tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-84679262264041228312024-03-12T21:15:51.316-04:00James Boehm's Pathway To AbundanceA cut to the chase approach to creating lasting change in your life.James Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.comBlogger127125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-88571892113169408112012-10-27T09:46:00.001-04:002012-10-27T09:46:07.532-04:00Faith or Fear-Which one will you choose?Each time in my life that I have embarked to start a new endeavor there
is at some point in the beginning a moment where I feel a cold chilling
sting. This sting I am referring to is the fear of failure. Perhaps some
of you reading this have never had that problem, and you just go from
one business to the next with your chest out conquering the world. This
article is NOT for you. There are many people that experience the fear
of failure at one point or another in their lives, and some people live
with it indefinitely. This article IS for you.<br /><br />If you do not take
ownership of and conquer your fear early on it will debilitate you
causing your biggest fears to become a reality. There are a few short
truths that I am about to share with you to aid you in your quest of
conquering fear. First, you have to accept the fact that Fear is a
spirit as the Bible states in 2 Timothy 1:7, “For God did not give us a
spirit of fear, but a spirit of power, of love and of a sound mind.” The
opposite of fear is faith which is also a spirit. In fact, one could
define fear as the expectation of something bad whereas faith could be
defined as the expectation of something good.<br /><br />That is an over
simplified definition of either term, but let me explain. One individual
may be afraid of dogs and when meeting a new dog, is afraid because
they are expecting to be bitten, whereas another individual who loves
dogs, has faith that the dog will be friendly. You see? Your fear of
failure isn’t that you are failing now. It is from the expectation or at
least a concern that you will fail, and the fact of the matter is that
fear and faith being spirits cannot coexist in the same vessel. You will
be in submission to one or the other.<br /><br />I realize that all of that
was deep but the way to cure your fear isn’t deep at all. The thing
that cures fear is simple…ACTION cures fear. Whatever you are afraid of,
do that thing over and over and you will no longer be afraid of it. If
you have a fear of failure then go to work and work hard until the fear
goes away. In this case your success would chase fear away. Whichever
spirit you submit to will determine the outcome of your expectations.
Faith is God’s activator and fear is Satan’s activator. Which one will
you choose?<br />
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God Bless,<br />
James Boehm James Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com20tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-31726482596538918592012-10-24T11:14:00.000-04:002012-10-24T11:14:37.826-04:00How To Believe In Yourself <br />
If you have been beat down long enough, believing in yourself can seem impossible. When you have had people in your life who do not lift you up, you pretty much take over for them when they are not there. You proceed to discount your skills and abilities based on what other people have said. You are doing a great disservice to yourself and giving your power to someone else. To reach your goals in this life, believing in yourself is extremely important if you want to get anywhere. Those assumptions about who you are become a way of life. You will stay stuck in these patterns until you change the way you think.<br />
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Here are some simple ways to start learning how to believe in you:<br />
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1) Try Even When You Still Think You Can't Do It<br />
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Because you have pattern of not believing in yourself, this will take a little work. Make a vow to yourself today that you will try your best at any opportunity that comes your way. It does not matter if you have fallen on your face before or whether you think it's even possible. The important thing is to pledge to yourself that you will try no matter what the outcome may be. The worst thing to do to yourself is to assume you can't do it before even trying. Tell yourself right now that any effort to do better is not a waste of your precious time.<br />
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2) Establish Evidence For The Assumptions<br />
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Get some paper and start a list. List every one of those things you really believe about yourself and your abilities or the lack of them. List them whether they are large or small. Once you have that list go through each assumption and examine it. Ask yourself, "Is this true? What is the proof?" Then go and do whatever it is you feel you cannot. It does not matter if you do it better than anyone else. It only matters that you DO.<br />
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3) Recognize The Possibilities<br />
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A constant onslaught of self-defeating assumptions obviously puts you in the place of believing you cannot succeed. This goes back to the people in your life who have impressed their own beliefs on you. A silly bunch of girls in high school told you that you were fat and no one would ever want you. Guess what you have been doing since? Saying that same self-defeating comment to yourself. It is time to push beyond what you believe are your capabilities. This is a scary thought. It also will be a step in the direction of finding the belief in you. The assumptions you have about yourself may not be true. You have simply accepted these assumptions as truth without proof. Consider all the possibilities of each situation. Challenge the assumptions and have an open mind to the possibility that you could be wrong!<br />
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With every success, whether large or small, the belief in yourself will grow. That will be the push you need to keep stepping outside your comfort zone and attain the accomplishments you truly deserve.<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-35774482066616098222012-10-19T01:03:00.000-04:002012-10-19T01:03:14.943-04:00WHEN ONE DOOR CLOSES IN LIFE, ANOTHER DOOR WILL OPEN <br />
Helen Keller the famous American writer once said, “When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.”<br />
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This quote could not be more true in my life, and I’m sure many others. As I’ve had time to reflect upon my life these past days, I’m happy to see where I’ve been, yet I am more happy to see where I am going. In the past, I used to always focus on what didn’t happen in my life, what should have been, or what could have been, thus leaving me discouraged. A lot of us, like me before, put so much of our focus everyday on pass failures. It could be failures in our relationships, our decisions, our career choices, or mistakes we have made which are we are not able to fix. Even though we know that we can’t change the past, we still dwell on it, letting it plague us like a virus that never leaves our mind and emotions. But, if we always focus on the past doors that have closed, we will become blind to the open doors and opportunities that may come our way.<br />
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In the past, I used to get so down on myself about every thing that didn’t go my way. I would ask God why? I would throw fits and rages when life didn’t turn out the way I thought it should have. Or, I would become depressed and go into bouts of self-pity, self-rejection and self-hatred. Being an over achiever I would become extremely critical of myself if I felt like I was the cause of my failures. Yet, now that I am older and I can look back at a lot of my earlier mistakes as a young adolescent, I can see how every mistake, every disappointment and failure has led me to become a better man.<br />
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With time we become wiser. With time we learn to learn from our mistakes. With time we can see things in retrospect and appreciate every experience, good or bad, for what it is. With time, we can begin to appreciate ourselves. With time we realize there is no use holding on to old remorse’s and thoughts of “I wish I could have, or would have, done things this way or that way.” Instead, we can make the choice now to not repeat our past failures, recognize we are not the same person, and be open to change. We have to let go of what we can’t control and stop focusing on the past closed doors. If we do this, we can become aware of the present blessings in our lives that we may have been missing all along and walk through a new door of happiness.<br />
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Until we let go of the old thing we are holding onto, we cannot be hands free to receive the new thing God desires to bless us with. MOVE ON! I felt like I had to say that loud and clear to whoever is reading this column… MOVE ON from the past and into the new. Don’t let your past mistakes, regrets or disappointments hold you back from experiencing the fullness of life and all the goodness it can bring! I’m excited about my future, I feel like I’m maturing as a man and I know that what is in store for me in the coming days can only be even better than what I have experienced before. Not because the past was bad, but because right now I am wiser, more ready and in touch with whom I really am to receive God’s very best! Unless, we choose to move forward from past closed doors, we won’t know what is on the other side of the new doors that await us. I’m nervous, a bit afraid, but full of faith and heart wide open to experience the new, so should you!<br />
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God bless,<br />
James Boehm<br />
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<br />James Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-23955965902711629462012-10-13T09:33:00.000-04:002012-10-13T09:37:31.552-04:00Change your life - today is a brand new day! Do you want to change your life for the better? Do you want to own more of your personal power, live in the present moment, and move towards your dreams?<br />
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You can start moving towards your dreams right now. Today is a brand new day and you can be or do anything you want. Start by asking yourself this question: "Who do I want to be today?" Then decide what action steps you will take to do it! It could be as simple as, "I want to be more loving" and then you show someone important how much you love them.<br />
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Think about how empowering it is to live your dreams every single day. You can walk through this life with fulfillment and inspiration as you step into your ideal self and move towards your goals and dreams. You have a wonderful, beautiful energy because when you live your dreams you raise your vibration to match your higher self. What are all the qualities you want to embody? When you see your ideal self, how does he or she feel, think and act? Can you start being that person, right now?<br />
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If you want to change your life, then what better time to start than right now, with this brand new day? If you let the past hold you back or live in the future then you are keeping yourself out of your personal power. Only you can decide when to let go of the past, trust the future, and start living in the now.<br />
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What are your dreams and goals? What can you do today to move towards them? It can be anything, big or small, (and it can be easy!!) but action is required to make your dreams come true. Are you really serious about changing your life? Do you really want to be fulfilled and powerful? Then what can you do today to live your dreams?<br />
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Whatever you want for your life is yours for the taking. Are you holding yourself from your dreams by living in the past or dreaming too much of the future? If so, think about why this is. Are you afraid of success or failure? If so, can you act in spite of your fear? Everyone has fear- it never goes away. The courageous act even in the face of fear, not because it isn't there.<br />
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Change your life today. Be your dream self. Simply affirm that you are the person you dream of being, and then be it. Show someone how much you love them. Be generous with others. Take on one small action today to move towards your dreams. If not now, when?<br />
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Change your life today. There is no greater act of personal power than to move towards your dreams. It is really quite easy to do this, and so much fun! If you don't feel confident, no problem. Just fake it 'till you make it.<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-35752765775466607942012-10-11T13:03:00.000-04:002012-10-11T13:03:09.946-04:00Wherever You Are, Be There<br />
One of the major reasons why we fail to find happiness or to create unique lifestyle is because we have not yet mastered the art of being.<br />
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While we are home our thoughts are still absorbed with solving the challenges we face at the office. And when we are at the office we find ourselves worrying about problems at home. We go through the day without really listening to what others are saying to us. We may be hearing the words, but we aren't absorbing the message. As we go through the day we find ourselves focusing on past experiences or future possibilities.<br />
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We are so involved in yesterday and tomorrow that we never even notice that today is slipping by. We go through the day rather than getting something from the day.<br />
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We are everywhere at any given moment in time except living in that moment in time.<br />
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Lifestyle is learning to be wherever you are. It is developing a unique focus on the current moment, and drawing from it all of the substance and wealth of experience and emotions that it has to offer.<br />
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Lifestyle is taking time to watch a sunset. Lifestyle is listening to silence. Lifestyle is capturing each moment so that it becomes a new part of what we are and of what we are in the process of becoming. Lifestyle is not something we do; it is something we experience. And until we learn to be there, we will never master the art of living well.<br />
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How can one create anew in the moment, without reference to the past or the future? In this metaphor of surfing the wave and staying over your feet, we are talking about staying rooted where you ARE -- in the present moment -- rather than in the "past" (where you have been) or the "future" (where you are going). If you think about it, all fear derives from past experience being projected onto the future. When things arise in your present moment that remind you of something from the past, you can easily project that the past experience will repeat itself in the moments that follow the time of remembering that past. This is when you feel fear. It's inner talk that says, "It was like this before, so it will be like this again." If you experienced pain in the past, you expect it will be painful again. That is where the fear comes in. You want to avoid the pain. "I'm afraid that if this moment goes the way it went before, I'll experience what I experienced before, and I don't want to do that again."<br />
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The answer to this is to cut through the cords of memory, to interrupt the inner talk by saying out loud, "That was then. This is now." Boom! You are back in the present, able to choose anew in the present moment. When you say the word "now," you bring your attention into the present. Say "NOW" out loud, right now. Feel NOW. What is really happening NOW? Not what happened before, not what MIGHT happen later. What is really happening NOW? Do you see how you are in the habit of scaring yourself? Cultivate the practice of living NOW. Live each moment as the only moment that exists. NOW is the only place you can create anything. NOW is the only place you can choose anything. NOW is all you ever really have.<br />
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When we say the word "moment," it will be useful to define what we mean. A moment is an "event" that arises from the matrix of Infinite Mind. It contains everything within it for its natural fulfillment and completion. It is not measured by minutes, seconds, or hours. It is a unit of experience that may be very short or go on for some time. You can FEEL when a moment begins. You can FEEL when it completes. Every moment has a beginning, a middle, and a conclusion, like a phrase in speech or music. Think of it entering into your field of awareness, swelling into its fullness, and then receding as it completes. There is a wavelike quality to a moment. A wave emerges from the ocean, swells, moves forward, and then resolves back into the ocean. Just so with a moment. It emerges from the ocean of consciousness that is the Mind of the Creator. It swells upward into your perceptual field, and moves forward, then ebbs from your experience as it completes. There is background and foreground, and there are different waves overlapping. In the past, you were only peripherally aware of the background, as your attention was captured by the foreground, but now your senses will be broadened and deepened until you are like a bowl containing ALL of it -- all of the ocean and all of the waves upon its surface. You will be aware of all of it simultaneously and be able to move your attention to whatever you feel called to pay attention to, at will.<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-33984806387010271252012-10-02T09:34:00.000-04:002012-10-02T09:36:50.712-04:0017 Way's To Love Yourself and Build Your Self EsteemI’ve compiled a list on how to love yourself for readers who are facing difficulty knowing what to do in boosting their own self esteem. When I first began to be aware that I need to love myself first, before I can develop any meaningful relationships with others, I realised that I did not know where to start.<br />
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This was a surprise to me then as I would have thought I’d be an expert on love and relationships by then. After all, as I recalled, in my younger days, I’ve spent much time looking for the best spouse or romantic partner. But I soon realised that my search was meant to fill the void or emptiness I had inside. Finding a good relationship with myself seemed to be an even harder task! However, as things turned out, I realised that I failed miserably in my early relationships because I had insufficient or little self love.<br />
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If you’ve suffered from low self esteem, then it goes to show that you are lacking in self love. You may even find it difficult to even search your heart for that little bit of love you have for yourself. I dare say that your mind has been so ingrained with self sabotaging thoughts for the longest time, that loving yourself sounds unnatural to you.<br />
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However, nothing is going to happen if you do not make a conscious decision. And that includes Attracting Abundance. When you don’t love yourself, you are basically telling the Universe that you are unworthy or undeserving of any love or positive outcomes that have the same vibrational match as love.<br />
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Learning to love yourself starts with making a conscious decision, an intention to become happy and lead a fulfilled life. When you do not love yourself and suffer from low self esteem, you can find that it impossible to ever reach the potential that you suspect you have.<br />
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“Love yourself first and everything falls into line.”Lucille Ball quotes (American radio and motion-picture actress and comedy star, 1911-1989)<br />
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When you make a decision to love yourself, you are really saying that you want to come alive. You accept that you are responsible for the outcomes that you experience in your life and would like yourself to shine from living a fulfilling life.<br />
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So if you’ve decided on loving yourself but are as equally stumped on how to love yourself, as I was back then, here are 17 ways which I believe can be helpful:<br />
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1. Fall in love with yourself. Think about what makes you You. Just like a flower that needs watering to grow, learn to nurture yourself in every way. Love yourself for all the good that you see and accept your flaws and the fact that you are imperfect. This does not meant that you do not learn to change from your shortcomings; instead, you are being gentle and kind to yourself for all your flaws. Look in the mirror and fall in love with the reflection that is You.<br />
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“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”Oscar Wilde quotes (Irish Poet, Novelist, Dramatist and Critic, 1854-1900)<br />
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2. Eliminate Self Criticism. Do you often berate yourself over the tiniest thing? Is there a little voice inside your head that often tells you that you are no good because you are stupid or make mistakes. If you find that you criticise yourself often, make an effort to stop the self criticism.<br />
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“I CAN is 100 times more important than IQ.” — unknown<br />
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3. Be Kind And Positive. When you start to think kindly and positively about yourself, the love you have for yourself just grows. Make it a habit to praise yourself everyday, while in the front of the mirror. Because of such thoughts, you naturally undertake empowering actions that support your development.<br />
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4. Acknowledge Your Effort. It’s not always about winning or having success in everything that you do. Many times, it is the effort that counts! Acknowledge that you’ve done your best, even if you have failed to produce tangible results.<br />
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5. Let Go Of Worry. Loving yourself requires you to let go of your worry. It is a horrible way to live a life filled with constant worrying. I can attest to that! Worry does not help in any way. It cannot, on its own, make things happen. Only wise actions can! So instead of worrying, spend time thinking about what you can do to help in the situation. If the situation is beyond your control, then ask the Universe for your desired outcome and let things work out on their own.<br />
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Things will come to be, if they are meant to be.<br />
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“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.” — Epictetus quotes (Greek philosopher associated with the Stoics, AD 55-c.135)<br />
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6. Trust Yourself. Have confidence in your abilities. Know that you have the ability to make important changes for yourself, for as long as you put your heart to it. You can also support yourself by visualizing desired outcomes.<br />
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“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.”Benjamin Spock quotes (American Pediatrician and Author, 1903-1998)<br />
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7. Forgive Yourself. If you have made mistakes in the past that had caused you to feel less worthy, then you need to forgive yourself. All of us make mistakes; so there really is no need to beat yourself up over them. Or if you’ve been carrying around a baggage of emotional hurt because of a childhood trauma, learn to forgive yourself that it is not your fault.<br />
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“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”Lewis B. Smedes quotes<br />
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8. Be Truthful To Yourself. Loving yourself requires you to be truthful about your own feelings. If you are happy, acknowledge the joy. If you are sad, acknowledge the sorrow. When you are truthful about your feelings, you do not try to lie to yourself or seek to bury your negative emotions. Instead, acknowledging what you feel provides a good guide to what your thoughts are. And as we all know, thoughts can be changed, so that healing and self growth can take place.<br />
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9. Grow Spiritually. When you spend time growing spiritually, loving yourself is an automatic thing. You become more peaceful, connected, kind, loving and compassionate. You nurture a mind that grows more beautiful by the day. How to not love yourself in the process?<br />
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10. Make Positive Affirmations Everyday. Post affirmations that can help raise your self esteem everyday. For instance, say this to yourself “I love and accept myself completely and unconditionally.” Read your affirmations out loud several times a day.<br />
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11. Express Gratitude. Express gratitude for the person that you are. For instance, cultivate an appreciation for your strengths and gifts. Also, feel a sense of gratitude that you are alive and well, and fully capable of making a difference in your life.<br />
