moment that we truly understand the concepts of could have, should have and would have. I believe that at this moment people wish for a second chance.You know from living with me since you were little that I have lived most of my life unhappy. You know from living with me that I have had far too many moments of sadness. Languishing as I did in my little world and finding fault in so many things that I felt slighted on.All I can say now is shame on me, shame on me for believing that it was the plan of others to make me sad, shame on me for believing that others owed me happiness. It is not a permanent shame however son. It is a choice I no longer make. I can certainly be unhappy if I choose to believe the illusions of life. But I choose now to look at what I do have. I have many things that more people than not, don't have. I can walk on my own legs and have all my capacities of sight, hearing, speech and smell. I have all my extremities and have the use of them. I can eat and eat well. I can go to the bathroom and have a fantastic ability to turn a switch to get light and heat. I can see the sunshine and know by the smell in the air that winter is now long gone for another year. I can express my thoughts. I have a computer and you would be very surprised to find out how many do not. I can make myself a cup of tea and relax in front of the television and watch a movie that I choose. I have these and so many other things. Others have far more this is true and many, many more have far less. I do know that this is not the best situation that I could have right now but am happy that I could have far less. I am somewhat sad that I want to move forward but not sad in knowing that I have made a choice to be here for the now. If I awake tomorrow the choice may change and my options along with it.You, I and everyone else are granted these choices as all on this planet we given life through birth. Today many that were alive yesterday are not today. Their choice has been removed by the only other fact about life, death.We own nothing in this life not even life itself. We borrow and use it for a short time. Houses that we own will eventually be owned by someone else doing what we were doing. Material possession eventually breaks, rots and disappears. These are the illusions we surround ourselves with. Remember happiness is not an illusion, it is not tangible, it is something that you either want to be or do not want to be. It is not a road that you have to travel nor is it a goal that you strive for. It simply is.I will hope that you can take this to heart and mind. I will hope that you will understand that you will be rather than not. I will hope that you can truly understand that it's okay sometimes to be sad but being sad for the right reason, not for the act of sadness.I will hope that this letter finds you smiling if only knowing that here today the wind is blowing and even though spring is a short moment away it feels like winter does not want to let go. I will hope that you can understand how much time I have wasted looking for happiness and truly learned to understand it's not something that's lost, hence it is not to be found. It simply is a state of mind, a state of being.I have squandered many given gifts, I have taken advantage of time, been selfish about spending time with those I care for. I have done some really crappy things. But I also can smile for the legacy that I leave when it is my turn for that 2nd fact. I can smile because of you, your brothers and sisters. I can smile that despite that crappy past in certain ways I was still offered enormous gifts and one of the most special gifts was the day you became fact number one! I am honored to be able to say you are my son. I am humbled by the man you are becoming and the strength of will and intellect you possess. As time passes I have thought what could have been if I had chosen a different path but then none of you in this current form would be a part of life, of that first fact. If someone told me today I could go back in time and become Bill Gates' partner in forming Windows and Microsoft and that in my future I would be a multi-billionaire. That anything that is now would not be remembered. That I would never know you, as you would not exist I would refuse. I do know you! There is not a value of money or material things that would persuade me to choose this alternate path.Be happy, embrace the ability to read and write. Engage in life in all forms. Enjoy that moment when you first open your eyes to know that for that moment the second fact of this life has been eluded. Give to others of yourself because you can. Do what is, "just" knowing that it is the right thing to do, despite what others may feel or believe. Smile because you can, because you are healthy. When you live in this way many will not understand and will avoid you. They will not avoid you because there is something wrong with you! They do so because they live in that illusion. What you will find if you embrace this kind of spirit that there are others like you. They will see that you are healthy, not just physically but in all ways. When you enter into relationships with friends or significant others they will be long lasting rather than fleeting. You will leave an imprint with everyone you touch. For any soul this is an imprint that is the longest lasting and one that will offer others the opportunity to understand joy and a "just" life.I know I have probably rambled more than I should, more words that may have been needed but then you are my blood and I do know how much of a mallet it takes to knock an ideal into your skull.Know that I love you in more ways then a simple word can describe.DadAuthor's Bio I am just a person, hopefully a human being who can offer a "soap opera" of life experience to give others an option for change. Remember, anyone can show you other doorways. You would want to say "thank-you" for that when no thanks
As I was reading last night I came across a letter written by a father to his son, and I want to share it with you today this letter moved me in such a way that I will never forget it. This is a letter of courage, and it goes far beyond honesty
Finding neverland
This was written for a Son and then the understanding that it was written also for the writer, for the neighbor and for anyone who has wondered. It was written for all of us who have experienced regret, loss or the pursuit of something not really known. It is for all of us that it is posted here. It is for all of us who believe that some things in our lives need to be discovered or found. It is for all of us who know loss, know suffering, know pain but also for those who have lived the opposite. It is for all of us who are sad and for all of us who are happy.and the letter says...
I wish that I was a better father. I wish that I could have been a better Dad to you and am so sorry that I was not. It is my hope that these words that I write to you now are taken inside your heart. Only through understanding will you give yourself a good life. Without delving into my past let's look at all people, all over the world but especially here in this country. Most of us learn too late the lessons of what is eventually a very short life. We look to other things to make us feel. We look to other things to make us believe in ourselves and then in a great moment of hindsight discover that these are the things that blinded us to begin with. It is the reason many of the elders in this country express regret for their lives, including your dad.People talk all the time about wanting to be happy. People have said that they want to find peace and happiness. This is the first of many deceptions. These are deceptions that I have engaged in as well. I have spent many years like so many others looking for that happiness and only recently found that happiness is not something that you can find . . . it is or it is not. It’s so very simple that the realization escapes so many of us until it is far too late and we find that what we had all along we wasted trying to find it.Many of us - - - all of us experience sadness and depression. Sometimes it is something genetic. Sometimes it is something that we live as a choice. We choose to blind ourselves to what we have and instead look at the outside world and our lives as the cause of this sadness. It's okay to be sad, it's okay to be depressed but not to be either without reason. When we are doing something that we enjoy, feeling the touch of a loved one or the joy of a first warm spring day after a cold and dark winter sadness and depression are last on the list. We've put those thoughts and feelings into a locker in our hearts. These feelings do not even enter reality when these and many other times like it happen. And then there are the other times when we allow those feelings to gain a foothold, sometimes that foothold will become a mountain that eventually we refuse to scale. We lose those thoughts of the touch of a loved one or of that warm spring day or jumping into the ocean to play in the waves. We feel as though life has no purpose and fall into a tradition of doing things by the numbers. We wake, eat, go to work. We come home driving as quickly as possible to eat dinner and then spend our evenings in front of a television or completing mundane everyday tasks till the time comes to once again set the alarm for another day exactly like the day before. And as sad as this sounds it is also necessary, it is necessary to eat, to sleep and to find some solice in the comforts that we are allowed. We need to be productive, to work so that we can eat, live and buy that alarm clock so that we can do it all over again. We are given time off of our jobs on weekends when we try to shove all kinds of happiness into one or two short days where many follow the same path as they do at their jobs and at home only they replace the "things" they do with "things" they do that they feel bring them happiness or make it easier not to be sad.Yet, this and all these "things" are nothing but illusions. If they were not then these moments of sadness and moments of happiness would never need a gauge. They would never need to be scaled among all the other things in our lives.You cannot, nor can anyone else find happiness. Happiness is not lost, it is not a goal, it is not a lost treasure. It is a state of being. It is unfortunately a choice that many do not choose. They would rather say for decades that they have to find it. That it's lost and we've not found the road map to get to the destination. Being happy is just that. It is being happy. We surround ourselves with things that we think at the time will enhance that feeling. But like a new car after that new car smell wears off it is just a car. This is how many of us view happiness, as some time controlled thing that appears and disappears at random depending on the things that we have.There are only two facts about human life. The first is that you and others like you and I were born. That in whatever way and form we exist. The second fact is that human life ends in death and that time between in not determined. There is no absolute guarantee that tomorrow will offer the same opportunities as today. Those of us that have witnessed death personally with a death in the family most times fail to see the grace in the time we get on the earth. Those of us who have witnessed death of a comrade in arms in war sometimes forget the grace of life that was granted when others around them have fallen. Some of us finally learn that our lives are entirely up to us. We fail to see that this is the way it is from the very moment we are able to choose. Some of us never learn till that moment when we know we are taking that last breath. I believe in that moment the feeling that we have most is regret. I believe in that moment that we truly understand the concepts of could have, should have and would have. I believe that at this moment people wish for a second chance.You know from living with me since you were little that I have lived most of my life unhappy. You know from living with me that I have had far too many moments of sadness. Languishing as I did in my little world and finding fault in so many things that I felt slighted on.All I can say now is shame on me, shame on me for believing that it was the plan of others to make me sad, shame on me for believing that others owed me happiness. It is not a permanent shame however son. It is a choice I no longer make. I can certainly be unhappy if I choose to believe the illusions of life. But I choose now to look at what I do have. I have many things that more people than not, don't have. I can walk on my own legs and have all my capacities of sight, hearing, speech and smell. I have all my extremities and have the use of them. I can eat and eat well. I can go to the bathroom and have a fantastic ability to turn a switch to get light and heat. I can see the sunshine and know by the smell in the air that winter is now long gone for another year. I can express my thoughts. I have a computer and you would be very surprised to find out how many do not. I can make myself a cup of tea and relax in front of the television and watch a movie that I choose. I have these and so many other things. Others have far more this is true and many, many more have far less. I do know that this is not the best situation that I could have right now but am happy that I could have far less. I am somewhat sad that I want to move forward but not sad in knowing that I have made a choice to be here for the now. If I awake tomorrow the choice may change and my options along with it.You, I and everyone else are granted these choices as all on this planet we given life through birth. Today many that were alive yesterday are not today. Their choice has been removed by the only other fact about life, death.We own nothing in this life not even life itself. We borrow and use it for a short time. Houses that we own will eventually be owned by someone else doing what we were doing. Material possession eventually breaks, rots and disappears. These are the illusions we surround ourselves with. Remember happiness is not an illusion, it is not tangible, it is something that you either want to be or do not want to be. It is not a road that you have to travel nor is it a goal that you strive for. It simply is.I will hope that you can take this to heart and mind. I will hope that you will understand that you will be rather than not. I will hope that you can truly understand that it's okay sometimes to be sad but being sad for the right reason, not for the act of sadness.I will hope that this letter finds you smiling if only knowing that here today the wind is blowing and even though spring is a short moment away it feels like winter does not want to let go. I will hope that you can understand how much time I have wasted looking for happiness and truly learned to understand it's not something that's lost, hence it is not to be found. It simply is a state of mind, a state of being.I have squandered many given gifts, I have taken advantage of time, been selfish about spending time with those I care for. I have done some really crappy things. But I also can smile for the legacy that I leave when it is my turn for that 2nd fact. I can smile because of you, your brothers and sisters. I can smile that despite that crappy past in certain ways I was still offered enormous gifts and one of the most special gifts was the day you became fact number one! I am honored to be able to say you are my son. I am humbled by the man you are becoming and the strength of will and intellect you possess. As time passes I have thought what could have been if I had chosen a different path but then none of you in this current form would be a part of life, of that first fact. If someone told me today I could go back in time and become Bill Gates' partner in forming Windows and Microsoft and that in my future I would be a multi-billionaire. That anything that is now would not be remembered. That I would never know you, as you would not exist I would refuse. I do know you! There is not a value of money or material things that would persuade me to choose this alternate path.Be happy, embrace the ability to read and write. Engage in life in all forms. Enjoy that moment when you first open your eyes to know that for that moment the second fact of this life has been eluded. Give to others of yourself because you can. Do what is, "just" knowing that it is the right thing to do, despite what others may feel or believe. Smile because you can, because you are healthy. When you live in this way many will not understand and will avoid you. They will not avoid you because there is something wrong with you! They do so because they live in that illusion. What you will find if you embrace this kind of spirit that there are others like you. They will see that you are healthy, not just physically but in all ways. When you enter into relationships with friends or significant others they will be long lasting rather than fleeting. You will leave an imprint with everyone you touch. For any soul this is an imprint that is the longest lasting and one that will offer others the opportunity to understand joy and a "just" life.I know I have probably rambled more than I should, more words that may have been needed but then you are my blood and I do know how much of a mallet it takes to knock an ideal into your skull.Know that I love you in more ways then a simple word can describe.DadAuthor's Bio I am just a person, hopefully a human being who can offer a "soap opera" of life experience to give others an option for change. Remember, anyone can show you other doorways. You would want to say "thank-you" for that when no thanks
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
The Two Faces of Awareness
Yesterday towards the end of the call Liza made a statement that brought up the subject of awareness.