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12. Nurture Your Dreams. Why deny yourself your dreams? When you nurture your dreams, you would love the life that you are leading. Every moment that you live is a joy because you are expressing yourself fully.<br />
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Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. —Mark Twain<br />
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13. Boost Your Self Confidence. Make a deliberate attempt to look for opportunities that can help improve your sense of Self. For instance, if you are particularly good at doing something, set aside more time to indulge and improve your skills on it. Knowing that you have particular gifts can boost your self esteem.<br />
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14. Relax. You need to give yourself space to take breaks every now and then. If you spend your time working, without paying attention to your health, it also means that you do not love yourself well enough to take care of your own body. Fill your time with silence, soothing music and visions of beauty; anything that nourishes your Soul.<br />
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15. Have Fun. Inject some fun into your life. Life is meant to be an enjoyable. Don’t take life or yourself too seriously. If you can think of life in this manner, you automatically relax and quit worrying over things that do not matter.<br />
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16. Look After Your Body. It is important that you strengthen yourself with proper nutrition and regular exercise. Your body is a temple and you should treat it with respect, love and care. It has been found that the lack of self love is often the root causes of conditions like eating disorders, obesity or even terminal diseases.<br />
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“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.”Jim Rohn quotes (American Speaker and Author. He is famous for motivational audio programs for Business and Life. )<br />
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17. Learn To See Beauty. When you learn to see beauty in every thing, you will also see beauty in yourself. Hence, stop to smell the flowers. Notice everything. Feel everything. The pink blush of the flowers in your garden, the greeness of the plains, the whisper of the gentle wind, or the myraid hues of an evening sky.<br />
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Here is a good affirmation to read and reflect on…..<br />
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“I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it — I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.<br />
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Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know — but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me.<br />
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However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.<br />
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I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.”<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-22592107246300511932012-09-30T23:25:00.000-04:002012-09-30T19:57:31.295-04:00My 10 Powerful ways to Manifest Everything You Desire in LifeEvery day in every way we are manifesting the reality of the life that we see around us. Whether we know it or not, whether we like it or not, everything in our life is created by what we think, say, and do.<br />
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I believe that people can learn to manifest the life of their dreams with ease, I have come to realize that there are 10 keys that consistently make a difference in successfully and joyfully creating in an effortless flow.<br />
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An important foundation to becoming a conscious creator is to recognize that it all begins within you. Your thoughts create your emotions, your emotions lead to the actions you take, and the actions you take effect the results that you see in your life.<br />
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Another essential idea is to realize that you do NOT have to do this alone! Our lives are designed to work in harmony, like a symphony, with the powerful creative forces of the Universe that are literally standing by to delight and excite us! As you become clear on what you choose, set your intentions, focus your attention, visualize what you choose as if it has already occurred, expect your desires to be full and fulfilled, express gratitude, and move forward to take the appropriate actions in your life, you are forever free from the habits of worry, doubt, and fear.<br />
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When you tap into the power of the Universe to support and assist you in creating the life of your dreams, you almost immediately begin to experience the magic and the miracles of life and living!<br />
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Make a commitment each day to your great wealth and success, and living a life that is full of rich, wonderful, loving, fun, healthy, abundant experiences!<br />
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<b>Here are 10 keys that will support you in consciously creating the life you love to live:</b><br />
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<b>1.</b> Choose a Higher Power that absolutely and completely LOVES and ADORES you, that always has your best interests at heart, and that wants you to enjoy all the riches of this life.<br />
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<b>2.</b> Choose powerfully and positively to create a road map for your success. Create a vivid vision of what you choose to move towards, rather than what you want to move away from. Be definite, clear, and specific.<br />
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<b>3</b>. Maintain a prosperity consciousness each and every day. Do not allow thoughts of lack, limitation, or competition to enter into your mind. Allow only the truth that there is limitless abundance in the Universe for everyone, including you!<br />
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<b>4.</b> Create and reinforce powerful, positive, supportive beliefs every day in what you think, say, and do.<br />
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<b>5.</b> Stay focused on your vision of what you know to be the truth. What you focus on expands. Where you place your attention is where you set your intention.<br />
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<b>6.</b> When you choose a financial truth, always state “at least” or “or more”. For example, “I am now earning $10,000 or more each month in passive income.” When you choose a material truth, always say “or better”. For example, “I am now driving my cherry red Mercedes-Benz 500SL with cream-colored interior or better”. Stay open to the limitless abundance of the Universe!<br />
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<b>7.</b> Be open to receiving in every area of your life. Expect the gifts, the miracles, and the magic. Expand and open more to joy, love and abundance.<br />
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<b>8.</b> Indulge yourself in gratitude for every thing in your life.<br />
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Every experience, every relationship, every penny in the street is a gift. Acknowledge the gifts and the blessings that are showered on you each and every day.<br />
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<b>9.</b> Be generous with yourself and others! What you give is always returned to you multiplied, and this is a confirmation to the Universe that you are ready, willing and able to receive.<br />
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<b>10.</b> Be present for the present. When you’re in the past, you’re in guilt and regret. When you’re in the future, you’re in fear. When you’re present in the present, you have the choice to create limitless wealth and abundance.<br />
<br />James Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-17411382922190407282012-09-25T17:02:00.000-04:002012-09-30T11:36:21.949-04:00Manifest your Vision using the Law of VibrationScience and Metaphysics agree. The essence of all things is vibration. Science reveals that everything in the manifest universe is ultimately composed of packets of energy; quantized units vibrating at specific frequencies. Esoteric wisdom reveals that in the beginning, all things were created through sound (i.e. vibration); whether it be the "OM" of Eastern mysticism or the "Word"/Logos of Western spirituality.<br />
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Our thoughts, feelings and actions also have their own particular rates of vibration. These vibrations will set up resonance with whatever possesses identical frequency. In other words, your thoughts are inseparably connected to the rest of the universe.<br />
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This is why it is so essential to be a close observer of yourself. As you think, feel and act, so you create the primary vibration of your being. This fundamental vibration then creates resonance with identical vibration frequencies in the universe. The result is an attraction of circumstances, people, challenges and opportunities in exact vibrational resonance with your own dominant vibration frequency.<br />
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This principle lies at the heart of visualization techniques, affirmations and the whole personal development movement. When you visualize and repeat affirmations, you are helping to tune your very being to a specific vibrational frequency on the inner planes. Once that task is achieved, your mind comes into vibrational resonance with the object of your desires. Being now of the same frequency, this object (or goal) is inevitably attracted into your life.<br />
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However, for such methods to work, it does imply that you have changed your core vibration. This is very often the problem AND explanation as to why such techniques seem to fail for so many people. Over the course of many years, your inner conditioning is created from the habitual thoughts, feelings and actions that you engage in. This forms your self-image and creates the level of self-esteem you feel. It shapes the way you conceptualize the world you live in, as well as the way you respond to it. It is how you interpret your life experiences. <br />
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If a person simply mouths affirmations or writes goals out, without having touched the deep bedrock of their long-term conditioning, such activities will not have much effect. This is because the dominant vibration has not changed. You cannot go against what your self-image, and your predominant conditioning, say you are. <br />
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Thought is where it all begins. As your conscious mind dwells habitually on thoughts of a certain quality, these become firmly imbedded within the subconscious mind. They become the dominant vibration. This dominant vibration sets up a resonance with other similar vibrations and draws them into your life. This is easier to understand if you consider that from the metaphysical view, the whole universe IS MIND.<br />
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Hence, to draw what you wish into your life, you should begin with the mind, and make it your primary focus. Most people do things the other way around, and come up with practical techniques to generate their desires, and then go out and try them. However, when these methods are not in tune with your dominant vibration, then you will have great difficulty making the desired results come to pass. You will also feel most uncomfortable if they do. You have trained your mind in a certain way, you have set the thermostat at a certain level, and now you are trying to exceed the limits you have set upon yourself by sheer force.<br />
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The trap most people fall into is that they condition their future with expectations from their past. It's like driving with your eyes fixed on the rear view mirror the whole time. You cannot see where you are going because you are too busy looking back on past history. Is it any wonder that, for most people, the future DOES closely resemble the past?!<br />
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The problem is that, by focusing continually on what you have become as a result of past conditioning, you guarantee that you draw this same dominant vibration into the future. This is also why your desired future can seem so far away from you. It is vibrating at an alien frequency and hence, in a real sense, it IS very far away.<br />
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Instead, you have to first change the dominant vibration within. Once your dominant vibration is in harmony with what you seek, the latter must literally be "attracted" to you without excessive striving! It will seem easy in comparison to what came before. In a very real sense, you have to become what you seek on the inside before you can ever have it in physical reality.<br />
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There are several ways to gradually change the dominant vibration of your inner being, and begin to resonantly attract what you seek. One important thing to do is to have a clear vision of your life as you want it to be; completely independent of the circumstances of your present or past. Lack of absolute clarity about their desired future could well be the number one reason why people fail in life. <br />
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You are creating something new from the universal intelligence, and drawing it into your reality. You do NOT have to base this upon the past, your perceived weaknesses, or anything else that derives from your limited self-image.<br />
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A good way to gain clarity is to write down in detail the attainment of what you seek. What would it look like? How would you feel if you achieved it? What difference would it make to your life? It may take you days, or even weeks, to create this vision, but it is time well spent.<br />
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By creating a vision of your desired state and putting energy into it regularly, you use mind power to shape the very stuff of creation. You create this imagined "reality" in your mind to the point where your subconscious actually believes it to be physical reality and goes about making it so. It will attract the circumstances, the people, and the opportunities you need to bring about the vision you have created.<br />
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If you are doubtful about this, consider for a moment that you are doing this anyway. The only difference is that you may be unaware you are doing it. If so, your overall vibration is incoherent, and hence your results fluctuate wildly. By becoming conscious, you take conscious control of the creative process and can learn to manifest at will.<br />
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Another way to change your vibration rate is to act "as if". If you had already attained what you seek, how would you think and act? Well, start thinking and acting that way right now. Again, this helps to impress the dominant vibration you choose upon your subconscious mind. Again, you have been doing this all your life anyway. Simply take conscious deliberate control of the process from now on. For instance, Cary Grant is known to have said:<br />
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"I acted like Cary Grant for so long, I became him." <br />
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Taking time to meditate regularly on the truth that all is vibration, seeing this reality in all is myriad guises, will also help reinforce it upon your mind - both conscious and subconscious. You will begin to believe it, and what you believe is what you act upon. <br />
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The reason most people achieve very little in comparison to what they are capable of is because they have no vision for the future whatsoever. Focused, single-minded concentration upon a vision you seek to create is what will actually cause it to happen. You have to read your description every day (preferably twice or more), and then vividly imagine it. Begin to live that reality now in your mind's eye, and you make its future manifestation all the more rapid. Do not even worry about how it will happen. Just do your part and let the universe, through the law of vibration, do the rest.<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-89100875512717539632012-09-11T17:21:00.000-04:002012-09-30T11:38:08.499-04:00My Four Steps to Get Rid of Negative ThoughtsNegative thoughts are a thousand times more addictive than drugs. My four step proven approach to help get rid of negative thoughts is presented here. Using this technique you can get rid of negative thoughts and make yourself a happier person.<br />
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Negative thoughts are a thousand times more addictive than drugs। Over time they become so that you cannot distinguish a thought as being separate from you.<br />
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Many mental health professionals and psychiatrists like Professor Aaron Beck of the University of Pennsylvania, who invented the Beck Hopelessness Scale, believe that depression is due to negative views towards the self, world, and especially the future. In his lifelong experience of working with depressed patients, Professor Beck found that they experienced streams of negative thoughts that habitually pop up spontaneously out of nowhere.<br />
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<strong>You can get rid of negative thoughts. There is hope for you. Others have done it, so can you!</strong><br />
There is a priceless and proven technique, which has helped lots of people get rid of negative thoughts that plague the mind. When you learn to get rid of negative thoughts you become a more positive person, who is happier. All the advice you get about “Think positive”, just doesn’t work if you can’t get rid of negative thoughts first. Using the following method you can get rid of much negativity in your life so that you can think positive.<br />
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<strong>So, here’s the method, step by step.<br /><br />1. Become Aware</strong><br />
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This is the first step. You have to recognise that you’re having a negative thought. The sure sign of a negative thought is that it lowers your energy level. Then it can also make you feel gloomy and bitter so that you can’t see any good in anything.<br />
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<strong>2. Label It</strong><br />
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Take a good look at your thought. “I’m experiencing a negative thought now.” Tell yourself like this. Then you decide that you will not let this negative thought take control of you. Visualize the thought going away from you or going into the ground. Once a day, find a place where you can sit alone quietly for a few minutes. Even a toilet will do if you have no other place. Visualize that you dump your negative thoughts onto a dead tree, a rock or the sea. Tell yourself that you don’t want them anymore.<br />
After doing this for a few days, you’ll notice a sudden change. Suddenly you’ll begin to feel your energy level stop sinking and the inner gloom will stop getting gloomier. Fantastic progress until now, so congratulate yourself. Treat yourself to a nice cake and then on to the next stage.<br />
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<strong>3. Exaggerate It</strong><br />
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Explore the negative thought and play with it। Stretch it and make it absolutely ridiculous। If you have a thought such as “I can’t go and tell my bank that I’d need to lower my monthly mortgage amount. They’d think I’m a loser”. Visualize all the people at the bank laughing out aloud so they roll on the floor pointing at you. Some of them manage to rush into the street and stop passers-by or get on the phone and call their friends and say out aloud “Can you imagine, we have a customer here who wants to lower her monthly mortgage amount!” Then everyone joins in to ridicule you, the traffic stops, TV cameras appear and they make a breaking-news alert, the president cancels his foreign trip.<br />
As you go on doing this thought stretching, you realize the absurdity of your negative thoughts. They begin to appear bizarre and lose their glue-like grip on you. Congratulations, you have now reached breakthrough point. The miracle has started taking place. You’ve started freeing your mind.<br />
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<strong>4. Be Thankful</strong><br />
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Notice that all your exaggerations did not actually take place। Things could have been far worse for you if they had. This is a reason to be thankful. The moment you start being thankful, a new ray of life enters and your inner gloom lights up. Things start happening to you that never happened before. Where there were only walls for you to bang your head, doors and windows appear. An end of the world disaster turns out to be an opportunity, a new beginning that you’d never have imagined. Now just relax and experience how new things come into your life in place of the old negative thoughts.<br />
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Many addiction recovery programs fail because there is no success in replacing drugs, liquor, or porn addiction with something positive and desirable. It is the same with negative thoughts. They become an addiction. So, when you start purging your mind of them, what do you put in their place? Being thankful brings a positive appreciation of your situation and you see yourself as part of a bigger picture.<br />
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You don’t have to be religious or expect archangels flapping wings and blowing fiery trumpets by your bedside as wake up in the morning। The perspective and relaxed feeling you get as you start becoming free of negative thoughts allows you to be more receptive and see opportunities. This is what is meant by “Thy will be done” in prayer. You recognize that your personal ego is rather tiny in the big picture. If you try to run everything with this tiny ego, you limit all possibilities to only those your tiny ego can imagine. Life contains infinitely more possibilities than you can imagine. Then, to your surprise, you start attracting positive thoughts.<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-4455626471593143682012-09-03T11:47:00.000-04:002012-10-01T20:52:34.627-04:00Law Of Attraction Means Living In Abundance And ProsperityThe law of attraction is very simple. To accept your abundance and prosperity, you will have to be careful of what you feel, think, believe and focus on... because it will become your life. It IS your life.<br />
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After years of being taught and raised in a world full of negative thoughts and ideas... it's only natural for us to have negative tendencies. We do become what we think!<br />
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So, after saying all of that--my point is this. If you can be trained to think negatively... you can be trained to think positively. And let me be the first to tell you that it ain't easy. But for the chance of attracting abundance and having this law working in your life--is it worth the try?<br />
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It takes work to un-do years of mental brainwashing about our world, our lives and the people and situations that surrounds us daily.<br />
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<b>Remaining Positive Takes Work</b><br />
Yes, the law of attraction is something a lot of us want, but getting our minds to remain focused on positive ideas all the time is going to take some serious work.<br />
All I can tell you is that I want this law working in my life. So I still have to remind myself about the goals I want to accomplish, and what I want my life to be. Negative thoughts still crop-up now and then but, my tendency is to squash them before they even take root.<br />
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Then I remind myself of the things I want in my life. It's a matter of what is more important. A negative thought or comment about something or someone. Or using the law of attraction to better my life. You can guess which one wins, every time.<br />
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<b>Start By Showing Contentment In Gratitude</b><br />
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Try filling your life with gratitude first. Gratitude for being here to practice this universal law. Live with gratitude, breath gratitude. It's easy to be grateful. Even for the smallest things in our lives. Show your contentment in gratitude.<br />
Then work up to being grateful for a positive outlook on life. Give people and situations, the benefit of doubt. Gratitude can and will take you far. Even to a life where using this law becomes very fruitful.<br />
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This particular law works on the principle of like energy attracts like energy. Our thoughts and emotions are energy... so basically, what we think and feel is what we're going to attract and experience in our lives.<br />
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Its orderly make-up is this... the entire cosmos is made of energy... and enegry vibrates. Everything that is made of energy vibrates at a certain level. Like vibrations attract each other... opposing vibrations repel each other.<br />