Awareness is a great topic and it deserves some dedicated attention.
Also before the end of this call I’m going to promise you two things that I want you to carry away with you, and remember forever. I don’t take or make promises lightly, if I promise anything that means it is an absolute fact.
Awareness in the best possible term means we have learned the process, we know what to do and what not to do daily that will interrupt or interfere in using the law of attraction to reshape our lives, we have become consciously aware of our thoughts, our vibration and how to keep our energy attracting positively in our lives.
Once you have entered into a conscious consistent state of awareness it could be said that you are on the path to living an enlightened life. Enlightenment is something that many people think they have achieved but few actually have there are the Dee Pak Chopra’s of the world that are truly living and teaching enlightenment, I personally think it takes years to achieve a state of enlightenment.
Awareness should be your constant companion, just like self. Every second of every day you should be aware of your thoughts and actions, and the absolute power they have in your lives. Awareness is your ally and will become key to achieving the results in your personal and professional endeavors.
However awareness like many other emotions, such as negativity have the power to be a very dark influence in your process, in order to separate the two we will refer to the dark side of awareness as hyper awareness, conscious awareness is good, hyper awareness is bad.
Hyper awareness could be an occasional or constant force working against us. If you are hyper aware you would be aware of everything that’s wrong in your life. Go back and think about this, we get what we ask for, and we ask for it by thinking about, focusing on, or lending our attention to…therefore if you suffer from hyper awareness, you are focusing your thoughts on what’s wrong, rather than what’s right, by focusing your thoughts on what’s wrong that awareness is working in full force to deliver more of the same. Not only are you thinking about all that’s wrong, and ordering up some more, you are at the same time experiencing or creating the negative emotions that stem from being in a state of hyper awareness, stress, worry, negativity.
Promise number one…
I promise you that you are going to have disappointments, things are going to be wrong, and things are going to go wrong. If you are living and breathing things are going to happen that will immediately completely dominate your focus, and send you in to a state of hyper awareness. It’s what you do when you get there that matters. Accept that things are going to occur that will make you unhappy, cause you stress, and make you worry, then commit to overcoming these things quickly, by learning to analyze that which requires action on your part and that which does not. I think you will find that most of the things that occur are going to require little or no action on your part to quickly resolve to move past them.
Spend your time there and these problems become the forefront of you thoughts, they demand your focus and the creative process begins, once this occurs you have taken negativity into your conscious awareness, and remember by doing this you have just agreed that you want some more…and trust me… you will get it.
We have talked about holding patterns before and the number one way to get stuck in a bad place is to enter into a state of hyper awareness, and to allow that negative situation to begin to grow more and more of the same.
So how do we move past hyper awareness? In order to do this you have to analyze the situation, you all know I’m a big fan of list making. When faced with a problem try to itemize the situation list item one two and three, or nine or ten depending on the magnitude of the situation, but line by line list what the exact breakdown of the situation is. Once you have written that list go back and cross off everything on the list that requires zero action on your part, what things on the list can you do absolutely nothing about. The list just got a whole lot shorter, in some cases the items left will be things you are already working on , if that’s the case cross them off, and the list gets shorter. Now what’s left, if there is anything left would be things that you can do to change the situation. Now make a new list what action you need to take to resolve what’s left on the list, if you can’t come up with anything, cross it off.
The objective is to create a plan to resolve anything that may have caused you to enter into a state of hyper awareness in order for you to be able to put things in perspective and move past it knowing with confidence there is no need to worry, stress, or spend a lot of time thinking about something negative.
We know that in due time all things will pass, in years what happened today won’t matter. Because it’s human nature to problem solve or to become absorbed in all that is wrong we have a tendency to look at the magnitude of the entire situation, in many cases it may be more than one situation, but by contemplating the whole big ugly thing we become over whelmed, we become hyper aware, and then we start to experience the physical and emotional results of hyper awareness, not one good thing comes from it, just a whole lot more of the same bad stuff.
It’s always easier said than done, at least it sounds that way. Once you learn to recognize when situations occur that are causing you to focus on the bad rather than the good, it’s time for you to act quickly to break down the situation, put things in perspective, and reduce the magnitude of the situation.
The hardest thing for me to learn has been to accept that somethings occur that I can’t do anything about . I knew there was nothing I could do to change it, but I would hold on to it anyway. If there’s nothing that will change it today, there is nothing that will change it tomorrow, accept that and move on.
By accepting and moving on, we are able to let it go, when we let things go, we also move past all of the negative thoughts and feelings that are associated with the situation, then and only then do we regain the ability to re-enter the state of conscious awareness, a state of constantly creating all that is good.
We have talked before about internalization, it’s a big deal because all that could be wrong in our lives ceases to exist lest we internalize it. Everything is external (or an outside influence), it happens outside of our thoughts feelings and emotions. It is not until we begin to think about that which is wrong that we begin to internalize it, it is only by thinking about it that it becomes a powerful detraction in our life capable of derailing our progress.
My second promise…
I promise that nothing that occurs externally can ever hurt you, it is harmless until you choose to internalize it by lending you attention to it, it is only then that you give it the power to harm you physically or emotionally. It is only then that is has the power to change your destiny.
This is pretty much a fundamental principal of life, but I’m going to validate it even though if we really thought about it our common sense would say it’s so.
Think about it, do you feel emotional pain while your sleeping? No, you would only feel it if you were not sleeping because you were thinking about it.
Everything exists in our lives because we choose to internalize it by allowing it to exist. Would we intentionally allow pain to exist in our lives? Of course we would’nt, not intentionally, but because we choose to think about that which is painful we are agreeing to internalize it, we are allowing it to exist and allowing it to cause us stress, worry, anxiety, frustration. But the truth is without thought…all things cease to exist. Meaning they remain harmless, things that you are not thinking about are not causing you pain, or bringing you harm, if you are not internalizing your problems, they are not manifesting. By refusing to think about that which you cannot change it has zero power to create negative emotions,which attract more negativity, or for that matter to manifest one single thing that you do not welcome into your life. It is only that which we “feel” that has the power to create. Remember to choose is to allow…
Awareness is a great topic and it deserves some dedicated attention.
Also before the end of this call I’m going to promise you two things that I want you to carry away with you, and remember forever. I don’t take or make promises lightly, if I promise anything that means it is an absolute fact.
Awareness in the best possible term means we have learned the process, we know what to do and what not to do daily that will interrupt or interfere in using the law of attraction to reshape our lives, we have become consciously aware of our thoughts, our vibration and how to keep our energy attracting positively in our lives.
Once you have entered into a conscious consistent state of awareness it could be said that you are on the path to living an enlightened life. Enlightenment is something that many people think they have achieved but few actually have there are the Dee Pak Chopra’s of the world that are truly living and teaching enlightenment, I personally think it takes years to achieve a state of enlightenment.
Awareness should be your constant companion, just like self. Every second of every day you should be aware of your thoughts and actions, and the absolute power they have in your lives. Awareness is your ally and will become key to achieving the results in your personal and professional endeavors.
However awareness like many other emotions, such as negativity have the power to be a very dark influence in your process, in order to separate the two we will refer to the dark side of awareness as hyper awareness, conscious awareness is good, hyper awareness is bad.
Hyper awareness could be an occasional or constant force working against us. If you are hyper aware you would be aware of everything that’s wrong in your life. Go back and think about this, we get what we ask for, and we ask for it by thinking about, focusing on, or lending our attention to…therefore if you suffer from hyper awareness, you are focusing your thoughts on what’s wrong, rather than what’s right, by focusing your thoughts on what’s wrong that awareness is working in full force to deliver more of the same. Not only are you thinking about all that’s wrong, and ordering up some more, you are at the same time experiencing or creating the negative emotions that stem from being in a state of hyper awareness, stress, worry, negativity.
Promise number one…
I promise you that you are going to have disappointments, things are going to be wrong, and things are going to go wrong. If you are living and breathing things are going to happen that will immediately completely dominate your focus, and send you in to a state of hyper awareness. It’s what you do when you get there that matters. Accept that things are going to occur that will make you unhappy, cause you stress, and make you worry, then commit to overcoming these things quickly, by learning to analyze that which requires action on your part and that which does not. I think you will find that most of the things that occur are going to require little or no action on your part to quickly resolve to move past them.
Spend your time there and these problems become the forefront of you thoughts, they demand your focus and the creative process begins, once this occurs you have taken negativity into your conscious awareness, and remember by doing this you have just agreed that you want some more…and trust me… you will get it.
We have talked about holding patterns before and the number one way to get stuck in a bad place is to enter into a state of hyper awareness, and to allow that negative situation to begin to grow more and more of the same.
So how do we move past hyper awareness? In order to do this you have to analyze the situation, you all know I’m a big fan of list making. When faced with a problem try to itemize the situation list item one two and three, or nine or ten depending on the magnitude of the situation, but line by line list what the exact breakdown of the situation is. Once you have written that list go back and cross off everything on the list that requires zero action on your part, what things on the list can you do absolutely nothing about. The list just got a whole lot shorter, in some cases the items left will be things you are already working on , if that’s the case cross them off, and the list gets shorter. Now what’s left, if there is anything left would be things that you can do to change the situation. Now make a new list what action you need to take to resolve what’s left on the list, if you can’t come up with anything, cross it off.
The objective is to create a plan to resolve anything that may have caused you to enter into a state of hyper awareness in order for you to be able to put things in perspective and move past it knowing with confidence there is no need to worry, stress, or spend a lot of time thinking about something negative.
We know that in due time all things will pass, in years what happened today won’t matter. Because it’s human nature to problem solve or to become absorbed in all that is wrong we have a tendency to look at the magnitude of the entire situation, in many cases it may be more than one situation, but by contemplating the whole big ugly thing we become over whelmed, we become hyper aware, and then we start to experience the physical and emotional results of hyper awareness, not one good thing comes from it, just a whole lot more of the same bad stuff.
It’s always easier said than done, at least it sounds that way. Once you learn to recognize when situations occur that are causing you to focus on the bad rather than the good, it’s time for you to act quickly to break down the situation, put things in perspective, and reduce the magnitude of the situation.
The hardest thing for me to learn has been to accept that somethings occur that I can’t do anything about . I knew there was nothing I could do to change it, but I would hold on to it anyway. If there’s nothing that will change it today, there is nothing that will change it tomorrow, accept that and move on.
By accepting and moving on, we are able to let it go, when we let things go, we also move past all of the negative thoughts and feelings that are associated with the situation, then and only then do we regain the ability to re-enter the state of conscious awareness, a state of constantly creating all that is good.