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Practicing this law (which is positive energy), will not work for a mind filled with hate, jealousy, doubt, fear and worry (which are all negative energies). They will repel each other. This is why aligning our emotional state is so important!<br />
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<b>According To The Law Of Attraction You Attract The Emotions You Live</b><br />
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And you will attract whichever emotion is stronger. Let's face it. You can have some very strong emotions when it comes to hate, fear, worry, jealousy, etc.<br />
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And that's because it has been with us all our lives. It has become second nature to us. Even though we are entitled to our beliefs, it doesn't mean we can't change - it just means we're going to have to put fort an effort to change.<br />
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Do you want the attraction working in your life? Ask yourself these questions. How dedicated am I toward getting the life I want? How hard am I willing to work for it? How bad do I want to change my life?<br />
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When you answer these questions you will have your answer.<br />
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The law of attraction works, but there has to be an emotional releasing of all the negative blockages that are holding you back. Blockages that are hidden deep in your sub-concscious mind. You can't move forward with your life, if negative situations from your pass or even the present are holding you back.<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-70461679511749427842012-08-30T18:40:00.000-04:002012-09-30T11:49:50.904-04:00Your Attitude Is EverythingWould you want to have an employee who is extremely good at his or her job but has a bad attitude or an average employee who has a positive attitude? Experienced CEOs understand that bad attitudes can reduce the effectiveness of their organization. Skills can be taught. Attitude is difficult to change.<br />
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People with positive attitudes are winners. They build an environment that values employees, suppliers and customers. They think positively. The words don't and can't are not in their vocabulary.<br />
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How do we identify winners? It is hard to tell by casual observation. Winners dress the same as everyone else, eat at the same restaurants and work at the same companies. Successful people come in all personality types, physical characteristics and professions. We identify them by their attitudes, behaviors and results.<br />
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Winners don't give up. The sad truth about people who give up is they are just as capable as those who don't. The main difference is their attitude.<br />
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Conscious thoughts precede actions. By choosing our thoughts, we act our way into certain circumstances. Positive attitudes help us be more productive. We are who we think we are. If we think we can, we can. If we think we can't, we can't. Attitude Defined<br />
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What is an attitude? Some say it's a mindset, a way of thinking, which is partly right. In simple terms, an attitude is a habit of thought. Usually we think of habits as behaviors; the way we do something. Habits can be mental as well. Therefore an attitude is our habitual way of looking at our world.<br />
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We develop attitude habits through conditioning. Conditioning begins at a very early age and continues throughout our lives. Sometimes our conditioning is negative, for instance a mother's admonitions to a young child. This negativity may generate many self imposed limitations.<br />
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The elephant provides a simple example. An elephant is staked to the ground. As a baby it isn't strong enough to remove the stake. Later when the elephant is full grown and could easily pull the stake, it doesn't because it "knows" it can't.<br />
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Our attitudes are the key to our health, relationships, happiness and achievements. They determine how we live and whether we succeed in life.<br />
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We control our attitudes. We alone have the responsibility to shape our life. Walt Kelly said: "We have met the enemy and they is us. We are all that is holding us back."<br />
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<b>Attitudes of Winners</b><br />
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Winners have many positive attitudes. Three that are particularly important in professional lives are enthusiasm, persistence and desire.<br />
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Enthusiasm produces the confidence that announces to the world, "I have what it takes."<br />
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Enthusiasm is often misunderstood. It is frequently confused with the temporary exuberance seen at sporting events.<br />
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Long lasting enthusiasm is different. It is a confident commitment, a wholehearted action, an ardent belief. When you possess enthusiasm life is more enjoyable and work is always part play no matter how demanding. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm." Persistence is critical. Faced with difficulties, you can quit or keep pushing on. The choice is yours. But if you want to be a winner you will stay with the task and see it through.<br />
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Modern technology has taught us to expect instant gratification. We become discouraged if we have to wait. Many people give up when faced with delay. Time, dedication and commitment are always the minimum price tag we pay to complete projects that are important.<br />
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How do we project persistence? Never, never, never give up!<br />
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Intense desire creates opportunities and reveals new personal talents. Desire is much more than wishing or wanting. Desire differentiates between mature commitment and unfocused daydreaming.<br />
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Those who lack desire are always too busy to do what needs to be done. Desire pushes you to work harder in a positive sense. People with strong desire understand the pure joy of work. Their success comes not at the end of a battle, but as the culmination of a game. Every day they work towards their long range goals, reinforcing their desire to do more and do it better each day.<br />
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Desire is the attitude that transforms us from average to outstanding achievers.<br />
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<b>Attitude and Work Environment</b><br />
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Many employees believe that their employer is solely responsible for the conditions that lead to job enjoyment. This is only partially true. Both the employer and employees have a shared responsibility for building positive workplace expectations.<br />
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Yes, the company and management have responsibility. Effective CEOs build a culture where people want to work and want to excel. They ensure, by leading with a Servant's Heart, that their employees feel appreciated and know the company has their personal best interests in mind.<br />
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Employees also have responsibilities. If they have a positive productive attitude they will to be happy. Conversely those who always complain create an environment that drags their coworkers down. Employees are responsible for creating their personal satisfaction on their job.<br />
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Employees with positive attitudes make their work environment a positive experience. They strive for an attitude of excellence and exude excellence in the way they work.<br />
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They go the extra mile. Instead of thinking "I did my part, someone else dropped the ball," they ensure a positive outcome by refusing to accept the alternative.<br />
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We can choose to do the minimum required or we can decide to excel. This decision to make a difference is a personal attitude that desires us to be the best we can be.<br />
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<b>Summary</b><br />
Experienced leaders understand how positive attitudes play an important part in driving the success of their organization. They build a culture where positive people can thrive and reach their personal goals. These leaders understand that when both the organization and employees reach their goals great accomplishments are possible.<br />
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People with positive attitudes are winners. They think "I can," not "I can't."<br />
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Attitudes are the mental habits through which we view our world. They are key to all the success and happiness we gain in our personal and professional lives.<br />
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People with positive attitudes overcome problems. They don't accept mediocrity. They view their work as a game helping them reach their long term goals.<br />
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People with positive mental attitudes exhibit personal leadership. Regardless of their professional responsibilities, they live their lives in a manner that inspires others.<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-90199870590582718672012-08-16T12:44:00.000-04:002012-10-01T21:07:13.379-04:00My 14 Ways to Live a Better Life … Starting Today!You’ve probably noticed that the market is saturated with self-help guides, audio books, and outrageously-priced seminars by motivational speakers. This is simply proof that most people enjoy receiving advice from others.<br />
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Here are a few “tips” that I’ve discovered on my own. Some of them are a bit humorous, but most of them are common sense. I think if you do your best to take them to heart, you’ll start to notice a clearer head and a bigger smile on your face.<br />
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<b>1. Wake up at a reasonable hour.</b> Everyone’s schedule is different, so if you work the night shift, your “reasonable hour” may be noon, but it’s a good idea to wake up before you have to. When I was in college I had the horrible habit of crawling out of bed ten minutes before I had to be in class. Although nearly everyone I knew at the time did the same exact thing, looking back, I see how stupid it really was. If I have a ten o’clock appointment, I wake up at seven so I can get in some exercise, take a shower, and eat breakfast before I run out the door.<br />
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<b>2. Think of something that you have to look forward to.</b> Once the alarm goes off and the initial confusion of “Ugh, it’s already morning!” has ended, think of something cool that you have going on in your life at the moment. Yeah, it sounds hokey, but it’s pretty helpful … and I’m sure you can think of something. Come on, anything! It can be as simple as, “Oh yeah! It’s Thursday, and that means it’s almost Friday! Weekend, here I come!” or something even better, like “The FedEx man is gonna deliver my new flat screen TV today!”<br />
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<b>3. Look in the mirror.</b> I’ve seen plenty of people in the movies and on TV shows who look at themselves in the mirror each morning and say things like, “You’re awesome!” or “You can do it!” before they start their day. I know this sounds relatively insane, but it helps—and I speak from experience. If you can’t tell yourself that you’re good at something and actually believe it, why should you believe anyone else who says it?<br />
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<b>4. Take a shower and get dressed.</b> This may be a no-brainer, but spending five or ten minutes in the shower will help clear your head and make you feel a whole lot better. Hopefully you can even find clean clothes to wear. (You know, ones that were hanging in the closet as opposed to the ones that are still in the laundry basket on the floor, wrinkled and covered in cat hair since Fluffy decided to take a nap on them.)<br />
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<b>5. Scan the news online, read the “real” newspaper for a few minutes, or tune into the news channel on TV for a few minutes. </b>However you get your news is up to you, but it’s a good idea to stay on top of things that are going on in the world, even though lately most of the news makes everyone angry. You shouldn’t be ignorant about issues that may affect you personally, and you’ll want to have firsthand knowledge as to what’s happening in case someone asks you about it later or tries to force their opinions on you as “the truth.”<br />
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<b>6. Eat breakfast.</b> Eating breakfast is a biggie that a lot of people skip, so be sure to eat something. A container of yogurt, a banana, maybe a granola bar as you run out the door … just be sure to eat. You’ll need energy to get through the morning. I like Starbucks just as much as the next guy, but a cup of coffee is not breakfast—even if it has chocolate syrup in it and whipped cream on top.<br />
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<b>7. Make a to-do-list each day.</b> I run my own internet business and mainly work from home (or a hotel, or wherever “home” may be at the time) so it’s a huge benefit to know what I have going on each day. Even if you spend your days at the office, you’ll still want to have some kind of agenda to follow. Set up a schedule on your Blackberry or write things down on a legal pad, but do it somehow … or you’ll wind up forgetting something important.<br />
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<b>8. Get to work safely.</b> Again, I only work from home, but if you drive to work – or ride your bike to work, or take the bus or train – do it safely. This is also why it’s a good idea to wake up relatively early. Rushing leads to speeding and speeding leads to tickets or fender benders … which will make you even later than you were going to be in the first place.<br />
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<b>9. Take a deep breath and count to 3 when something starts to bug you.</b> Co-workers, clients, things that aren’t going as smoothly as possible … there are dozens of things that can easily start to drive you nuts at the drop of a hat. You don’t want to wind up getting so frustrated with someone or something that you wind up going postal, so close your eyes and take a deep breath as you mentally count to three before you say something you may regret. Most likely, whatever’s bugging you isn’t as bad as you think it is.<br />
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<b>10. Periodically take a break</b> … away from your desk! Be sure to walk away from your desk every few hours. You’ll wind up getting frustrated if you sit there staring at your monitor nonstop, and your eyes will start to hurt. Getting up for five or ten minutes every three or four hours will not blow your entire day, believe me. You also need to take a break and eat lunch. Sitting at your desk with a Snickers bar that you got from the vending machine doesn’t count.<br />
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<b>11. Tie up as many loose ends as possible before the work day ends.</b> We all know that some days you’ll wind up working later than expected, but don’t make it a habit or your boss (or you) will start to assume that you really do work twelve hours each day even though you get paid for eight. Get as many things done as possible each day, but try to leave on time. There’s always tomorrow.<br />
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<b>12. Eat dinner.</b> I had to stress the importance of eating breakfast and lunch, so of course I’m going to remind you to eat dinner! And if today is one of those days you wind up putting in some overtime, get up from your desk to eat dinner. A carton of Chinese take-out every night of the week will begin to affect your waistline and your mood. Try to eat dinner with other people, if possible. Everyone should have friends. (You know, besides Fluffy the cat, even though I’m sure he’s cool.)<br />
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<b>13. Enjoy a hobby after work.</b> Whether it’s taking a bike ride or a walk, watching a movie, reading a novel, it’s a good idea to have some sort of hobby besides work! Spend an hour or two doing something that you enjoy to help get your mind off of work.<br />
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<b>14. Unwind a bit before bed, and get ready to repeat the cycle tomorrow!</b> Whether “unwinding” involves the above-mentioned hobby or something else, take time to chill out for a bit before hitting the sack. This will give you the ability to get a good night’s sleep, wake up, and do it all over again … and if this happens on Friday night, you probably don’t have to go to work tomorrow! Even better!<br />
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Yes, some of these fourteen tips might seem a bit common sense. The funny thing is they really work. I guarantee that implementing them into your daily routine will make you feel happier and more excited about the possibilities that each day brings!<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-31407815666300165822012-08-09T11:08:00.000-04:002012-10-01T21:06:42.327-04:00The Law Of Giving And ReceivingThe universe operates through dynamic exchange . . . giving and receiving are different aspects of the flow of energy in the universe. And in our willingness to give that which we seek, we keep the abundance of the universe circulating in our lives.<br />
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Giving: It’s what it’s all about.<br />
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<b>One of the greatest laws is the law of giving.</b><br />
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It is a phenomenal law.<br />
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Give freely and happily. Always form a habit of giving cheerfully.<br />
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Give first before you receive. Whatever energy you give will come back to you in an amazing way.<br />
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You may give away your time, for example, and it comes back to you much later from an unexpected source in an unexpected form in a way that benefits you greatly. You cannot insist on a particular way and time it will come back to you, but you can be assured it will come back in the best way for you.<br />
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<b>Give. Give. Give. And do so cheerfully and freely.</b> It is the energy behind the giving that matters so do not give grudgingly. The law of cause and effect guarantees that you shall receive plenty for what you give.<br />
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<b>Life is for giving…</b><br />
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Give what you have of your – time, money, smiles, love, compliments, anything. And you will get back what you do not have on you.<br />
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<b>Give graciously and receive gratefully.</b> Grace and gratitude are the energizing factors of giving and receiving.<br />
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By taking care of society and nature, you take care of yourself. Share with and give to nature and society often. It is the goose that lays the golden eggs, and it needs to be protected and nourished so that it can protect and nourish you.<br />
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<b>Share. Give. Help others.</b> In the proportion and to the extent that you cause others to build their wealth, so will you build your wealth.<br />
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Invest some time in and share your money with others. This enables others to build wealth. This is another great way for you to take care of society, to make it wealthy so that you may also get wealthier from it.<br />
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<b>The Universe is all energy.</b> Energy flows. Giving promotes this energy flow, placing you in harmony with the powers of the Universe. Whatever you wish to have, cause another being to have it first, and you will begin to have it in abundance.<br />
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<b>Give and you will receive in multiples.</b> For example, if you wish to have wealth, show others how to have wealth, and in an amazing way, you will soon find yourself wealthy. It is a very complicated system that works perfectly. Give cheerfully!<br />
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<b>Share, share, share.</b> It is an investment banked with the Universe that returns to you with amazing interest. Share gladly and genuinely.<br />
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What you wish to have, cause another to have. To have wealth and abundance cause another to have it. How do you cause others to have wealth?<br />
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Teach these lessons to your friends that are interested in wealth. Show them this book and others like it. Form study groups or mastermind circles with them. Where two or more are gathered, the whole is more than the sum of its parts.<br />
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<b>Develop an awareness that enables you to look out for and see all opportunities where you can give something freely and cheerfully.</b> You can give material things, your time, skills, or anything else.<br />
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Get out of the habit of thinking that you should receive something first before you give. That is not giving. That is an exchange.<br />
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Giving freely and cheerfully enables you to do business, if you wish to look at it that way, with the Universe. This is how it works: You give someone something that you have now with you - freely and cheerfully. The Universe, by the law, finds the best way to give back that energy to you in the form of something that you do not have with you. it gives you back in multiples, when it is most appropriate, in the most appropriate form. It is a magical process. Obviously, the more you give, the more magic you create for yourself. Life starts to work for you.<br />
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<b>Develop a strong desire and persistence to give cheerfully and freely</b>.<br />
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In your goal setting, remember to include several goals that are about free and cheerful giving.<br />
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Giving, under the law of cause and effect, is one of the most powerful actions you can take.<br />
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<b>It returns in multiples, sevenfold. You cannot afford to leave out giving in your life plan. You cannot afford to leave it to chance occurrence.</b><br />
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Develop giving into a habit, something you do naturally without having to think of it. This makes you into a consistent and persistent giver and the Universe will work for you.<br />
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<b>Give spontaneously.</b><br />
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Work on the habit of giving until you get to the point where you enjoy giving. Enjoy it thoroughly.<br />
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It is ok to think and know that when you give you will get back something from the Universe. You do not have to pretend you are not interested in receiving a reward for giving.<br />
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Expecting reward is good. In fact, expecting a reward is empowering a reward to come to you.<br />
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The violation of the law of giving comes when you start expecting to receive something back from the same being you give to, saying "Well, I did this for you so you should do that for me." In fact demanding a particular reward back is a violation. It makes you "trading" minded rather than "cheerful and free giving" minded. Never ask for or expect payback" from those you give to. The reward you receive will come from a source and a time and in a form that the Universe finds best suited for you.<br />
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<b>You always have something to give.</b> Time, complements, talent, money, knowledge, share a book, etc.<br />
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Giving has one bonus effect: it shows you what you have but did not know you had. Say you wished to have wealth. You then decide to give wealth first by helping others learn how to have wealth. You read books such as these, help where you can with such knowledge, share these kind of books, and so on. In that process, magically, you end up realizing you had a whole lot of wealth and wealth capabilities that you previously thought you lacked.<br />
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You are surrounded with abundant opportunities to give, but you only see them when you decide to start seeing them.<br />
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<b>Learn also to receive graciously and happily.</b> Do not feel uncomfortable receiving. You deserve it and by receiving, you are in harmony with the law of giving and receiving.<br />
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The trick to giving is to not force it upon those you give to.Offer your gift freely and cheerfully. Show your hand. Do not shove. Show. If the receiver does not wish to take your gift, respect that cheerfully. Do not get offended if your gift is not accepted. Allow the other person their full nature of freedom of choice. And do not make a person dependent on you. When a person becomes dependent on your gifts unnecessarily, you have not done them any good because you have reduced their belief and ability in themselves.<br />
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Here is a likely scenario. Imagine a person who does not have much in material possessions to give and share with others. But this person is very charming and kind. The person gives a thousand compliments to people he or she comes across without even getting one compliment back. This person uplifts their mood and confidence by finding ways to encourage and compliment them. But this person never gets a compliment back from anybody. Well, not to worry. The Universe keeps its accounts perfectly. This person’s giving builds credit in the universal system. One day, by the law of cause and effect, of giving and receiving, this person somehow gets the bicycle he or she has always wanted -just when the person needed it - in a way that looks like a miracle. It could be by winning some competition, or having it given to them by a stranger, or one of a countless other possibilities, what people call luck. That is how giving works. Sometime the Universe takes little things that you have, can give, and do give, and it puts them into one big thing that you do not have and require and it gives that to you at a perfect time.<br />
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All other things held constant, to the extent that an individual or society shares and gives in the right way, so will they have wealth and happiness. Now you know how to do business with the Universe, so to speak.<br />
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<b>The Universe itself is a giving Universe, for life is for giving.</b> You give and you receive sevenfold – you actually are rewarded for your kindness. The Source, Life, is all about giving, and the intelligence that runs the Universe honors your giving always, all ways. Give cheerfully! Everything in life is a gift. Especially with regard to wealth and happiness, never cease to cause others to have wealth and happiness, and you will have wealth and happiness in multiples! But what goes with giving? Receiving. And what goes with that? <b>Gratitude</b>...Let's have a look at that tomorrow.<br />
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<b>In the mean time make this commitment.</b><br />
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I will put the Law of Giving into effect by making a commitment to take the following steps:<br />
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<b>1.</b> Wherever I go, and whomever I encounter, I will bring them a gift. The gift may be a compliment, a flower, or a prayer. Today, I will give something to everyone I come into contact with, and so I will begin the process of circulating joy, wealth and affluence in my life and in the lives of others.<br />
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<b>2.</b> Today I will gratefully receive all the gifts that life has to offer me. I will receive the gifts of nature: sunlight and the sound of birds singing, or spring showers or the first snow of winter. I will also be open to receiving from others, whether it be in the form of a material gift, money, a compliment or a prayer.<br />
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<b>3.</b> I will make a commitment to keep wealth circulating in my life by giving and receiving life’s most precious gifts: the gifts of caring, affection, appreciation and love. Each time I meet someone, I will silently wish them happiness, joy and laughter.<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-90345631239815871112012-08-03T10:43:00.000-04:002012-10-01T21:06:00.739-04:00Killer ProspectingWhat I want everyone to do right now is to think back to the day you taught your child to ride their bike? Or the day your parents taught you…<br />
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Did you or your parents engage in the art of selling on that day? Of course, and do you recall the one and only question you had? There was only thing that had to be proven? <b>CAN I DO IT.</b><br />
I realize that life is still in the way, and for some of you and that I’m asking you to plow through less than ideal circumstances in order to begin implementing these skills, I’m asking you to understand that peace comes from success, and success comes from action, based on strength, conviction or belief, and skill.<br />
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Everything you’ve learned since you began working online were in preparation of you beginning the process of writing your story, the story of your success, and in order to break through, you must first break down, most people are victims of self doubt, self imposed fears, negativity, and in order to succeed you have to get this garbage out of the way first. We have heard many people say fake it till you make it, and what this translates to is lie until you create your story, but before you do that ask yourself this question Do I have to have a story BEFORE I build my business, or activity? The answer is nope, all you have to have is a true heart.<br />
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One other thing before we get started, My partner and my testimonials aren’t worth salt, people will see our history in the industry and immediately begin to segregate us based on experience and successes , people will simply disregard their potential and say well, that’s them, and create the exception rather than the rule. But Your testimonials are gold, pay dirt, worth more than anything I could ever say or do, but you aren’t going to fake it till you make it, we are going to create your testimonials based on results.<br />
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Effective prospecting is not one simple approach to selling, it is a very complex program, and one must understand the psychology of prospecting to do it effectively.<br />
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I never ever stress about when I’m going to begin, stories of other people enrolling 1 or 5 or 10 don’t phase me at all, they make me smile, I’m always glad to see other people experiencing success, but in truth, I know I convert qualified prospects at 90 plus percent, and I know why, because I know how. And I will teach you how also.<br />
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These lessons have been consolidated into a three part series when I delivered this training before it was a 10 part series, within these lessons I will validate one primary thing , and that is that you have to find success. The things I’m going to share with you will most likely not be like anything anyone ever told you before, I always say whatever I deliver is take it or leave it information, keep what feels right to you, this time I’m going to ask you to trust me, trust what I say, and why I say it. I’m going to ask you to ask me any question you like, whether it be based on an idea you have to get you where you need to be, a fear that you think may be holding your back, whatever fear you may have because for the hour or so we are specifically addressing psychological barriers to prospecting success.<br />
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So you’re learning to ride a bike, and your parents are engaging in the art of selling, you only have one question, the most important question, <b>CAN I DO IT.</b> Write that down, with a question mark, can I do it? Never ever forget that question.<br />
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Do you recall what trickery your parents used that day? One minute their running along behind the seat, holding on, and your peddling away as fast as you can because why? I mean you don’t know if you can do it, even if they have spent hours coaxing you, hours telling you, you can do it, you still don’t know because you never agreed that you could, they never proved that you could but you trusted them, and what did they do? They let go…they proved to you that you could do it…and you rode…Can I do it, and the answer is yes you can, can we do it, yes we can, does that sound familiar, of course it does the President of the united states, as a Candidate engaged in the art of selling. The very first time I saw the sign, that said “Yes we can” I knew it was the winning line, because I had employed the exact same tactic for years and it worked 90 plus percent of the time…<br />
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<b>CAN I DO IT…</b><br />
The very first thing you have to learn about effective prospecting is you have only one thing to sell, forget, about the product, forget about the website, forget about the presentation, but never forget your prospect has only one question, there is only one thing you must accomplish in this call, and that is you must answer that question, which is by the way, the one question every prospect has, and the one question none of them will ever ask, it is an unspoken law, answer the question, get the sale. Your success lies in the answer,<br />
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Can you know too much? So many people do not actively engage in prospecting, because they believe they won’t do it right, or they don’t know enough, remember this, the more you know, the less you win.<br />
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Let me tell you why, isn’t it amazing that the one thing that has been holding you back, is the one thing that will cost you the sale.<br />
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When prospecting, from the first syllable to the last, you are being heard, your prospect is listening to what you say, and more importantly how you say it ( which we will cover in another lesson) , but all the while they have the one question, can I do it? If you go way out in left field comp plan, matrixes etc , you will begin to lose the sale, will you sound like an expert, of course but you begin to create distance between yourself and your prospect, because you are answering the question, and you seem to know so much, your prospect is beginning to doubt whether or not they could ever know that much, they are thinking about all they have to learn, all they have to do, you are saying things they don’t understand, and they are checking the list, matrix? I don’t know what a matrix is, what does that mean? You are answering the question can I do it, with too much knowledge.<br />
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Remember the answer to both questions is always the same,<br />
If the answer to the question can I do it? Is no then the answer to will you join my business or activity is also no.<br />
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If the answer to the question can I do it is yes, then the answer to will you join my business or activity is also yes.<br />
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We will of course never ask anyone to join our business, or participate in our activity never ever, we don’t ask that question, and I’ll share more on the reason why too.<br />
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We’ve been talking about the one question every prospect has, the one that they never ask, yet you are required to answer in order to get the sale Every time. And that was “Can I Do It “ and we have learned the answer must always be yes.<br />
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You might be thinking perhaps it is as easy as saying “You can do this” or “anyone can do this” and on one hand this is true, but it’s how you say it that counts in the end. We always say it without saying it; it’s less of a pitch and much more effective this way. Remember saying anything doesn’t make it so, it becomes truth through validation that occurs in your prospects mind, you don’t sell anyone, they have to sell themselves, we are not in the business of selling, we are in the business of presenting, we are information brokers by trade.<br />
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We have talked about becoming an expert, and I also said that it is quite possible to oversell or over present your opportunity, and cost yourself a sale by being the expert, so how does the whole thing balance out.<br />
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I’m going to explain it like this, becoming an expert on the Industry, which when dealing with a prospect amazingly enough has zero affect on the question they have, because they never make a connection between what you happen to know about the industry and anything that they would be required to learn, they will only ever assess whether or not they can learn specifically about the model, the very thing that you represent, so in a sense there are several things that happen when you become an industry expert, one you validate that you really know what the problem is, which says to your prospect if you know what the problem is, then you must know where the solution lies, and you must realize how to solve it, this is the first positive ping on the mental check list of your prospect. Remember 99% of the people you speak to are NOT first time lookers, and they are very well aware of the challenges, have already evaluated themselves out of network marketing as a result of what they have seen and heard so far, the answer they have gotten to the question can I do it? Is a resounding no! Then in walks the master prospector, it’s important to note one thing here, master prospecting skills are never ever about how many people you recruit, never, because anyone can plow through the numbers, it is about conversion only, how many you enroll per number of conversations, anything less than 1 in 5 which is one enrollment per 5 conversations should send you back to prospecting school. That should be the goal, does it mean you start out that way? Absolutely not, but it does mean that you are learning as you go, and your conversions per conversation should be getting higher and higher, it could be 1 in 20, one enrollment per 20 conversations starting out, you should then be striving for 1 in 10, but enrolling 25 in 400 conversations would be a total bust, it’s always about conversion, as long as you are monitoring conversion you are constantly honing your skills. Now on to becoming an expert<br />
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Example: Well Mary you know statistically 98% of the people that enter into a home based business opportunity fail, (do not fear saying this you are actually validating yourself and your activity or company, and I guarantee your prospect already knows this.) That’s why when I saw the perfect gift plan model I was so impressed, Mary knowing how challenging it is for the average person to ever make any decent money on the Internet I immediately saw an opportunity where anyone could succeed, this would be a great time to talk about how easy it is. You will also want to add as an expert that most all network marketing companies will require you to enroll or sponsor 100’s and 100’s of people to ever make any good income, problem 2, master prospector solution, all we will ever ask you to do Mary is sponsor two people. Just two participants, people like yourself that you know could use more cash in their lives not only that but we are a group of individuals who truly care about others, and for us it’s not all about the money it’s about having a plan that will actually help people without the challenges, we have a plan that solves the industry problem, and changes the statistics, it’s not only possible for people to receive in abundance, it’s probable, I guess I have to say Mary that is the number one thing that attracted me to this activity. People are looking for a plan that will work for them, without having to conquer the learning curve that most opportunities would require before you can succeed, with our plan you could be receiving cash today<br />
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Now in the course of this short example we have covered three problem areas in the industry, and we did it ethically intact without naming names, or being less than professional, we did it from the position of industry expert, without making the prospect feel as though they could never do what you just did.<br />
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Now let me tell you what just happened in a 30 second conversation, In this example we would be very near accomplishing everything that we need in order to close this sale, these are the things that occurred,<br />
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1)We showed compassion towards people<br />
2)We edified our activity<br />
3)We proved we knew what was wrong in our industry<br />
4)We solidified our commitment to change that<br />
5)We removed all doubt that this is like all the rest<br />
6)We sold its simplicity all you need is two<br />
7)We sold our mission to help others<br />
8)We showed them it was possible to get what they came for which is money…today<br />
9)We were experts without intimidating our prospect<br />
10)And most importantly we are well on our way to answering Mary’s one and only question. Can I Do It?<br />
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The next step is going to be covering the plan, and how it works or helping Mary understand that she can get what she needs here, and you don’t have to break it down, the website and the Movie can do that for you.<br />
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The one other thing we didn’t do is cover the cost or out of pocket, remember guys we are working with psychology here, after all of that, we need to give our prospect time to start assessing the possible costs…<br />
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Ideally the meter is running and they are thinking, if you presented correctly Mary will be thinking that it has to be 400.00 500.00 maybe more, based on what she’s heard from others while researching home based business.<br />
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In the example above we presented, any prospect who feels they are being sold, will resist mainly because they don’t want to sell, if you sell, they feel like they have to, remember they are listening, they are qualifying themselves every step of the way (can I do what he/she is doing). We have one job, and that is to present them with information, in the example we did it eloquently professionally without threat, or discomfort, we simply provided the information they needed to answer the only question they have. Your Job is to present, your goal to answer the question. Never sell anything, you have nothing to sell.<br />
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In the first half of our training we discussed that can I do it, is the one question you must answer in every conversation about your business. We also talked about becoming the expert, and NOT over selling your opportunity or activity, making sure that everything you do throughout your presentation comes across as something your prospect can see themselves doing, presenting with simplicity.<br />
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I am trying to deliver this information in order of importance, and in this last part we’re going to discuss “planning your work day” which you could call “achieving balance” or creating a structured work environment.<br />
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So why is this so important, it’s important because becoming disciplined and organized are key to your success. You cannot allow your business to run you, you must run your business.<br />
The key to achieving all of these things is in the way you schedule your day. It’s going to be impossible for me to schedule it for you, since I don’t know what you can do when. All I can do is lay out a perfectly structured day as an example, and then hope that you guys can follow suit around your own circumstances.<br />
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So the first step to structuring your days would be to determine what you have to do as part of your daily ritual, and what time you typically do this. Example: If your kids get on the Bus at 7:30 then that is not part of your work structure.<br />
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We always build our business around life, NOT the othe5r way around, the other way will not work, you will never find balance, and a lot of bad things can occur if you try to build your life around business.<br />
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So ask yourself this question “When can I work”? This is the first thing you need to know, then block out the hours when you are taking care of life. Unless you have a fairly regular schedule you may want to create your schedule weekly, but once you make your work schedule stick to it, this is where discipline comes in. If you know you need to mow the lawn Tuesday morning, then obviously Tuesday morning gets blocked out.<br />
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This is so important because you need to be able to function without the stress of unfinished tasks, and without the guilt that can come from neglecting certain aspects of your life, you have to be free to work. This does not mean that you are going to work one hour a week, because if you do it simply won’t produce the results you are looking for, however one hour a week can be reserved for a certain task in relation to work.<br />
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Remember, what we talked about last week, your job is to present, you are an information broker, so this is essentially a process that you go through routinely, and you should do it repetitiously, do the same thing over and over again. With minor variations based on the differences that may be found from one prospect to another, other than that what you do is always the same, this way you get better and better at your game.<br />
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Get organized, I cannot stress this enough, if you don’t have a day planner, get one, it’s your prospecting bible. In my case, my day goes like this, I start work at 9:00 AM, and I begin by looking at my planner, which is actually an appointment book, this works best for me.<br />
My Prospecting days are scheduled like this, from 9:00 to 12:00 I am making first calls, whether or not they are leads, people who have visited my website or whatever the case may be, first calls are made from 9:00-Noon. At noon, I have some lunch. Then from roughly 12:30 to 2:00 this is admin time, during these hours, I send emails to anyone that I spoke to that would possibly recap what we talked about and include an invitation to attend a call, I mainly have prospecting days on call days, and should you choose you could very well prospect all day on call days and reserve the following day for follow up.<br />
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On prospecting day you are making calls in the morning, I use Melissa Data to verify time zone so that I don’t call anyone at 7:00 in the morning, and try to call everyone after 9:00-9:30 AM, and never after 5:30-6:00 at night unless they ask me to.<br />
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So I make my calls, present, and let them know I will be sending them an email in the next few hours which contains the information they need to attend an overview call, remember I’m not selling, I’m brokering information, and these calls are part of that process. At this time I’m going to schedule a follow up call, typically I say “Mary after you have had a chance to attend the over view call I’d like to call you back so that I can answer any questions you might have, If it’s Tuesday then I want to call her back no later than Wednesday, some will instruct you to call them back immediately after the call, and this can work if your goal is to emotionally sell them, rather than have them join you from a place of intelligence, remember we want to enroll fewer people who create a stronger foundation rather than a lot who will buy emotionally and quit as a result of buyers remorse, so give them a day to think things through, in our case we have nothing to hide, and should not fear allowing them time to further their due diligence process, now if your prospect is going to visit the scam boards and find a bunch of garbage about your business, then we will address that later on, either by becoming an experts on why it is people post those items, and helping our prospects understand that scam, boards are nothing more than marketing platforms, and there is little or no value to them in making a sound business decision, because everyone posting is a network marketer. Or we will close them more quickly, but we’ll talk about those things another day. “ so Mary What time Wednesday afternoon is best for you? Say it like this because Mary wants all the time she can get before you ask her for money or she has to make a decision, so if you say what is a good day, she will likely say anytime next week, which will never work, because you have to spend your whole call reminding her who you are and why you are calling and so on. Write your appointment in your book. Wednesday after you have made Wednesday calls you know who you have to follow up with and what time they want you to call. Be on time the first time, it’s ok to tell Bob that you really need to run because you have another appointment in order to stay on schedule.<br />