We have talked before about internalization, it’s a big deal because all that could be wrong in our lives ceases to exist lest we internalize it. Everything is external (or an outside influence), it happens outside of our thoughts feelings and emotions. It is not until we begin to think about that which is wrong that we begin to internalize it, it is only by thinking about it that it becomes a powerful detraction in our life capable of derailing our progress.
My second promise…
I promise that nothing that occurs externally can ever hurt you, it is harmless until you choose to internalize it by lending you attention to it, it is only then that you give it the power to harm you physically or emotionally. It is only then that is has the power to change your destiny.
This is pretty much a fundamental principal of life, but I’m going to validate it even though if we really thought about it our common sense would say it’s so.
Think about it, do you feel emotional pain while your sleeping? No, you would only feel it if you were not sleeping because you were thinking about it.
Everything exists in our lives because we choose to internalize it by allowing it to exist. Would we intentionally allow pain to exist in our lives? Of course we would’nt, not intentionally, but because we choose to think about that which is painful we are agreeing to internalize it, we are allowing it to exist and allowing it to cause us stress, worry, anxiety, frustration. But the truth is without thought…all things cease to exist. Meaning they remain harmless, things that you are not thinking about are not causing you pain, or bringing you harm, if you are not internalizing your problems, they are not manifesting. By refusing to think about that which you cannot change it has zero power to create negative emotions,which attract more negativity, or for that matter to manifest one single thing that you do not welcome into your life. It is only that which we “feel” that has the power to create. Remember to choose is to allow…
Monday, April 27, 2009
Life Is Like A Garden
Life Is Like A Garden...
I hope everyone had a great weekend, and enjoyed their Friday off… This weekend I was out and about and almost everywhere I went people were planting their gardens. I started thinking how like a garden creating our lives actually is. When you think about it, the first step to planting your garden is to decide what you want to grow and how much of it. Just like life, the seeds we choose represent goals that we set, what we want the end outcome to be.
The second and most important step to gardening is clearing away the existing growth, No one could grow a thing if they simply put seeds on top of the ground, very quickly the grass and weeds would overpower young vulnerable seedlings.
Just like life, when we start to want or need change the very first thing we have to do is remove the existing growth, get rid of any and all things that might threaten the healthy growth of your garden.
Most people do this by tilling the garden area, turning everything under and then you rake over the garden to get any existing roots that might be left behind, and get them out of the way otherwise they take root and grow again, resulting once again in the possibility that they may affect the healthy growth of your garden.
It is impossible to get them all, I don’t garden anymore but I used to have a huge garden every year, then my kids grew up got married, and have gardens of their own so I have an abundant supply of anything I might grow without the intensive care that a garden requires. So you’re going to rake back over the garden to remove as much opportunity for bad to take root and grow as you can.
A lot like life what would be left behind is a memory of what was there…that we choose not to allow to continue to exist.
After you have tilled and raked your garden you decide what you want to grow where, doing this is like visualizing the end outcome in your creation process. Typically you visualize what needs the most care, what space is required, and lay out your garden accordingly.
One thing that always amazed me is the fact that if you plant the hot peppers beside the sweet peppers, the sweet peppers become hot, why don’t the hot peppers become sweet. In comparison is that like the power struggle between positive and negative thoughts, do the hot peppers represent the presence of negativity in your garden, and the more you tend to and fertilize that negativity it continues to grow and thrive, and can pollute your garden? I think so. Planting the hot peppers one row away from the sweet peppers will completely eliminate the chance of this happening, so in the garden of your life, separate the negativity and keep it far from all that should grow to be sweet.
You have to fertilize your garden, just like goals, things you want to change, you have to feed your plants what they need to grow and thrive.
Gardening is very labor intensive. When I was a kid I used to laugh at my Dad when every night after supper he would take hoe in hand and go “check” the garden , like life at that age, I thought the garden would just grow…check what for crying out loud, the seeds are planted shouldn't they just grow?
The truth is they will do just that, those seeds will sprout and they will indeed grow but…so will all the other stuff left behind when we tilled the garden, as sure as the seeds will grow when left unchecked, and unattended to so the weeds will grow as well…
In your garden you have three choices the first and worst choice being to allow the weeds to grow, which would be like allowing negativity to exist in the garden of your life when in the end you want the outcome to show the fruits of your labor, with a bountiful harvest. By taking this approach the garden will quickly become overrun by the existence of the weeds, which we fertilized when we planted the seeds in our garden and your fruit will perish, you can wade through the weeds and you will harvest virtually nothing in the end. The amount of time and energy invested in choosing your seeds, or setting your goals will provide you nothing in the end.
The second choice would be to occasionally hoe your garden, what happens in this case is that you have to work much harder on the occasions that you tend your plantings, because the weeds are more plentiful and require more effort to remove. In the end your garden will struggle to survive against the presence of weeds, or negativity, your garden will bear fruit, but it will be sparse, and fall short of the desired outcome. By allowing yourself to loose sight of your goals,and only tend to them occasionally your goals struggle to thrive, success can come but it will be much more difficult getting there.
The best choice of course would be to check the garden. Checking your garden everyday will give you the opportunity to maintain a space free of weeds and harmful growth because you will be able to remove it as it occurs, while it’s young and weak. Long before it takes firm root and begins to grow rapidly. Checking your garden everyday and removing anything that might be harmful to the growing environment will result in a clean growing space, much less labor intensive, with a much more bountiful harvest, in the end the garden you envisioned will emerge, thriving and healthy, and will bare all the fruit of your labor.
Checking your garden, would be much the same as taking daily inventory in our lives, never allowing negativity to take root, and affect the goals we set for ourselves or to slow the process of achieving these goals. By doing this the end result will be exactly as we imagined it to be, success will be plentiful, and your garden will bare fruit in abundance.