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There is one other thing that I do, I use a contact sheet which is nothing more than a document that I print out, that has my prospects name email and phone, and a place for notes, when I hang up every call, or finish every conversation I write down anything important that my prospect told me, for instance why they need a home based business, what they do now, etc. This way when I call her back I remember or appear to remember what we talked about which scores big with your prospects, lets them know they matter. Then I slide the sheets into the planner, and before I dial the number I go back over notes of what they said, this way it is comfortable and is simply a continuation of the previous call.<br />
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However it is that you choose to organize and structure your business would be up to you, and would depend on your daily schedule, but just make sure you do it, and it’s structured so that you are not bouncing all over the place, when you are prospecting, that is all you are doing, when you follow up, that is all you are doing, and when you are closing THAT is all you are doing, you will hone your skills, and get better and better by taking this approach and it will also help you to eliminate any discomfort you may have. My partner sometimes says I am a Recruiting Machine, and it’s not that so much as the fact no one gets away, I use a flawless prospecting system that is driven by organization, it’s all part of a process and I never lose track of where I am in the process with any one prospect, I can lay my hands on the place I left off in a matter of seconds, so if my phone rings and Mary says “ Lori this is Mary Smith we spoke yesterday and last night I went to the call, by the time she introduces herself and tries to remind me, I am prepared to ease her discomfort by acknowledging that not only do I remember her, but I recall all of the details, again, you big score when you can do this. So the third most important thing in the process of becoming a master prospector is get organized, develop your system, and use it.<br />
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Here's the real truth behind the success of every top income earner in the industry ....work your tail off!!<br />
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Working your tail off means doing all the things everyone else won't do, so you can live the life everyone else doesn't have. It means attending ALL of your company and team opportunity and training calls. Working your tail off means finding out who is making it happen and duplicating exactly what they do. It means doing all the repetitive, boring things that breed success over and over and over again until you make it big.<br />
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So, what are the things we SHOULD NOT be doing? The following is a list of items we see so many people doing wrong in this industry. If you want to be successful in network marketing you need to consistently work hard and avoid the following 7 pitfalls:<br />
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<b>1. Selling and Presenting Your Business</b>We see so many people in this industry trying to sell and talk people into joining their business. That might work if we wanted them to buy a refrigerator from us. The problem with selling people into your network marketing business is that they are not making a "buying" decision. They are making a working decision. Your job is not to convince people that your business is a great opportunity. Your job is to find those people who are searching for your opportunity and upon finding it will do something about it. In a nutshell, you are looking for the “get it done and then some” kind of people.<br />
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Utilize your company and team leader's conference calls & websites to do the selling and presenting for you. In simplest terms, let the tools do 90% of the work. That leaves you free to concentrate on the personal part of network marketing ... cultivating relationships, interviewing and choosing the right people.<br />
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Never forget that you are looking for serious, motivated, committed people who are ready to do business right now. If you try to sell people, you will end up spending 99% of your time trying to push the wrong people to do the work. The bottom line is, we are in the lifestyle consulting & development business, not sales.<br />
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<b>2. Making Income Claims</b><br />
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How many times have you heard how much money the big "Guru" in a network marketing company is making? That may be very well and good, but what does it have to do with how much you will make or how much your prospect will earn with your company? The answer is absolutely nothing. You, your team members and potential prospects could make more or less than the top earner. So, why do so many networkers make income claims when talking to a potential candidate for their business? The answer goes back to Pitfall #1. They are trying to impress and ultimately sell their prospect into the business.<br />
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So, if we shouldn't be making income claims, how do we make sure our prospects have a strong understanding of the income potential of doing business with us? The answer is simple. Instead of telling them how much you or someone else in your company makes, present them with a simple business plan they can understand. For example, if sponsoring 10 who sponsor 10 who sponsor 10, will create a six figure income, then that is your sample business plan. Make sure they understand that once they complete the plan, they will be earning the desired income.<br />
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Always put the focus on what THEY need to do to make money, not what someone else has done.<br />
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<b>3. Three-Waying Prospects Into Opportunity Calls</b><br />
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It never ceases to amaze us how many network marketers will 3-way a prospect into an opportunity call. Think about it. What message is this sending your prospect? It's simple, desperation. Instead of interviewing and making your prospect qualify for your time, you are again back to Pitfall #1, trying to sell someone on your business. Instead, make the attendance of your conference call a qualifier.<br />
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See it as the same way you would conduct a job interview. If you were interviewing a candidate for the board of directors of your business, would you drive to their house, pick them up and bring them back to your office? Of course you wouldn't. Sounds pretty silly when we put it that way, doesn't it? Your network marketing business is no different. You are the CEO of your company. You only have time to work with a few serious, motivated and dedicated individuals. If they won't take 25-30 minutes to learn about your business, then quite frankly, you don't want them.<br />
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<b>4. Being Too Enthusiastic</b><br />
Being excited about your business is a very good thing. However, displaying a bunch of over-the-top excitement during an interview call is going to more than likely turn your prospect off, off, off. If you are too enthusiastic when speaking with them, their first thought will probably be that you're about to pitch them on something. Be confident and excited about what you have to offer, but stay away from words like awesome, incredible, amazing, fantastic, easy, great, "you’re going to love this", etc.<br />
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<b>5. Not Disqualifying</b><br />
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As we said earlier, smart people invest their time in the serious, motivated people who see the vision and are ready to do business now. So, how can we be sure we’re disqualifying the people that aren’t right for our business? One of the most important things you can do is make a list of the qualities you’re looking for and post it in sight of the area you make your phone calls at. At any time you feel like your prospect is not right for the business, simply let them know. Say something like, "I appreciate your time, but this doesn't sound like something that's for you right now. Why don't we keep in touch by email and if something changes you can give me a call."<br />
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Always leave the ball in their court. It's like a game of tennis. Every time they hit the ball back to you, you do the same. Literally – put the ball back into their court. Make them responsible for their actions so you’re spending your time with the right people. Don’t ever hit the ball over the net twice without getting it back first. If you do, you will just burn yourself out.<br />
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<b>6. Not focusing on people’s pain – Not solving problems</b><br />
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Too many networkers focus only on getting a prospect information about their business, without learning anything about what the prospect is looking for and why. When speaking with prospects, ask exploratory questions that reveal their values, goals & desires. Really listen and care about what they have to say. The more you understand your prospect, the better you can assist them in getting what they want. Focus on how your business can be a solution to the challenges they're facing. They are interested in what joining your business can do for them, not how "great" and "incredible" it is.<br />
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<b>7. Focusing on Details</b><br />
There are two types of details we are talking about here. The first is the details of your business when talking with prospects. Don't get into long winded discussions about the background of your company. Stop yourself from going on and on about the evolution of the product line or the details of your marketing system. You, of course, want to answer questions. However, the time and place for that is after your prospect has been on a call and read through your website. Once they've done that, answer their questions in a short but informative way. Don't let yourself get side tracked from the topic or over load them with too much information.<br />
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The second type of details we're talking about is the details of planning your work. Want to waste 2 hours? Go into your office for 5 minutes. Leaders focus the bulk of their time on result related activities & delegate out everything else. 90% of your time should be spent on phone calls and training your team members. Organizing your business is considered "busy work" and does not count towards the time you need to put in to be successful.<br />
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There’s two important things I can say, if you aren’t willing to work for it, you don’t need it. It’s called working from home for a reason, second if you don’t believe you should leave, because in order to achieve your goals you have to believe 100% in what you are doing or every person you talk to will see right through that, and you couldn’t sponsor anyone if your life depended on it, that is a fact.<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-34958094951146915562012-07-28T11:25:00.000-04:002012-10-01T21:05:13.245-04:00Living Your Life With Gratitude<b>Wake up each day and give gratitude for what you have.</b> Instead of giving any thought at all to what you do not have in your life, just spend as much time as you possibly can each day giving thanks for all of the people, opportunities, material possessions, good health and any other things that you have in your life that make it so good. It is said that we take so much for granted that we sometimes forget to be thankful for the small things that make our lives so much richer. If you have ever been out of breath or under water for too long, the next breaths you take are that much sweeter.<br />
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<b>Tell others how much you love and cherish them every chance you get.</b> You may never see someone again so you always want to leave them by telling them just how special they are to you. When you are telling them how much you care about them and how thankful you are for having them in your life, give them specific examples of what you love about them the most.<br />
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<b>Take the time to appreciate every little thing in your life.</b> When the sun is shining, the grass is wet beneath your feet and your dog is barking, give thanks for these small miracles. Every moment we have is a gift. Use your time to show and tell others how important and special they are. Giving someone your time and kind words is the greatest gift of all.<br />
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<b>Showing and feeling gratitude will give your life more meaning than you could ever imagine. Share this feeling with as many others as you can.</b><br />
Everyday is a new experience. Some mornings as we awake the sun is shining, birds are chirping, there is a nice cool breeze blowing through the trees..... Yet there are other mornings, like that of today, when you are literally woke up by the sounds of crashing thunder, the sky is lit up with lightning, and the rain is pouring down. Power surges throughout the house. What incredible power God can display! Nature is truly remarkable...<br />
Each morning, regardless as to the circumstances with the weather, employment, financial challenges, relationship issues, and so on, it is important that we see the good of our situation. To learn to appreciate the blessings that we currently have and get to experience. The fact that we are alive and have the incredible ability to grow, change, love, care, prosper, see, taste, touch, and live life! To have a roof over our head, food on the table, clothes to wear, car(s) to drive, and much, much more!<br />
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<b>To live a life of gratitude is to spend time noticing that which you do have.</b> Those in your life that you do love and they love you. All the opportunity and material pleasures that each of us have been blessed with. It is consciously making the decision to love life and embrace change. Every morning we are given another gift! How do you choose to use your gifts?<br />
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Many people seem to get caught up on the negative events, or circumstances, of their life experience instead of focusing on all the good. It is easier to see the negativity in our lives, as opposed to the positive. I challenge you today to unplug your mind from any negative, focus on the positive side of life. Not everything in life will be perfect. You won't always be able to keep a positive attitude. There are times on our journey when we will be confused and have a lack of understanding why certain events are occurring. However, all this will come to pass, and in the process you must be grateful for the person each adversity has molded you to become.<br />
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When you come to a place of understanding that we are constantly growing, that challenges and struggles are part of everyone's life, then you can learn to embrace these situations. You can learn to live a life of gratitude, giving praise for every blessing, big or small. Nobody said life was going to be easy, however, it sure is one heck of an experience. There is no better movie, than that of the one you are currently filming, everyday of your life.<br />
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<b>We are a blessed people!</b> Give God some praise this morning. Thank Him for all your blessings and start to live your life with more gratitude today!<br />
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<b>Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change!</b><br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-59360253352917617912012-07-12T12:14:00.000-04:002012-10-01T21:04:34.261-04:00Abundance And Happiness In Every Aspect of YOUR LifeBy Discovering Universal Laws, You Discover The Source Of All Health,<br />
All Wealth, All Happiness, Joy, Profound Peace, Assurance and Fulfillment.<br />
The Source That Governs ALL That Is, Has Been or Ever Will Be<br />
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Contrary to majority belief... Universal Laws are not based on theory or speculation. What at one point was believed to be only theoretical, mystical, or spiritual in nature and understood only by those who learned to tap into the place from where "Higher Truth" comes, has now emerged and become evident in the latest scientific discoveries and is now being measured on a physical level"<br />
Universal Laws, also referred to as Spiritual Laws or Laws Of Nature are the unwavering and unchanging principles that govern every aspect of the universe and are the means by which our world and the entire cosmos continues to exist, thrive and expand.<br />
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There are a large and ever growing number of people in the world who are waking up and becoming aware of these laws yet it's still the vast majority who believe that life just happens as it will. They perceive that the various events, conditions and circumstances they experience in life are based on a series of "random yes's and no's" regardless of how good or bad they might perceive them to be or are just a random series of occurrences altogether fully believing there's no definitive purpose or underlying reason why things happen as they do.<br />
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I personally encounter and communicate with a countless number of people globally who at some point in their lives come to a place of wonder and curiosity and who often ask, What's the secret to doing what you love to do? What is this Secret Formula I'm hearing so much about for experiencing harmony, joy, fulfillment, abundance and happiness?<br />
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<b>The answer is always the same. It never has and never will change.</b><br />
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And the 355 gazillion dollar answer is...There is no SECRET at all. Never has been and never will be. It's simply a matter of choice. More specifically YOUR choice.<br />
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Depending on where you are...the kind and quality of results that you're currently experiencing, that may seem to be quite puzzling. Yet it's not once you understand the immutable and unwavering power of Universal Laws.<br />
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In fact it's really quite simple...profoundly simple in fact and that simplicity as well as the perfection becomes blatantly obvious once you choose to awaken to, become conscious of, and consciously choose to develop a bit deeper understanding or heightened awareness of how and why these incredible and wondrous "Universal Laws" effortlessly, flawlessly and consistently operate as they do.<br />
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<b>Always have...always will.</b><br />
In fact you don't even have to understand or even be aware of Universal Laws, but it certainly helps and can most certainly assist, enable and empower you to make massive enhancements...experience total transformation even, if you find yourself experiencing "less than desired" outcomes in any aspect of your life.<br />
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Contrary to widespread belief there exists no such thing as randomness or chaos in the world. In fact, you can if and when you should ever "choose" to do so, experience the harmony and perfection that such a choice yields.<br />
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<b>Consciously Harmonizing With Universal Laws Only Requires 5 Simple and Profoundly Empowering Steps</b><br />
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All that's required of you is simply a matter of doing 5 simple yet extremely powerful and creative steps and Universal Laws take over and provide the rest.<br />
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You don't have to know how Universal Laws work or for that matter even be aware that they exist. They are ALWAYS working every second of every minute of every day whether you are "consciously aware" of it or not.<br />
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<b>Ok...so what are those 5 steps I mentioned?</b>Well...this section is suppose to be only about introducing you to and explaining the immutable and unwavering nature of Universal Laws, but what the heck, here they are...<br />
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<b>1) Hold a "conscious intention" of the thing desired</b><br />
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<b>2) Focus on it's "realness" as an already existing fact<br /><br />3) Think, speak and act as if you already have it<br /><br />4) Take "inspired action" as the ways and means to make it a "tangible reality" show up.<br /><br />5) Detach and Allow the perfection and simplicity of the process to provide the "desired outcome."</b><br />
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It TRULY is as simple and complex as that.<br />
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It's more about being than it is about doing which is precisely why so many do so much and experience such limited results. They choose to remain asleep to the power of simply Being.<br />
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When you're aware and become conscious of how to align and harmonize your chosen way of being with Universal Laws you discover just how simple creating desired results can be.<br />
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<b>Your ONLY</b> job is to clearly define the why and the what. Universal Laws job is to provide the when and the how. Have no fear though, Universal Laws ALWAYS do their job and the more intentional, focused, and consistent you are in doing your part, the quicker Universal Laws do theirs.<br />
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And rest assured the process NEVER<b> </b>fails or wavers. Universal Laws insure that as they have for nearly 14 BILLION years.<br />
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Ok, back to what Universal Laws are specifically and how they impact and in fact determine EVERY aspect of your life whether physically, financially, relationally, emotionally and spiritually.<br />
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In essence, Universal Laws, or Laws of Nature as they're often called, are the governing force that determine without fail EVERY aspect of creation including each of the events, conditions and circumstances experienced by you, me and everyone else in the world on both an individual and collective scale.<br />
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Sadly, the vast majority never take the time or put forth the effort to develop an awareness of these Universal Laws let alone how to align and harmonize themselves with these immutable and unwavering principles that would, with absolute and unwavering certainty, literally attract abundance or whatever else they might be seeking, to them.<br />
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Instead they attempt to seek, find, and acquire Abundance and Happiness through various external physical channels such as working more hours, accumulating more stuff, and in so doing, becoming so out of balance that they become depleted, inevitably developing what I call a scattered consciousness, resulting in physical, mental and emotional overwhelm, exhaustion, depression, anxiety, fear, doubt, worry and a host of other counter productive effects that only serve to create precisely the opposite of the outcome "desired."<br />
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They unknowingly and unconsciously, due to a lack of deeper understanding, overlook the inexhaustible and unlimited supply which is quite literally "Infinite" in nature that is readily available, and easily within the grasp of any and every person on earth who is willing to accept it and "allow" it to be.<br />
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So, I suppose you could say that "The Secret" to experiencing this Infinite and unlimited supply personally is as simple as making a conscious and intentional choice to do so.<br />
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All that's required is to become aware, conscious of and once this crucial choice is made, simply choose to harmonize with these unwavering, immutable and ever present Universal Laws which, in so doing can and will provide a kind and quality of life that is often referred to and perceived as Heaven on earth.<br />
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Yet the fact is that most choose not to. It's certainly not because they don't want to experience the seemingly miraculous changes that happen as a result, but rather due to what they have been told and taught throughout their lives and have come to understand and believe to be rational, logical and realistic through these traditionally established teachings received resulting in limiting and self sabotaging perceptions regarding potential and possibility.<br />
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They choose to engage themselves in, as the vast majority in the world do, an outside in approach to life, allowing what they see, hear, touch, taste and smell to mold, shape and define their individually chosen perceptions of reality which in turn impacts and determines the kind and quality of their consciousness which as the mystics, sages and masters since antiquity have made crystal clear, is the defining factor as to how each and every aspect of our lives unfold and are made real.<br />