In my opinion there was never a more perfect time to choose your seeds, remove the weeds, plant your garden, and check it daily…Decide what you want, clear your mind of negativity, set your goals, and work towards them everyday.
I hope everyone had a great weekend, and enjoyed their Friday off… This weekend I was out and about and almost everywhere I went people were planting their gardens. I started thinking how like a garden creating our lives actually is. When you think about it, the first step to planting your garden is to decide what you want to grow and how much of it. Just like life, the seeds we choose represent goals that we set, what we want the end outcome to be.
The second and most important step to gardening is clearing away the existing growth, No one could grow a thing if they simply put seeds on top of the ground, very quickly the grass and weeds would overpower young vulnerable seedlings.
Just like life, when we start to want or need change the very first thing we have to do is remove the existing growth, get rid of any and all things that might threaten the healthy growth of your garden.
Most people do this by tilling the garden area, turning everything under and then you rake over the garden to get any existing roots that might be left behind, and get them out of the way otherwise they take root and grow again, resulting once again in the possibility that they may affect the healthy growth of your garden.
It is impossible to get them all, I don’t garden anymore but I used to have a huge garden every year, then my kids grew up got married, and have gardens of their own so I have an abundant supply of anything I might grow without the intensive care that a garden requires. So you’re going to rake back over the garden to remove as much opportunity for bad to take root and grow as you can.
A lot like life what would be left behind is a memory of what was there…that we choose not to allow to continue to exist.
After you have tilled and raked your garden you decide what you want to grow where, doing this is like visualizing the end outcome in your creation process. Typically you visualize what needs the most care, what space is required, and lay out your garden accordingly.
One thing that always amazed me is the fact that if you plant the hot peppers beside the sweet peppers, the sweet peppers become hot, why don’t the hot peppers become sweet. In comparison is that like the power struggle between positive and negative thoughts, do the hot peppers represent the presence of negativity in your garden, and the more you tend to and fertilize that negativity it continues to grow and thrive, and can pollute your garden? I think so. Planting the hot peppers one row away from the sweet peppers will completely eliminate the chance of this happening, so in the garden of your life, separate the negativity and keep it far from all that should grow to be sweet.
You have to fertilize your garden, just like goals, things you want to change, you have to feed your plants what they need to grow and thrive.
Gardening is very labor intensive. When I was a kid I used to laugh at my Dad when every night after supper he would take hoe in hand and go “check” the garden , like life at that age, I thought the garden would just grow…check what for crying out loud, the seeds are planted shouldn't they just grow?
The truth is they will do just that, those seeds will sprout and they will indeed grow but…so will all the other stuff left behind when we tilled the garden, as sure as the seeds will grow when left unchecked, and unattended to so the weeds will grow as well…
In your garden you have three choices the first and worst choice being to allow the weeds to grow, which would be like allowing negativity to exist in the garden of your life when in the end you want the outcome to show the fruits of your labor, with a bountiful harvest. By taking this approach the garden will quickly become overrun by the existence of the weeds, which we fertilized when we planted the seeds in our garden and your fruit will perish, you can wade through the weeds and you will harvest virtually nothing in the end. The amount of time and energy invested in choosing your seeds, or setting your goals will provide you nothing in the end.
The second choice would be to occasionally hoe your garden, what happens in this case is that you have to work much harder on the occasions that you tend your plantings, because the weeds are more plentiful and require more effort to remove. In the end your garden will struggle to survive against the presence of weeds, or negativity, your garden will bear fruit, but it will be sparse, and fall short of the desired outcome. By allowing yourself to loose sight of your goals,and only tend to them occasionally your goals struggle to thrive, success can come but it will be much more difficult getting there.
The best choice of course would be to check the garden. Checking your garden everyday will give you the opportunity to maintain a space free of weeds and harmful growth because you will be able to remove it as it occurs, while it’s young and weak. Long before it takes firm root and begins to grow rapidly. Checking your garden everyday and removing anything that might be harmful to the growing environment will result in a clean growing space, much less labor intensive, with a much more bountiful harvest, in the end the garden you envisioned will emerge, thriving and healthy, and will bare all the fruit of your labor.
Checking your garden, would be much the same as taking daily inventory in our lives, never allowing negativity to take root, and affect the goals we set for ourselves or to slow the process of achieving these goals. By doing this the end result will be exactly as we imagined it to be, success will be plentiful, and your garden will bare fruit in abundance.
In my opinion there was never a more perfect time to choose your seeds, remove the weeds, plant your garden, and check it daily…Decide what you want, clear your mind of negativity, set your goals, and work towards them everyday.
Wednesday, April 22, 2009
Leaving The Twhirl Behind
Have you ever felt like you just want out of the twhirl? Perhaps it's a conversation at the water fountain or that you are just tired of dealing with people who see the glass half empty. Maybe something has triggered you, and you find yourself focusing on the junk rather than the possibilities.
With all the changes happening around us it's no wonder that many people are feeling this way. From our struggling economy to the increase in our need to "pack" our days full of activity just to get ahead, you may be feeling the pressure.So often in our lives, we find ourselves in situations that don't feel good, and our natural instinct is to "react" rather than stay in a place of choice. We may engage in an argument that doesn't serve us, or jump to conclusions that aren't based in truth.
No matter how or when it happens it is important to remember that it doesn't have to be that way.It is important not to forget that you have the power to take a step back and decide if and how you want to participate in what is going on around you. Each of us has the ability to choose to be a part of something or not. We can choose not to get involved in situations that take us off track.
We have the power to decide where to place our energy & how we will focus on taking action in ways that work in our lives.So the next time you want out of the twhirl, remember to do the following:·
Take a step back and determine what it is in your life that is taking you off track·
Explore where you are wasting time & energy in ways that are not healthy or empowering·
Choose to change the way in which you participate in the activities, relationships and thought processes that aren't serving you Most importantly, know that you have the ability to participate in your life in a way that will move you forward and have you reaching your dreams; all you have to do is make a conscious choice to do so.
At some point in our lives we have all had our favorite pet, once you’ve experienced this nothing else ever compares. Last night, for whatever reason I was thinking back to my favorite pet, he crosses my mind from time to time, and is always nice remembering him. My favorite pet was Burt, a big ole chocolate lab, which was the offspring of the “Hooper” of “Hooper’s Sporting goods” Burt was beyond a dog, way beyond a dog, he had been through obedience training, but he was born smart, he was one of the rare animals who seemed to understand everything, and even in his older years he celebrated life, remained playful, and had such a wonderful loving spirit.
On hot summer days I would see Burt in the yard trying to make the best of a day with no breeze and little relief from the heat, and out of guilt or sympathy whichever was the case, I would drop everything Grab a Frisbee, drop the tail gate on the truck, and without hesitation in he would go. We would drive down to the lake, and I would sail that Frisbee out across the water and no matter how far it went Burt would happily swim for it and return it ready to go again. I could take him any where he was so obedient and well behaved that I never had to worry how he might respond in any situation.
We would sometimes spend hours at the lake, whenever we left we would drive up to this drive in restaurant called Blue’s it was a dive, that was open seasonally, and all they offered was curb service or a picnic table, I always ordered two cheeseburgers, one for me and one for Burt, he would start barking and going nuts the moment he saw the restaurant, he would watch as the car hops came in and out waiting for his turn, I used to watch him in the rear view mirror, and I felt kind of bad when they went in another direction because he looked crushed, but I think he always knew his time was coming.
Occasionally the car hop was brave enough to hand Burt his burger, but most of the time I had to hand it through the back glass, and in one gulp it was gone.
I always used to think those were the best days of Burt’s life, but last night for the first time I think I realized, those were actually the best days of my life. Days spent with Burt were days where my companionship was appreciated, days where I was the recipient of nothing but gratitude, approval, and acceptance. Every decision I made was the right decision as far as Burt was concerned.
My point in sharing this is it is entirely possible to experience the best days of your life anytime you choose, but you do have to choose, I don’t think they just happen. I mean there are days that just occur as a matter of happenstance, and they turn out to be one of the best days of our lives and it’s always nice when that happens. But what’s even nicer is when we learn to create the best days ever as a matter of choice.
If I were your employer, and you had been working especially hard, and I said you know Mary I’ve noticed how hard you’ve been working lately, and I would like to pay you to take a day off, you would gladly accept that.
I can’t imagine Mary saying “ I love my job sooo much I’m going to forfeit my paid day off and just work instead” Where the real question comes in is not whether or not you would accept the paid day off, but what would you do with it? How many of us would seize the opportunity to make it the best day ever?
What I suspect we would do is anything but unplug, in our minds we would be thinking that we were doing what we wanted to do, but I think in reality we would be doing what needed to be done, could be laundry, could be washing the car, and while it is true we would feel fairly good be paid for accomplishing things that needed to be done, I don’t think that our spirit would benefit as much as if we did what we truly wanted to.
When was the last time you did, for an entire day exactly what you wanted to? Some would say well, I do what I want to everyday, so if you’re thinking that ask yourself this question, was yesterday one of the best days of your life? No? Why not?
Guys, I could tell you to take a day for yourself, but I wonder how many people would actually know what taking a day for yourself would mean? I mean for years I thought my days with Burt were the best days of his life, and I didn’t realize they were some of the best days of my life, because I didn’t recognize what the best day of my life would be like.
I have taken it upon myself to design an outline in order to describe what could become one of the best days of your life. It could be spontaneous but I think it would be better if planned. So start by writing your itinerary, what time you will begin and what time it will end, fill this day with yourself, make this day about everything that you like to do, or think you would like to do.
Leave your cell phone at home, or turn it off. Disconnect from anything and anyone that will rob you of the time you have set aside for your day, perhaps you might pack a picnic, if you choose to spend your best day away from your house, not what you have in the fridge, but whatever is your favorite lunch, go to your favorite place, or all your favorite places, and determine how much time you will spend at that place, or go to a place that you always thought you would like to go, I mean you have the whole day, plan it in advance, and really plan it around you, and what you want to do, once you have your itinerary stick to it, but most of all enjoy every single second, all you are really doing is spending time away from any controlling factors that could cause you not to have the best day ever.
This is different than thinking you always spend days with yourself; in this case you are looking for exclusivity, having the day all to yourself.
I have decided to take a sick day…a sick of everything day, or maybe I could call it taking a Burt day, maybe a me day, it doesn’t matter what I call it, or what you want to call it, what matters is that we take one.
I choose Friday, Friday is a good day it’s our community day, the day that is all about you, so it’s a perfect day to plan the best day ever. I can’t make you take it, but I can say if you have a long list of things that need to be done, and it seems that you never get it done, then I would think you could be overwhelmed.
There is no harm in stealing a day out of many to disappear, or hide from the World, you deserve it. I think everyone would be quite surprised how good they would feel, and how much clarity they would gain by truly unplugging from anything and everything for one day.
I believe that we are turning a corner, and very soon are going to become very busy, I think now is the perfect time to take a breather and realign ourselves with our thoughts, our goals, and most of all our purpose, and these are all things we can expect to become much more clear to us, if we can capture the opportunity to dedicate one day to what is important to us.
With all the changes happening around us it's no wonder that many people are feeling this way. From our struggling economy to the increase in our need to "pack" our days full of activity just to get ahead, you may be feeling the pressure.So often in our lives, we find ourselves in situations that don't feel good, and our natural instinct is to "react" rather than stay in a place of choice. We may engage in an argument that doesn't serve us, or jump to conclusions that aren't based in truth.