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They unconsciously judge, condemn and blame what's going on out there...the undesirable events, conditions and circumstances in the world around them, rather than gaining the understanding that all things in life...ALL things, begin and are made real and tangible in the various aspects of their lives based on what's going on within themselves...on the inside.<br />
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Based on the kind and quality of choices made relating to this inner process, whether engaged in consciously or unconsciously, the events, conditions and circumstances show up on the outside...in the tangible and physical world that always in ALL WAYS align and harmonize perfectly, precisely and without fail based on the kind and quality of consciousness that is consistently chosen.<br />
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That's what Universal Laws govern...consciousness that is transmuted into energy which anything and everything, both seen and unseen is comprised of.<br />
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In other words we often overlook the power behind Being and depend exclusively on Doing all the while perceiving based on our limited results, that life is hard, random and chaotic.<br />
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The result of this all too common, traditionally taught and established majority way of thinking and doing things shows up in our physical world as perceived chaos, broken families, rising bankruptcies, ever increasing health problems, war, poverty, hunger, etc. etc.<br />
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It is by choosing to remain asleep, failing to understand, recognize and consciously harmonize with the Source from where all Abundance and Happiness comes, that so many seem to struggle so long and hard, choosing to swim against rather than with the flow of life and as a result continue to experience very limited, mediocre and at best "hard earned" and temporary results.<br />
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The vast majority have developed a predominant way of thinking, acting and doing that causes them to completely overlook the unerring simplicity of the process of creation...the Universal Laws that govern the process and how to consciously, purposefully and intentionally connect to and align with the unlimited Supply of Everything that can and will easily and effortlessly provide what they claim they desire to experience (and more) for their lives.<br />
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They unconsciously engage in inner dialogues completely overlooking the simplicity of the process, perhaps due to it's simplicity and unknowingly, consistently and unconsciously create the polar opposite of the outcomes that they continually hope, wish and pray they could.<br />
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Due to this consistent and seemingly inescapable self limiting cycle many perceive themselves to be shut off from this Infinite supply by becoming so caught up in trying to Have More by Doing More that they never find, and completely overlook the simple yet profound and freeing truth of how to intentionally harmonize their internal way of being with these Universal Laws and principles, that once understood, harmonized with and through consistent and conscious application, would provide them with far more than they could have ever previously imagined or perceived as possible!<br />
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Yet through a conscious choice to become aware of these Universal Laws...through a simple choice to explore their depth, perfection and unerring nature, the simplicity of life is both revealed and experienced.<br />
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That's what you'll soon discover the following Universal Laws and Principles to be. Simplicity and perfection in it's purest form. Unerring, unfailing and always precise in their operation.<br />
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Becoming aware of, developing an understanding in, aligning and consciously harmonizing with their tremendous, immutable and unwavering power with a clear and focused intention, can mean the difference between a life filled with lack, hardship, fear, anxiety and struggle, or one of joy, satisfaction, limitless prosperity, a profound sense of peace and fulfillment.<br />
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The key to experiencing harmony and fulfillment in life lies in choosing to become aware of and consciously harmonizing your thought, intention, and actions with these incredible Universal Laws enabling and empowering you to begin experiencing desired results which show up in your physical world as the events, conditions and circumstances experienced in each and every area of life.<br />
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<b>Make no mistake...</b><br />
Universal Laws aren't in any way, shape or form religious in nature. They are of a spiritual or holistic nature for sure yet there is a tremendous difference in the two.<br />
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Mistakenly, many people, when they think of our Source or Creator, whatever you might perceive that to be individually, believe that you must be a religious fanatic, or super spiritual person to enable and allow the Universal Laws and principles to produce their desires and begin to create or if you prefer co-create positive changes in their lives.<br />
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This is absolutely not the case! The Universal Laws and principles that govern every aspect of existence and which are responsible for determining your individual life as well as every event, condition and circumstance in the entire cosmos, operate with the same precise, predictable and unwavering certainty, making no distinctions, judgments or determinations as to who, how, when or what they work for.<br />
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They aren't discerning and have no capability for determining what is logical, reasonable, rational or feasible.<br />
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It's YOU that defines and determines that and Universal Laws simply do their job to fulfill whatever you choose.<br />
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They are inescapable, unwavering and are at work 100% of the time regardless of your awareness of or ignorance to them. Their perfect, precise, consistent and unwavering operation make no judgments or determinations based on your age, color, creed, geographical location, education, gender, religious preference, social status, etc. etc. etc.<br />
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The ONLY thing that determines HOW they work and WHAT is created as a result of their perfect and unfailing operation is simply a matter of YOUR individual choice...the gift of free will that's been provided to you, me and everyone else on this planet.<br />
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Just as electricity or gravity make no distinctions or judgments as to WHO they work for, Universal Laws operate in the same precise, immutable and unwavering fashion. It doesn't matter if you're young, old, black, white, Asian, Indian, American, Christian, Jewish, Buddhist, Hindu, Muslim, or even atheist, Universal Laws operate in a very specific and predictable manner 100% of the time. And as a result, through developing an awareness of HOW they work and consciously aligning your intention, thoughts, words, and actions with them, you can and will begin to attract and experience outcomes which many believe to be unreachable and/or impossible and which the vast majority in the world would consider to be "miracles."<br />
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Universal Laws produce miracles every second of every minute of every day. Creation is always a miracle.<br />
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The fact of the matter is, once you begin to understand the awesome and unwavering power of these Universal Laws and their non prejudice nature, you begin to clearly see and understand that every outcome in life, regardless of how it might be perceived, IS a "miracle" yet many are simply unconsciously creating undesired miracles for themselves due to a lack of conscious awareness and deeper understanding.<br />
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Miracles happen, not in opposition to Nature, but in opposition to what we know of nature. <br />
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So, let's explore each of the Universal Laws individually...become familiar with and conscious of their unfailing and unerring operation, enabling and empowering you to begin consciously creating miracles of a desirable quality.<br />
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It is my intention as well as my hope to assist you in developing the awareness and uncommon depth of understanding regarding these Universal Laws or Laws of Nature and as you will soon hopefully choose, discover and come to "know" for yourself, you have been provided the incredible, precious and irrevocable gift of choosing your life experience as you choose.<br />
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Regardless of your current "beliefs and perceptions" and irrespective of where you may currently find yourself in relation to the outcomes currently being experienced whether physically, financially, relationally, emotionally or spiritually you DO have the power and the ability to Be, Do and Have whatever you choose in life.<br />
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You don't need anything that you don;t already have. You already have everything required to experience harmony and fulfillment in each and every area of your life. It's simply a matter of stirring, awakening, remembering and "consciously utilizing" the "Real Power" that's been freely provided to you.<br />
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You have been given the ability as well as the inalienable right of free will as we all have to utilize that power consciously or unconsciously which without fail determines and defines what your individual life experience will consist of.<br />
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So the secret...the master key to the Kingdom...is to simply make a conscious and intentional choice to become conscious or not.<br />
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It's nothing more or less than a choice. There are no "wrong choices" in the bigger scheme of things. Only choices that we make individually that determine the kind and quality of results that we experience. That's how perfect, precise and unwavering Universal laws are.<br />
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These Universal Laws also referred to as Universal truths deliver to all without prejudice or judgment, in exactly the same way for those that we perceive to be the saints of our world as well as those that some might judge, perceive and as a result label as bad people.<br />
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The only distinction are the physical outcomes received...what is received back, which is determined by individual choice and without fail is only determined by what YOU or any other individual choose to give out.<br />
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The Universe and the Universal Laws which govern it serve as a reflection device much like a mirror which ensures without fail that what is received individually is only and ALWAYS determined by what is given or projected out individually. Who chooses what is projected? YOU do.<br />
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These timeless Universal principles are exact and unwavering, no matter who or what you are!<br />
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If you give and project Love, you receive Love whether you enter a church building or not! If you give and project kindness, you will receive kindness whether you carry a halo over your head or not.(Okay, that's a bit extreme) If you give service you receive back in relation to the service provided. If you choose to project and give out unpleasantness, you receive back things and circumstances that are unpleasant.<br />
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<b>Universal Laws NEVER fail or waver.</b><br />
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By choosing to review the Universal Laws provided below, you will have come a long way in expanding your individual awareness...finding the key, or "Missing Link" that so many before you have found to provide wealth where there was poverty, abundance where there was scarcity , health where there was illness, joy where there was depression, love where there was fear and have transformed and lifted multitudes from a state of seeming destitution and hopelessness to incredible joy, unwavering faith and as a result seemingly "miraculous" outcomes and experiences in each and every area of their lives.<br />
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By becoming aware of and consciously aligning and harmonizing with these Universal Laws and beginning to consciously, intentionally and purposefully utilize your individual and inalienable right of free will to harmonize your internal "beingness" with your "desired" outcomes, you will begin to know, feel and experience for yourself the indescribable Divine Connection that does and has always existed, but which you may have previously "perceived" to be somehow separate from you and as a result, hidden from your comprehension.<br />
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You will soon come to understand with crystal clarity how many have unknowingly allowed dis-empowering, self limiting and self sabotaging, traditionally established teachings which have been passed down from generation to generation to limit what has always been available to you and anyone choosing to break free from the mindset of the mass majority to seek it out and find it.<br />
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You'll become awakened to the fact that through unknowingly absorbing and accepting these beliefs and the perceptions they create...what you "perceive" truth to be, will without fail determine the kind and quality of life that you'll be enabled to experience.<br />
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Universal Laws don't judge and make distinctions as to "what" you believe but only provide outcomes in exact proportion to the kind and quality of the belief held.<br />
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<b>As you believe you shall receive.</b><br />
What you will soon discover and realize is that these falsely formed beliefs which are directly responsible for determining and projecting your "perception of reality", will reflect back to you outcomes...physical outcomes in the way of events, conditions and circumstances in exact proportion to the "beliefs" and perceptions you hold....that you are actually often times "unconsciously" attracting and drawing to you more of what you "consciously" claim that you choose not to experience into your life!<br />
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This information will allow you to, first of all develop an unshakable awareness of the incredible power of these simple truths we call Universal Laws, and then assist you in developing a strategy to recognize, overwrite and replace the conflicting and self sabatoging beliefs held which serve as the underlying cause for consistent and unconscious, self limiting thoughts and "perceptions" of lack, limitation and discord that hold so many bondage, in a perceived world of never enough time, barely enough money, and the seemingly real and at times overwhelming state of continual stress, struggle, anxiety and seemingly inescapable fear.<br />
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Developing an understanding of, learning to consciously align and harmonize with and consistently utilize your newfound power to consciously, purposefully and intentionally implement these wondrous never erring or wavering Laws of Creation will turn your life into an incredible journey of limitless hope, joy, fulfillment, prosperity, Abundance and Happiness, IF you will only choose to "allow" them to.<br />
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You will have discovered the immutable and unwavering governing force of the "Infinite Supply" of all that is, was and always will be available to you.<br />
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By consciously utilizing the power of these simple, seemingly mystical, yet incredibly powerful Universal Principles, you will be well on your way to uncovering the answers that have seemed to evade you for so long.<br />
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You will begin to experience for yourself what it means to really live, free of bondage, fear, self-doubt, worry and anxiety. You will discover, beyond the shadow of a doubt that you were intended to live a life determined by and based only on your choosing which extends far beyond the scope of your current self imposed boundaries and limited imagination.<br />
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By coming to an understanding of and harmonizing with these simple yet profound Universal Principles, in a conscious, intentional and focused manner you will come to understand the true meaning of freedom, and begin to experience prosperity, wholeness and fulfillment in every area of your life.<br />
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Ok, now that you have a basic understand of what Universal Laws are, let's look at them individually and develop a crystal clear understanding of how, by consciously choosing and aligning your future actions with them, you can and if you choose, will, have a dramatic and powerful effect in enhancing the outcomes and experiences in each and every area of your life.<br />
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<b>Let's Get Started.....</b><br />
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First, we'll cover a few of the Universal Laws and Principles that determine your individual capability to attract whatever it is you desire into our life. (Each link below will open a new window on top of this page)<br />
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<b>The Law Of Vibration</b> states that anything that exists in our universe, whether seen or unseen, broken down into and analyzed in it's purest and most basic form, consists of pure energy or light which resonates and exists as a vibratory frequency or pattern.<br />
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<b>The Law Of Attraction The Law of Attraction</b> is the Universal Law which ensures that whatever energy is broadcast out into the universe is joined by (or attracted to) energies that are of an equal or harmonious frequency, resonance or vibration.<br />
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<b>The Law Of Cause And Effect</b> states that any action produces or returns a result or outcome in exact proportion to the act or cause which initiated it. Also referred to as Sowing and Reaping or Karma.<br />
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<b>The Law Of Resonance The Law of Resonance</b> is the Universal Law which determines the various vibratory patterns or frequencies which are determined and projected based on various thoughts, beliefs and emotions and the resulting projected frequency which activates the Law of Attraction ensuring that this resonance or projected energy can only harmonize with energies that vibrate or resonate at a similar harmonious vibratory frequency which determine and create your physical results.<br />
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<b>The Law Of Growth The Law of Growth</b> is the Universal Law which is one of the simplest to comprehend. It simply exists to ensure that something always grows, that creation is constant and determined by the kind and quality of seed which is planted. In the case of Universal truth this seed is determined by the energy projected. Through it's immutable, unwavering and predictable operation you can become conscious and purposeful in what you project or plant which will determine what you will receive or harvest in each area of your life.<br />
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<b>The Law Of Abundance </b>The Law Of Abundance can best be understood by looking at the continual growth and unlimited resources available within our Universe. It is continuously producing and multiplying effortlessly through the power of the above Universal Laws, the abundance of which is determined only by the kind and quality of the seed or energy projected.<br />
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<b>The Law Of Polarity</b> Do you ever wonder why in a world of unfathomable Abundance why it is that we must sometimes go through events, conditions and circumstances that we perceive as unpleasant? Becoming aware of and developing a deeper understanding concerning the Law Of Polarity may provide the insight that you need.<br />
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<b>The Law Of Reciprocity</b> The Law Of Reciprocity which is intricately connected and harmonizes perfectly with all Universal Law, initiates and creates an unwavering and unfailing process which “Reciprocates” meaning to give and take mutually or to return in kind or degree.<br />
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It is my sincere hope that you will discover, absorb, and learn to harmonize and align with the above Universal Laws to bring into your physical world that which you desire to experience.<br />
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By discovering and implementing these Universal Principles into your day to day life, you will begin to develop an awareness that you may not have previously experienced prior to absorbing this knowledge.<br />
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It is important to understand that The knowledge of how Universal Laws operate in and of themselves will be of no benefit to you. It is in the correct implementation of the knowledge acquired and learning to harmonize your actions with their unwavering certainty that will allow and enable you to experience a life above and beyond your wildest expectations.<br />
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After reviewing each of the above Universal Laws, it would best serve you to explore <b>The Power Of The Human Mind</b> and discover your individual capability to begin consciously harmonizing your day to day actions with these Universal Laws to begin attracting and experiencing what you most desire in your life.<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-66174770477977380132012-07-10T08:54:00.000-04:002012-10-01T21:03:56.080-04:00How Much Love Can We Really Stand?Increasing your capacity for Love…How much love can we stand? You know its funny how we don’t always seek to find more of what’s good for us, what grows us spiritually, emotionally, and physically. Along with Gratitude Love is one of the most acceptable matches to the Universal Law of attraction, an emotion most likely to bring you into alignment with the universe or to create a vibrational match. We all know that when aligned with the Universe we are postured to receive, so creating that alignment is imperative to our success, or ability to receive which are one and the same. Yet we don’t always search for ways to increase or amplify our vibration through love, more often than not we choose to do this through Gratitude, when an abundance of Love is available in every moment, no matter how bad things may get, as long as we are present to receive it.<br />
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I don’t think that giving and receiving are things that just happen. I believe that these are occurrences that we create, and we do that through our own actions or through application. One way to receive more of that which will create perfect alignment is to choose a quiet place and focus on your natural breathing rhythm. With each inhale, imagine that you are taking in all the Love of the Universe directly into your own heart. With each exhale imagine sending all that Love directly from your own heart right back to its infinite source… Breath in Love…Breath out Love. If you practice this heart meditation for just a few weeks you will find that not only does your capacity for love grow by leaps and bounds but you are creating a more acceptable state of alignment with the Universe, and with that alignment you are creating the ability to receive. Breathing in is receiving, and breathing out is giving, and we all know that in order to receive we have to give. 2010 is underway and this is a year of great change, I think we all sense that enormous change is going to occur, and I believe that there is also an opportunity for personal and spiritual change as well.<br />
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The answer to the question how much love can we stand? Are questions we have to ask ourselves…How much change can we stand? How much can we stand to receive? How much success is enough? And that list goes on and on. Practical application of giving and receiving Love, and creating perfect alignment with the Universe is breathing Love in, and breathing it out…giving and receiving that which in itself is one of the most sought after vibrational matches we can achieve.<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-32585303377193192842012-07-03T11:16:00.000-04:002012-10-01T21:03:06.476-04:00Love Yourself FirstThe most important relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself. Yet, how often have you heard yourself say, "I am my own worst enemy"? If your goals involve raising your confidence, ending depression, moving beyond diets or overeating behaviors, or just plain wanting to live a happier, fulfilled life, you have to know what self-love looks like. Learn how to define self-love and then how to bring it into your own life!<br />