No matter how or when it happens it is important to remember that it doesn't have to be that way.It is important not to forget that you have the power to take a step back and decide if and how you want to participate in what is going on around you. Each of us has the ability to choose to be a part of something or not. We can choose not to get involved in situations that take us off track.
We have the power to decide where to place our energy & how we will focus on taking action in ways that work in our lives.So the next time you want out of the twhirl, remember to do the following:·
Take a step back and determine what it is in your life that is taking you off track·
Explore where you are wasting time & energy in ways that are not healthy or empowering·
Choose to change the way in which you participate in the activities, relationships and thought processes that aren't serving you Most importantly, know that you have the ability to participate in your life in a way that will move you forward and have you reaching your dreams; all you have to do is make a conscious choice to do so.
At some point in our lives we have all had our favorite pet, once you’ve experienced this nothing else ever compares. Last night, for whatever reason I was thinking back to my favorite pet, he crosses my mind from time to time, and is always nice remembering him. My favorite pet was Burt, a big ole chocolate lab, which was the offspring of the “Hooper” of “Hooper’s Sporting goods” Burt was beyond a dog, way beyond a dog, he had been through obedience training, but he was born smart, he was one of the rare animals who seemed to understand everything, and even in his older years he celebrated life, remained playful, and had such a wonderful loving spirit.
On hot summer days I would see Burt in the yard trying to make the best of a day with no breeze and little relief from the heat, and out of guilt or sympathy whichever was the case, I would drop everything Grab a Frisbee, drop the tail gate on the truck, and without hesitation in he would go. We would drive down to the lake, and I would sail that Frisbee out across the water and no matter how far it went Burt would happily swim for it and return it ready to go again. I could take him any where he was so obedient and well behaved that I never had to worry how he might respond in any situation.
We would sometimes spend hours at the lake, whenever we left we would drive up to this drive in restaurant called Blue’s it was a dive, that was open seasonally, and all they offered was curb service or a picnic table, I always ordered two cheeseburgers, one for me and one for Burt, he would start barking and going nuts the moment he saw the restaurant, he would watch as the car hops came in and out waiting for his turn, I used to watch him in the rear view mirror, and I felt kind of bad when they went in another direction because he looked crushed, but I think he always knew his time was coming.
Occasionally the car hop was brave enough to hand Burt his burger, but most of the time I had to hand it through the back glass, and in one gulp it was gone.
I always used to think those were the best days of Burt’s life, but last night for the first time I think I realized, those were actually the best days of my life. Days spent with Burt were days where my companionship was appreciated, days where I was the recipient of nothing but gratitude, approval, and acceptance. Every decision I made was the right decision as far as Burt was concerned.
My point in sharing this is it is entirely possible to experience the best days of your life anytime you choose, but you do have to choose, I don’t think they just happen. I mean there are days that just occur as a matter of happenstance, and they turn out to be one of the best days of our lives and it’s always nice when that happens. But what’s even nicer is when we learn to create the best days ever as a matter of choice.
If I were your employer, and you had been working especially hard, and I said you know Mary I’ve noticed how hard you’ve been working lately, and I would like to pay you to take a day off, you would gladly accept that.
I can’t imagine Mary saying “ I love my job sooo much I’m going to forfeit my paid day off and just work instead” Where the real question comes in is not whether or not you would accept the paid day off, but what would you do with it? How many of us would seize the opportunity to make it the best day ever?
What I suspect we would do is anything but unplug, in our minds we would be thinking that we were doing what we wanted to do, but I think in reality we would be doing what needed to be done, could be laundry, could be washing the car, and while it is true we would feel fairly good be paid for accomplishing things that needed to be done, I don’t think that our spirit would benefit as much as if we did what we truly wanted to.
When was the last time you did, for an entire day exactly what you wanted to? Some would say well, I do what I want to everyday, so if you’re thinking that ask yourself this question, was yesterday one of the best days of your life? No? Why not?
Guys, I could tell you to take a day for yourself, but I wonder how many people would actually know what taking a day for yourself would mean? I mean for years I thought my days with Burt were the best days of his life, and I didn’t realize they were some of the best days of my life, because I didn’t recognize what the best day of my life would be like.
I have taken it upon myself to design an outline in order to describe what could become one of the best days of your life. It could be spontaneous but I think it would be better if planned. So start by writing your itinerary, what time you will begin and what time it will end, fill this day with yourself, make this day about everything that you like to do, or think you would like to do.
Leave your cell phone at home, or turn it off. Disconnect from anything and anyone that will rob you of the time you have set aside for your day, perhaps you might pack a picnic, if you choose to spend your best day away from your house, not what you have in the fridge, but whatever is your favorite lunch, go to your favorite place, or all your favorite places, and determine how much time you will spend at that place, or go to a place that you always thought you would like to go, I mean you have the whole day, plan it in advance, and really plan it around you, and what you want to do, once you have your itinerary stick to it, but most of all enjoy every single second, all you are really doing is spending time away from any controlling factors that could cause you not to have the best day ever.
This is different than thinking you always spend days with yourself; in this case you are looking for exclusivity, having the day all to yourself.
I have decided to take a sick day…a sick of everything day, or maybe I could call it taking a Burt day, maybe a me day, it doesn’t matter what I call it, or what you want to call it, what matters is that we take one.
I choose Friday, Friday is a good day it’s our community day, the day that is all about you, so it’s a perfect day to plan the best day ever. I can’t make you take it, but I can say if you have a long list of things that need to be done, and it seems that you never get it done, then I would think you could be overwhelmed.
There is no harm in stealing a day out of many to disappear, or hide from the World, you deserve it. I think everyone would be quite surprised how good they would feel, and how much clarity they would gain by truly unplugging from anything and everything for one day.
I believe that we are turning a corner, and very soon are going to become very busy, I think now is the perfect time to take a breather and realign ourselves with our thoughts, our goals, and most of all our purpose, and these are all things we can expect to become much more clear to us, if we can capture the opportunity to dedicate one day to what is important to us.
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