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Oscar Wilde once stated, "To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance." Love is a mystery and not easily definable. However, it does have certain characteristics. Self-love is a consuming passion for your own happiness. It is an ongoing choice you make to be glad to alive, here on Earth, in your own body.<br />
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Self-love occurs when you decide who you are and what you want is important. It is an inner state of being which develops as you decide it is all right to build a kind, sensuous, and meaningful partnership with your self. Self-love involves deciding to connect with your dreams and then supporting yourself with encouraging thoughts and empowering self-supportive actions.<br />
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<b>Defining Self-Love</b>Self-love is not so much a feeling as it is a decrease of self-doubt and self-disapproval. It involves an ever-growing sense of balance and belonging. Respect, responsibility for self, and feeling good are important values. Self-love means that your well-being matters to yourself unconditionally and in practical terms. The following are some characteristics of self-loving people:<br />
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• Self-loving people focus on feeling good.<br />
• Self-loving people allow themselves to be happy and to share this with others.<br />
• Self-loving people tend to treat themselves well.<br />
• They see enjoyment of life as a primary goal most of the time.<br />
• They do not remain in mistreatment by others.<br />
• They are caring towards others. (Because it feels good to do so).<br />
• They put themselves first. Even those they love are a "close second."<br />
• They find a thought that feels good, and practice it.<br />
• They let themselves succeed.<br />
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<b>Basic Principles of Self Love</b><br />
• Who you are is more important than what you are.<br />
• You are valuable. Nothing can change that.<br />
• What you want always matters.<br />
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<b>How to Develop and Nurture Love</b>Increasing your love of self involves an intention to become more self-loving and then following up this intention with reinforcing actions. An intention involves a conscious decision to be happier and more fulfilled in your own life. You make a new decision to be alive . . . and then accept personal responsibility to make your life a better, more enjoyable experience. It may take considerable effort to pry yourself out of a life that feels less than joyful, but it is entirely possible to have the kind of life you want for yourself. Below are some practical ideas of how to begin expanding your love of self:<br />
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• Acknowledge and verbally praise yourself.<br />
• Have fun more often.<br />
• Learn new ways to relax and release tension.<br />
• Practice conscious, deep, full-bodied breathing several times each day.<br />
• Think inspiring thoughts.<br />
• Instead of always focusing on the problem, decide to focus on desired outcomes.<br />
• Fill your life with beauty, such as times of silence, beautiful music, flowers.<br />
• Raise your confidence by taking daily small, achievable actions steps that support your goal.<br />
• Acknowledge your efforts and your successes.<br />
• Reward yourself daily.<br />
• Listen to your intuition and then follow it.<br />
• Let yourself succeed.<br />
• Nurture yourself by imagining desired outcomes to life's situations.<br />
• Offer yourself affection in many, many different ways.<br />
• Choose to think thoughts that bring inner peace (rather than worry).<br />
• Remember and feel gratitude.<br />
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Love may be a mystery. The good news is that the art of increasing self-love is not so mysterious. In fact, it is something you can learn through knowledge and practice. Imagine your self-love as a seed inside of you. Even if it is just a tiny, unnourished, seed right now, you have the ability to grow that seed into something spectacular. The growth of your self-love is not going to happen overnight. However, by taking certain actions, your seed will most assuredly grow. Today, make a commitment to yourself to nurture your inner seed of love. Ask yourself, "How can I be more loving to myself today?" Use your imagination and come up with several possibilities. Then, follow through with your thoughts and put them into action. Do this every day, and watch as you begin to create the loving life you deserve.<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-42388958559446469262012-07-01T11:31:00.000-04:002012-10-01T21:01:49.254-04:00How to Live in the MomentLiving in the moment is all about living like there's no tomorrow. It takes practice but in the end, you'll lead a fuller life. To do this you must realize beauty in every moment, and in everyday activities. This is your life, now live!<br />
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<b>1. Take notice of the world around you.</b> No matter what you're doing, try to find something beautiful around you. Maybe on your way to work or school, you go over a beautiful bridge, or you get a view of the sunrise behind the city buildings. Realizing these small things can bring life and happiness even to the most boring or routine days. Be thankful for those little things.<br />
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<b>2. Focus on whatever you're doing.</b> Even if you're just walking, or wiping the counter, or shuffling cards - how does it feel? There's probably some kind of commentary spinning through your mind, and it probably has to do with something other than what you're doing. Let those thoughts go and focus on what is (not what was, or what could be). In Buddhism, this is referred to as mindfulness. Pay attention to your senses - touch, sight, smell, sound, and taste. Pretend it's the very last time you'll ever experience whatever you're experiencing. Have you ever been so engrossed in something that it seemed like the rest of the world just disappeared? Living in the moment is about creating that state of mind at any time. Slow down, and try to savor the present.<br />
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<b>3. Smile when you wake up.</b> You can set the tone of appreciation and awareness for the next 24 hours by simply waking up and smiling. Don't wake up with a groan and a smash of your alarm clock. There's scientific proof that the expressions that you make with your face can actually influence how you feel. In particular, true happiness is most closely tied to a Duchenne smile which involves smiling with your eyes, as well as your mouth.<br />
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<b>4. Commit random, spontaneous acts of kindness.</b> Whether it's donating 1 dollar to a fund at the pharmacy, picking up litter, or helping victims of natural disasters, keep alert in every moment of your day for some way in which you can make the world a better place. Even the smallest thing, like complimenting someone, can bring joy. It's the most spontaneous and unexpected acts of kindness that produce the greatest impact, and you can't be sensitive to those kinds of opportunities unless you're living in the moment.<br />
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<b>5. Minimize activities that dull your awareness of the moment.</b> What are you doing that tempts your mind to run away from the present? For most people, watching television puts you in a passive state of mind, and time slips right by. Daydreaming and getting lost in a good movie or book isn't bad, but it's not living in the moment because it places your concentration on something that isn't right here, right now; it's a form of escapism. Don't zone out; zone in. Do things that are active, and that encourage you to look around and engage the world in that moment. Gardening, playing a game, knitting, and playing an instrument are all activities that lend themselves to mindfulness. So get off the computer after reading this article!<br />
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<b>6. Be Thankful for what is.</b> When you find yourself wishing for something you don't have, or wishing your life would be different, start your quest for your wish by being thankful for what is already in your life. This will bring you back to the present moment. Make a list of what you are thankful for right now even if all you can think of is that you are alive and can breathe. You don't want to miss the gifts right in front of you, because you are always looking beyond what is in the present moment to what once was or what might be. If you are thankful for what is, you'll be happy to be in the moment instead of some place else.<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-20733847253400686662012-06-28T11:18:00.000-04:002012-10-01T21:00:38.722-04:0010 Ways to Remove Clutter from Your LifeOur lives tend to accumulate clutter in every corner: on our desks, in our drawers, on our shelves at home, in our closets, on our computer -- you name it, and clutter finds a way to fill every available space.<br />
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But having a simple, uncluttered life is possible, with some very simple methods.<br />
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Devote a little of your time to tossing clutter from your life, and keeping things relatively clutter-free, and you'll be rewarded with much more pleasing living spaces, with a less stressful life, and with better organization and productivity. Clutter weighs us down, distracts us, brings chaos into our lives.<br />
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Let's look at some ways to kick it out ... for good.<br />
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<b>1. Your desk.</b> If your desk is covered in paper and other clutter, clear it off to create a pleasing work environment. The steps here are the basic decluttering steps we'll follow for many of the other steps below:<br />
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* Clear everything off. Take everything off your desk and put it in a pile on the floor. Clear out the drawers too, if you have time. The only things that should be on your desk now are the computer, phone and other similar equipment.<br />
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* Clean. Wipe down your desk, and clean your drawers if you're decluttering them too. It's good to start with clean surfaces.<br />
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* Sort. OK, here's the meat of the process: sort through your stuff, one pile at a time. Toss out or route as much as possible, so that what you're left with is a relatively small amount of stuff. If you won't be using it again in the near future, or if you can access it on the computer, toss it out.<br />
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* Designate homes. Now you get to place everything back in your desk. Set up a simple alphabetical filing system, with one folder for each project or client. Have drawers for your office supplies and other stuff. With less stuff to organize, it shouldn't be too hard. Be sure to have a place designated for everything, and keep things in those places. Sometimes it helps to label, so you don't forget.<br />
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* Leave flat surfaces clear. Don't put stuff on top of your desk. Have an inbox for all incoming papers, and then sort them each day and either toss, delegate, do them immediately, or file all documents, so nothing remains on top of your desk. The only thing that should be on your desk is your computer, phone, inbox, perhaps a family photo, and the documents you're working on right now.<br />
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<b>2. Files.</b> If you decluttered your files in the above step, you can skip this, although you should declutter not only your work files but your home files as well. Keep a simple alphabetical system, and try to fit everything in one drawer. It's good to take out all your files, and purge what you don't need. Many times that can be half of your files or more. Get rid of as much as possible -- most times, we keep copies of stuff we'll never need again. When you're done purging, you should have a minimum of files, and it shouldn't be hard to keep organized.<br />
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<b>3. Information.</b> In today's digital world, there are tons of ways that information comes into our lives -- and it can be overwhelming. It's information clutter -- we get too much of it. Instead, set certain times of the day when you check email, your RSS feeds, or various forums or other things you read daily. Reduce the number of things you read each day -- purge your RSS feeds of stuff that doesn't give you value, reduce your consumption of news and television, get rid of magazine subscriptions. Keep information to a bare minimum, and only check it at certain times of the day instead of letting it rule your life.<br />
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<b>4. Computer.</b> Purge your computer files, getting rid of stuff you don't need. Clear your desktop of icons -- they slow your computer down, create visual clutter, and are an inefficient way to access files, programs or folders. Set up hotkeys with AutoHotKey or similar programs. With online search tools (such as that in Gmail) and programs such as Google Desktop, you don't need to keep your files in a complex array of directories and subdirectories -- just archive, and search later. Purge old, unneeded files at least every month or two.<br />
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<b>5. Closets.</b> Use the same method for your closets as you did with your desk: clear everything out, clean it out, sort (and toss or donate as much as possible), and designate homes for what you decided to keep. Keep only what you love and use often. I recommend keeping your closet floor clear -- it makes everything look nicer. If tackling the entire closet is too intimidating, it can be helpful to just tackle one area of your closet a day, until it's done. It's also useful to go through your wardrobe, and donate everything you haven't worn in 6 months -- it greatly simplifies your closet.<br />
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<b>6. Rooms.</b> Are the rooms in your house too cluttered? A few rules about simplifying a room: first, start with anything that's stacked on the floors; then work to the flat surfaces (tables, shelves, countertops, the tops of dressers, etc.) and clear them completely if possible; then do the larger stuff like furniture and other things that clutter the room; and finally tackle drawers and cabinets and closets. As much as possible, keep floors clear and all flat surfaces. Sort through everything in piles as in the first step above, tossing and donating as much as possible. Organize everything else in drawers and closets and cabinets, out of sight but still neat and uncluttered. Tackle one room at a time, going for a clean, uncluttered, simple, minimalist look in all cases. It can be helpful to continually edit a room once you're done decluttering -- you can always find little ways to make a room simpler.<br />
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<b>7. Drawers.</b> The way to declutter a drawer is the same as outlined above: empty everything out, clean the drawer, sort through the pile of stuff from the drawer (purging as much as possible) and organizing the few things left. Keep like things together -- a drawer for office supplies should only be for office supplies. Avoid having a junk drawer -- everything should have a designated place. Go through one drawer at a time -- don't jump from one drawer to another.<br />
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<b>8. Commitments.</b> Aside from physical clutter, our lives are often way too cluttered by the things we need to do -- at work, at home, in our civic or religious lives, with our hobbies, with friends and family, etc. Go through each area of your life, and write down every commitment you have -- from things you've volunteered or agreed to do on a regular basis, to meetings and sports games and other things you do every month or week. It can be overwhelming. Now examine each one, and decide if it truly gives you joy and value in your life, and whether it's worth the time you commit to it. It can be useful to just choose a few of the commitments that your really love doing. Get rid of all the rest. Just call people and tell them your schedule is too busy, and you have to decline. Learn to say no! One by one, eliminate the commitments in your life that don't give you value, and you'll have more time to do the stuff that's really important to you -- stuff for yourself, or your loved ones.<br />
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<b>9. Routines.</b> It is extremely useful to examine your daily and weekly routines. Often, we don't have any set routines, and we tackle our chores, regular tasks, and obligations haphazardly. This leads to chaotic days and weeks, and often a drop in productivity. It's better to batch like tasks together -- do all your errands at once, for example, or all your laundry at once instead of throughout the week. Write down all of your weekly and daily obligations, chores, tasks, etc. and plan out a weekly and daily routine. Post it up where you can see it and try to follow it, at least for a week. It could bring some calmness and simplicity to your life that hadn't been there before. Be sure to schedule time for decluttering in your weekly routine!<br />
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<b>10. Systems.</b> Once you've purged clutter from your life, it will inevitably start to creep back in. To keep from having a cluttered life again, you need to set up systems that will keep the clutter to a minimum. Examine how you do things, how things come into your life, and see if you can create a simple system for everything: chores, laundry, paperwork, email, RSS feeds, yardwork, errands, work projects, filing. And then write down your systems, step by step, and try to follow them. If your systems are set up right, you will continually purge clutter you don't need. For example, a system for paperwork might look like this:<br />
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* All incoming papers go in inbox.<br />
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* At the end of each day, inbox is processed.<br />
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* Rules for processing: toss, route, file, do, or write on to-do list to do later and put it in "action file".<br />
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* Process to empty, leaving no papers in inbox or on desk. Clear desk of any working papers.<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-40826513714303716702012-06-19T11:36:00.000-04:002012-10-01T20:59:28.050-04:00Wealth Mindset and Your Fear to FailWhen you fear failure you set yourself up to being poor. It’s also possible to fear success, you also fear the responsibility that comes along with it.<br />
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You will almost certainly sabotage your efforts then say “I told you it could not work”, or blame some external force or others, and if you’re repeating this you’re not creating a wealth mindset.<br />
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In an “I am poor” frame of mind, and also you lack confidence, it all gets too hard, so you delay taking action and many giving up altogether. You lose out in terms of timing and opportunity, so it then goes elsewhere finding a more eager participant.<br />
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If you have not yet a wealth mindset, then things will take longer, that’s alright, since you can cultivate it with passion, persistent and patience and so when you put effort into it, it is possible to surprise yourself with what you are able achieve.<br />
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Fear is what stops people getting the things they want, and achieving whatever it is they desire, when you fear failure, that is what you will have, when you see yourself creating wealth things will change for you.<br />
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<b>On Your Way</b><br />
When you dedicate your efforts to manifesting your desires, you see nothing else and everything changes.<br />
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One thing that matters is achieving your goal, which means you assume responsibility, step up and relish in it. Wanting wealth you move quickly so you miss nothing.<br />
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You aren’t worried when something does not work, or maybe even fails, because you observe it as a way to reassess, that which you happen to be doing, and so you can perfect creating a wealth mindset and get one step closer to achieving your ultimate goal.<br />
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You have less emotional attachment, which frees you up to try many things, in spite of any risks there may be.<br />
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Now you are creating a wealth mindset, you’re on your way.<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-43758397188911434272012-06-07T12:41:00.000-04:002012-10-01T20:58:34.726-04:009 Steps to Getting What YOU Want: Creating YOUR RealitySo you now have a goal you want so much you can taste it. You are living day-to-day thinking, breathing, and picturing the goal -- but alas, you have hit a road block. The barrier seems insurmountable. What do you do now?<br />
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<b>Here are 9 techniques for facing fears and meeting challenges</b><br />
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<b>1. Research How Others Overcame This Obstacle:</b> This is often a straight forward approach for many people. If you come across an obstacle, see how others overcame it. The odds are, someone has already been in your type of situation and found a way out. Now all you need to do is find out how they overcame the situation and repeat it.<br />
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<b>2. List The Blessings In Your Life:</b> Using Gratitude To Overcome Obstacles Gratitude opens the heart and allows a healing to come in. Often simply listing your blessings from the smallest one to the largest one really helps. Include things such as being alive, breathing, being able to use your senses, etc.<br />
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<b>3. Try Something Different: </b>If what you have been doing isn't working, try a new approach. Often looking at a problem differently - or approaching it different will solve the issue.<br />
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<b>4. Fear Room Technique:</b> This is a synopsis of a technique is from <a href="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/157043123X/gnmgames" target="_blank">How to Master Change in Your Life : 67 Ways to Handle Life's Toughest Moments</a> by Mary Carroll Moore (page 76).<br />
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Imagine a dark, foggy room. You can't see in this room. It is dark, and very difficult to see in. Now imagine a truck with some hoses to suck out the fog and flood lights to brighten up the room. This takes a while, but after a few moments, you can see the room clearly and easily. What do you see? Write down as many details as you can.<br />
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What happens to your fears when the veils of illusion are removed and the light is shining on them?<br />
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<b>5. Affirmations:</b> There are many techniques on our Affirmations page. Sometimes simply repeating your goal over and over will bring you inside. I have have huge amounts of success using the 15x's a day technique where you write down a goal 15 times each day. Often this type of focusing will show me what I need in order to overcome the obstacle.<br />
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<b>6. Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway:</b> Simply feel the fear, fill yourself with as much love as you can muster, and do what you need to do anyways. Often this will get you through the process of doing something you are scared of that is recommended by your mentors.<br />
<b>7. Contemplation Technique:</b> Do the exercise where you fill your self up with love and allow insights from spirit fill your consciousness with a solution to your problem.<br />
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<b>8. Constant Reminder Technique: </b>Find ways to remind yourself of your goals. Find an affirmation, saying, or song that matches your goal. Repeat them daily -- the more often the better. If you can't find a positive saying that supports your goal, make one up. Keep it simple and easy to repeat. Have it be positive. Play with it. Maybe sing it to a favorite tune. Then sing (or say) it again and again.<br />
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<b>9. Simplify Everything:</b> Examine your life in regard to your goals. Does everything in your life support your goals? Do you have beliefs, attitudes, habits or patterns that go against your goal? Get rid of the things in your life that do NOT support your goals. This will make your goals stronger and in line with everything you do.<br />
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Other methods of support are also available. Try <a href="http://www.gems4friends.com/therapy.html">Gemstone Therapy</a>, <a href="http://www.gems4friends.com/oils.html">Essential Oils</a>, <a href="http://www.gems4friends.com/fengshui.html">Feng Shui</a>, <a href="http://www.gems4friends.com/floweressence.html">Flower Essences</a>, <a href="http://www.gems4friends.com/herbs.html">Herbs</a>, and/or <a href="http://www.gems4friends.com/massage.html">Massage</a>. I have used all of these tools to overcome limitations.<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-77338806887706999662012-06-06T11:23:00.000-04:002012-10-01T20:57:44.342-04:00Finding Your Heart’s Desire And Realize Your PotentialOne of the most wonderful and exciting facts about your life is that you already know a lot of the things you need to know to become the person you want to be. You have your heart’s desire deep inside of you. There’s something that you were put on this earth uniquely to accomplish. There’s something that you, and only you, can do. And when you find your heart’s desire, you’ll have the key to unlocking your potential in every other part of your life. You’ll have the key to happiness, satisfaction, fulfillment and the joy that’s your natural birthright.<br />
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You can unlock your inner potential only when you’re doing something that you really love to do. You can fulfill your innermost aspirations only when you’re doing something that interests you, something that holds your attention, something in which you can become completely absorbed.<br />
And this is the key to unlocking the giant within. You must dream big dreams and do what you love to do. You must decide what’s right for you, what will make you happiest, before you decide what’s possible. You must set ideal standards and goals and results as your aim and then determine how to accomplish them.<br />
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<b>Take Some Time to Determine Your Ideal Lifestyle</b><br />
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Take some time to determine the kind of person you’d like to be, and the kind of person you’d have to become in order to live the kind of life that you’d like to live. Remember, you can’t accomplish it on the outside until you become it on the inside.<br />
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I recently read a beautiful line in a book: In order to achieve things you’ve never achieved before, you must be willing to do things you’ve never done before.<br />
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To unlock your inner potential, you must set very clear, challenging and, yet, realistic goals and then make plans to accomplish them. You need to work, step-by-step, every day, in the direction of your dominant aspirations. You need to develop an unshakable level of self-confidence that makes you virtually unstoppable.<br />
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<b>Momentum is The Key to Long-Term Success</b><br />
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The momentum theory of success simply says that while it may take 10 units of energy to get you moving in a particular direction, it takes only one unit of energy to keep you moving once you’re in motion. You have the principle of momentum working in your favor.<br />
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For example, if you’ve come back from a vacation of a week or two weeks, you’ll notice that it takes you several days to start working at peak efficiency again. This is part of the momentum principle. When you stop, it’s hard to get started again. But once you’re moving forward, it’s easy to continue moving forward.<br />
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How do you use the momentum principle in your life? Well, it’s simple. You decide upon one key quality that you need to develop in order to accomplish one key goal that you want to accomplish. Then every single day, you work simultaneously on developing that quality and on taking steps toward the accomplishment of that goal. Once you put the ball into play, you keep the game going, every single day, without stopping.<br />
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Let’s say that your goal is to become financially independent. To do this, you have to pay off all of your existing debts and build up a cash reserve of three to six months of living expenses. When you reach that point, your entire personality will change. You’ll be more clearheaded, you’ll be more positive, you’ll be more determined, you’ll be more optimistic, you’ll be a finer and better human being when you absolutely know that you’re not dependent upon anyone for your living expenses. You’ll be able to choose the job you want to do and go to the places you want to go. You won’t have to tolerate any situation that you do not enjoy or that you feel isn’t the best use of your personal potential.<br />
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If you simultaneously work on strengthening your self-discipline and using it to achieve the goal of financial independence, you’ll become a better, stronger and more powerful human being. You’ll cast off the bonds of helplessness and begin to feel that there’s nothing in the world that you can’t do or be or have.<br />
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When you set clear goals or objectives for yourself, when you dream big dreams and then determine to become the kind of person who’s capable of achieving the kind of goals that you want to achieve, you convince yourself, at a deep, subconscious level, that you’re absolutely unstoppable. You realize at last that nothing in the world can hold you back except your own thinking, and you don’t even let your own thinking limit your potential.<br />
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If you learn to be powerful and develop self-confidence by working progressively, every day, toward becoming the kind of person you want to be, and toward living the kind of life you want to live, you’ll unlock the giant within you, and it will never go back inside.<br />
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<b>Believing in Yourself</b><br />
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In her wonderful book You Can Heal Your Life, Louise Hay says that each one of us has feelings of inferiority that are manifested in the conclusion that we are not good enough. We think that we are not as good as other people, and we feel that we are not good enough to acquire and enjoy the things that we want in life. Very often, we feel that we don’t deserve good things. Even if we do work hard and achieve some worthwhile objectives, we believe that we are not really entitled to our successes, and we often engage in behaviors that sabotage our successes.<br />
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The fact is that you deserve every good thing that you are capable of acquiring as the result of the application of your talents. The only real limitation on what you can be and have is your absence of desire. If you want something badly enough, nothing in the world can stop you from getting it, if you are willing to persist long enough and hard enough. Over and over, we find that our beliefs, more than anything else, act as the brakes on our capacities. We have high hopes and dreams and aspirations, but we let doubts creep in and undermine our competence and effectiveness.<br />
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You need to develop your beliefs about yourself to the point where they serve you every day in every way. Men and women who accomplish extraordinary things are just ordinary people who developed themselves mentally to the point where they were able to overcome the obstacles that stood in their way, and they kept on keeping on until the goal was attained.<br />
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Psychologist William James of Harvard University said that beliefs create the actual fact. The reason for this is because we always act in a manner consistent with our innermost beliefs and convictions. If you believe yourself capable of accomplishing good things, you will walk and talk and act like it. Your behaviors will actually make your beliefs a reality.<br />
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The most harmful beliefs that you can have are what we call self-limiting beliefs. These are beliefs about yourself, most of which are not true; but they hold you back nonetheless.<br />
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Sometimes you, or others, will say that you cannot achieve certain goals because you did not get enough education. Sometimes you will say that it is because of your gender or race or age or the state of the economy.<br />
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Many people blame their parents or their bosses or their families or their current relationships for their failure to make progress in life. Others say that there is no opportunity in their particular area or their particular field. Some complain because they have no money. Others complain because they received poor grades in school or did not go to, or finish, college. Still others say that they have never had a natural talent or ability for a particular field.<br />
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The humorist Josh Billings once said, It ain’t what a man knows what hurts him. It’s what a man knows what ain’t true. It isn’t the actual truth about yourself and your abilities that hurts you; it’s the things that you consider to be true and that have no basis in truth.<br />
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The starting point to change your beliefs is to get up the courage to question them seriously. Question your basic premises. Check your assumptions. Ask yourself, What assumptions am I making about myself or my situation that might not be true?<br />
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It’s a fact that we fall in love with our excuses and our assumptions. We fall in love with our reasons for not moving ahead. Even if someone comes along and challenges those reasons, even if someone tells you that you have the capacity to accomplish marvelous things, you will argue with him. If someone tells you that you can do far better than you’re doing right now, you will come up with reasons to dispute this person’s greater belief in your potential.<br />
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The author Richard Bach wrote this beautiful line: Argue for your limitations, and sure enough, they’re yours. Very often, we become the prosecuting attorney in the case against ourselves. We dispute and argue and attempt to prove to ourselves and others that our limitations are real. And the less justification these ideas or beliefs have, the more adamant we become in attempting to prove them to others.<br />
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<b>What Beliefs Might You Have That Are Holding You Back?</b><br />
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Think about them. Remember, most of our self-limiting beliefs have no basis whatsoever in fact. They are based on information and ideas that we have accepted as true, sometimes in early childhood, and to the degree to which we accept them as true, they become true for us.<br />
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Your beliefs about reality are based on a thousand influences, many of which began even before you were aware of what was going on. You have beliefs that are deep and beliefs that are shallow. Deep beliefs, with regard to your religion or your political party or your family, or especially yourself, are very hard to change. Shallow beliefs are easily changed. And many of your beliefs are in fact very shallow. They have no substance to them whatsoever. If you challenge them hard enough, you’ll find that they are made of tissue paper. They’ll simply blow away.<br />
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You can always tell what your true values and beliefs are by looking at your actions. It isn’t what you say or wish or hope or intend that demonstrates what you really believe. It’s only what you do. It’s only the behaviors that you engage in. It’s only the actions that you choose to undertake. Your values and beliefs are always expressed in your actions and behaviors.<br />
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And out of your actions come all of the elements of your life. You are where you are what you are because of what you’ve said and done in the past.<br />
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The wonderful thing is this. Each of us is in a state of becoming. Many years ago, a great teacher of mine said that each human being is a becomingness. You are constantly evolving toward the fulfillment of your individual possibilities. You can become anything you want by sitting down at the keyboard of your own mental computer and beginning the process of programming in new beliefs.<br />
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To develop beliefs that serve your life better than your current beliefs, decide exactly where you want to end up sometime in the future. Dr. Roberto Assagioli calls this you ideal result. Robert Fritz, in his book The Path of Least Resistance, calls this your future vision. The clearer you are about your ideal result or future vision, the easier it is for you to alter your actions and behaviors in the short term to assure that you get where you want to be in the long term.<br />
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Once you’ve clearly decided on the person you would like to become, you are on the path toward developing new beliefs. You then discipline yourself each day to behave exactly as you would if you were already that person.<br />
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That simple technique, the act as if technique, is extraordinarily powerful. The more you act like the person you want to be, the more consistent your attitude will be with that person’s. Your attitude will have the back-flow effect of affecting your expectations. Positive expectations will have the back-flow effect of building beliefs that are consistent with them. And your beliefs will exert an influence on your values.<br />
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You have no limitations on your potential except for those that you believe you have. Remember this wonderful little poem: If you think you’re beaten, you are. If you think you dare not, you don’t. If you would like to win, but think you can’t, It’s almost certain you won’t. Life’s battles don’t always go To the stronger or faster man, But sooner or later the man who wins Is the man who thinks he can.<br />
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People succeed not because they have remarkable characteristics or qualities. The most successful people are quite ordinary, just like you and me. Most of us start off poor and confused. We spend many years getting some sort of direction in our lives. But the turning point comes when we begin to believe that we have within us that divine spark that can lead us onward and upward to the accomplishment of anything that we really want in life.<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-22661523433470483952012-05-30T11:12:00.000-04:002012-10-01T20:56:40.032-04:00Three Powerful Breakthrough Life Changing ActionsMake these Three Breakthrough Actions part of your life and positive things will begin rapidly coming into your life. These Three Breakthrough Actions will change your life and bring you what you’ve been missing.<br />
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<b>Practice these Three Actions and watch what happens.</b><br />
<b>The First Breakthrough Action.</b><br />
Let go of your non-love feelings.<b> </b><br />
Pay attention to what you’re saying, thinking and doing. Watch all the time. Stay awake to what’s happening. Be on the lookout all the time. When you see some non-love thought, you stop it. When you see some non-love feeling, you stop it. When you see you’re taking some non-love action, you stop it.<br />
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<b>If what you’re thinking, feeling, saying or doing is negative, end it. Stop it.</b><br />
If I hand you a red-hot poker you drop it in a split second, right? Non-love feelings, words, thoughts, actions, all those are hot pokers. Drop them. Non-love, not-liking, disapproval, negativity is burning up your life just like a red-hot fireplace poker burns up your hand.Drop the non-love feelings like you would drop a hot poker.<br />
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<b>Here’s the test. Is it negative? Then, it’s non-loving and hurting your life. Drop it.</b><br />
<b>The Second Breakthrough Action.</b><br />
Hold in mind what you want. Hold in mind means what you keep in your mind. Hold in mind means the thoughts and feelings that occupy your mind all the time.<br />
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You get what you hold in mind. Whatever is occupying your mind, your thoughts and your feelings, is what you manifest in the material world. It’s the law of attraction.<br />
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Positive attracts positive, negative attracts negative. Love attracts love. Non-love attracts more non-love. Love is the same energy as positive, success, abundance, health, money, peace.<br />
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If you hold in mind “I can’t,” you’re right, you can’t. If you hold in mind “I don’t have it,” you’re right, you don’t have it and you aren’t going to have it. You’re holding the wrong thing in mind. You’re holding in mind what you don’t want.<br />
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Fake it until you make it. Stop thinking you don’t have it. Hold in your mind only what you want. Prove it to yourself. Make a good effort. What do you have to lose? If I’m right you get to have everything.<br />
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If I’m wrong, you’re no worse off. Here is a little hint: If it doesn’t work, it’s because your mind talked you out of doing it. Your mind talked you out of making a decision. Your mind talked you out of being determined and persistent. You (like everyone else on the planet) have spent your entire life collecting non-love feelings.<br />
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It’s likely to take some time to get all of them out. However, it’s worth it because, if you work at it, if you do it, it will work. You will notice changes happening the very first week if you are persistent. Hold in mind what you want.<br />
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<b>Here’s another hint: </b><br />
You can easily see what you’re holding in your mind. Watch what you’re saying all the time. Watch what you’re thinking. And, you can see what you’re holding in your mind by paying attention to your feelings.<br />
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Now remember, this is not about affirmations. This is not about hanging signs around your house and car. This is about holding in mind what you want. You do that by dropping thoughts, words or feelings which express what you don’t want.<br />
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<b>The Third Breakthrough Action.</b><br />
Make a commitment to be positive and loving, in spite of what’s happening. Decide: “I’m going to be positive and loving in spite of whatever is happening.” Make that your motto.Be positive in spite of what happens. You live your life automatically reacting with emotions you learned as a two-year-old child.<br />
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You’re not two years old anymore, but you’re still doing the same thing. End the habit of automatically reacting. It’s just a decision. Something happens that seems to be negative. You react. You leave the present moment and you go off. Does that ever solve anything?<br />
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Anger, breaking into hysteria, feeling bad because someone gave you a dirty look? Negative, non-love behavior doesn’t do anything for you except make you more negative and non-loving.<br />
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It never solves anything. It never helps anything. I know you see that. I know you agree with me, because you have experienced it yourself many, many times. Make a decision. I am going to be loving and positive in spite of whatever happens.<br />
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Remember the hot poker? Begin by letting go of the hot poker called negative, non-loving reactions. Try it. Prove it to yourself. Be positive and loving in spite of whatever happens, whatever is going on, whatever they’re doing or saying. Be positive and loving and watch what happens.<br />
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When you’re positive and loving in spite of whatever, you’re moving over to the side of love. Love conquers all. Love transforms. Love is the answer.<br />
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Adopt the Three Breakthrough Actions. Practice them. Don’t listen to your mind trying to talk you out of it. You’re in the right place at the right time. Take action. Be loving. Let go of the non-love feelings.<br />
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<b>Practice the Three Breakthrough Actions:</b><br />
<b>1.</b> Let go of your non-love feelings.<br />
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<b>2.</b> Hold in mind what you want.<br />
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<b>3.</b> Be positive and loving in spite of whatever happens<br />
You will be the happiest and you will have everything. Prove it to yourself. I always thought good luck was something mysterious that happened to people for no good reason. Now I understand.<br />
Now I see that luck is loving yourself. I proved that to myself because I started having great luck. All kinds of things started falling in my lap when I started loving myself and everyone else. Now I live a life of good luck. Uncanny good things are happening for me all the time now. And will for you also.<br />
James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467926226404122831.post-12668670395992827342012-05-16T21:02:00.000-04:002012-10-01T20:56:01.460-04:007 Keys to Having a Positive AttitudeWhy do some people have such a great attitude and others a negative one? Well, I wondered the same thing and through my research I found seven keys that those with a positive mental attitude all share. How do you rate?<br />
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<strong>1) Choose Your Attitude in Advance:</strong><br />
When you wake up, you have a choice. You can be in a good mood or a bad mood. You also choose your attitude. You can wake up and mutter to yourself, "This is gonna be a cruddy day," or you can tell yourself, "This is gonna be a great day!" This choice is the start of a great attitude.<br />
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<strong>2) Visualize Success:</strong><br />
Runners in the Boston Marathon picture themselves crossing the finish line. Picture yourself having a successful day. Self-visualization is a key factor in having a positive mental attitude. Will it work 100% of the time? I wish it would. However, by visualizing your success, you'll be able to have a better handle on what does happen, and having a better chance of making it happen.<br />
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<strong>3) Demonstrate Humor, Energy, and Enthusiasm:</strong><br />
We call these three items the magic ingredients. Without them, creating a positive mental attitude will be difficult. There is normally humor in every situation. Finding it is key. Sometimes you'll need to stretch and dig a little deeper to find the humor in a situation. But once you do, you'll feel so much better. Energy is important because without some energy in your attitude, you'll be dragging behind everyone. Energy is closely related to the third ingredient, enthusiasm. Enthusiasm is contagious; let's start an epidemic!<br />
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<strong>4) Resist Negative Influences:</strong><br />
It's a fact. When we have a negative experience with a company, we'll tell more people about it than if we have a good experience with the same company. Many times, when you hear that someplace wasn't very good, you'll believe the person who told you and choose not to do business with that company. However, you may only be hearing half the story. Check things out for yourself. Especially if the negativity involves a person you work with or know. We've all heard negative things about someone we didn't know and then when we had the opportunity to meet them ourselves, we find that they're not as bad as someone had alluded to. In fact they might be nice, but you need to be the judge. Take negativity out of your life. Steer clear of those who drag you down and say negative things. Being around other positive people is a good start.<br />
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<strong>5) Be a Whatever-it-Takes Person:</strong><br />
This means, be a problem solver. Life is going to put obstacles in front of all of us. How we go around those obstacles is key. There's normally a good answer to every problem put in front of us. Dale Carnegie said it best. Ask yourself, "What is the worst thing that can happen here?" Then move up from that.<br />
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<strong>6) Embrace Change:</strong><br />
Expect it and Accept it: Some people are very good at handling change and some resist it. The major key to handling change is to accept it; deal with it. In most cases there's little we can do to stop it anyway.<br />
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<strong>7) Be Grateful for What You Have:</strong><br />
Many people have so much and yet those same people are often the ones that constantly complain. Why wait for some life-altering experience to be grateful? Be grateful, now.<br />
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These are the seven keys to having a positive mental attitude. Put them into practice and you will be amazed at the difference they can make.<br />
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James BoehmJames Boehmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08966084123697674953noreply@blogger.com0